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While DH and I have prayed and decided to send 2 of our kids to school, we are hemming and hawing about a third.
This child ("Star") has expressed no interest in going. What I find most challenging about HSing Star is getting Star simply to do the work. It takes so much out of me mentally most days.
Star is a huge help at home with siblings, and a delight all around. Just come schoolwork and I'm left exhausted every day.
Advice?
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I suspect you'd have the same problem sending this child to school. Since you'd still have to spend time getting said child to do the homework.
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How old is Star? Is this a maturity or lack of issue? or a personality trait?
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It might also be approach? Some of mine love reading while others hate it and would rather do crafts, lapbooks, legos... One of mine didn't like school at home but loved it in a group environment. Do you have an idea as to what motivates Star (when helping around house)?
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Meant to add that I'm praying for your discernment!
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Yes, age, personality and learning style are major factors. I would try to figure those out first and see what that looks like (big picture) before making a major decision like sending him/her to school.
A couple of years ago, I was at my wit's end about a child and threatened constantly that I was going to send this child to school. I'm so glad I didn't, because now this very same child is starting to display some real maturity and a difference in attitude that I couldn't have foreseen 2 years ago. Just really needed the time to grow. BUT. I know it's a tough decision and I'm not saying all your child needs is time -- you would know best.
Praying for your discernment!
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I agree too that age could be playing a factor. This is always a hard decision to make.
I'll add you to my prayers as well!
Perhaps 'Star' will soften to the idea? Maybe once the 3 of them are off to school 'Star' will be more accepting know that he/she is not going alone into this new way of school?
Are these three you are considering sending all close in age? That might be a comfort for each of them too knowing they can be close together out at school?
Maybe the best way to look at it is one year at a time? The same advice we get as home schoolers?
Prayers!!!
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Or, maybe when the others are away at school for much of the day, Star will *come into her own* and really commit to doing her schoolwork at home.
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JodieLyn wrote:
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Yep. I had this with my oldest dc when he was younger. Some kids are just not ready to sit down and do schoolwork, period, and sending them to school will only highlight that and make their situation worse, at least this was our experience. I do not know the ages of your dc or even this dc's age, but assuming your dc are young, please know that in most instances, this is a developmental phase that they are going through and it will usually change as time goes on.
It took my oldest ds until the middle of 9th grade, but all of a sudden, his motivation with his schoolwork just took off. This year, he graduated from high school (our first homeschool graduate) and, as a high school student who is dual enrolled at our local community college, not only did he earn his high school diploma, but he also received notification that he has been placed on the "President's List", which is the highest honors offered at the community college each semester for students whose GPA is 3.76 or higher. He was also invited to join the national honor society for junior college students. I think there are numerous moms who could tell you similar stories about one or more of their dc who at a young age just did not have any interest in organized school work.
My advice - homeschool her. Choose curricula that will fit her, and that, as Charlotte Mason advised, includes brief yet meaty lessons so that she has the time to spend engaging in the things of childhood.
Hope this helps!
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