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Help! Dh's Christmas party is Saturday night, on my little guy's 2nd birthday. Dh's company generously pays for the employees to stay in the hotel where the party is rather than everyone drive home. It would be a nice little "night off" from the kids. However, my little guy still nurses through the night. I am worried about leaving him with my mom for a whole night.
Last year, we brought two older kids to watch him in the hotel, and dh is willing to do that again. I would rather try to get him night-weaned and sleeping through the night by the end of the week. Not just for the sake of the party, but for the fact that I REALLY need a full night's sleep! After all, it's been two full years!
Anyway, I put the porta-crib in my room, hoping to get him to sleep in it and hopefully not wake up. It didn't work last night at all.
Any suggestions, tricks, encouragement? I have only intentionally weaned one other child, another 2 year old boy ten years ago! And he had a baby sister.
I love attachment parenting, but sometimes I think I end up over my head. 
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Try, try again?
Keep trying over the next few nights and have the back up plan 
I had to wean one at 4 ish--because I was just done! 
It was hard and consistency was the key. She was 4 so I could be consistent. But it was tough.
At 2 I'd try but have the back up plan because my Momma heart can only take so much crying and fussing. And if not, it is only one night right? He will be OK with siblings to be there for him and love on him because mom is gone. Hope you have fun!
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Well it wasn't easy for my mom though she made it sound easier than I bet it was.. but she's the one that kept my little guy when I was in the hospital this summer. He had only just turned 1 and still nursed several times at night.. apparently he'd start to fuss and she'd just get up with him and give him a sippy cup with water and he'd settle back down. They do know when mom isn't there and will often settle better for someone else when mom isn't available.
Would you be so far away that you couldn't just try it and if he just won't settle you come and pick him up? Or have him brought to you?
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I weaned my dd at night when she was about 2 (I was pregnant and at wits end) by having dh sleep with her in the guest bed. It was a trying night for both, but she didn't ask to nurse at night anymore after that. He'd offer her a sippy cup when she'd wake. She'd cry a little and then go back to sleep.
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I would just go and enjoy yourself A little couple time is very important and it is only one night ...at least with my kids they sleep all night for g-ma despite what they have done everynight for the past 2 years to me . 2 kids took up right where they left off after being gone 1-2 nights and 2 were done after a night or 2 without me. Have fun. Annie
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I have learned that when they are sleeping right next to you, nursing babies tend to wake and want to nurse more. They smell you  ! I'm not joking either! So you might try moving the baby away from the bedroom, then if baby fusses offer water in a cup and see if that settles him down. I did wean mine at night using the cup/bottle of water trick; most of the time they went right back to sleep. They just wanted a cuddle.
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Thanks, Ladies! I think I will try to sleep somewhere else tonight and see if he will go back to sleep without me there. When he woke up last night, he was looking over dh's shoulder to see if I was in the bed.
Either way, I think I will leave him Saturday night. My older kids can manage with a night of poor sleep. Besides, if things got really bad, we will only be about 15 minutes away. Although, I hear it is going to be very cold that night. So, he had better really need me before they call!
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Molly--Just another vote of encouragement to go ahead and try it either way. I left a nursing two year old for a night for a similar situation and he gave my mil very little problems...he slept, when he woke, she rocked him back to sleep. The next night, he was right back where he left off with me. It might have been nice if he had decided to wean altogether then, but that night was worth the effort because it was important to my dh that I go with him.
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Molly leave them a list of "have you tried..?" like.. did you try changing his diaper, did you try giving him a cracker, did you try giving a cup of warm milk instead of water, etc etc. so that they don't call you when they're just flustered and can't remember what to try.
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He won't need me at all until he wakes up in the middle of the night. The kids put him to sleep at night usually, and when I go out somewhere, he waves goodbye like a big kid. 
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awwww attachment parenting at work.. and "they" say they'll never learn to be independent
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When Philip was 2 and still nursing CONSTANTLY at night we went away for an overnight. He did just fine. He slept with his big brother, fussed briefly each night, but settled fine.
After that weekend, my oldest took it upon himself to get Philip night weaned. It was great for all of us!
Go for it and enjoy!
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Go for it!! Hooray for your mom's willingness to watch your kids. Focus on just you & your husband, and your kids will reap the benefits!! Have fun!
Oh, and I've had to take a different approach to night weaning - me & the toddler sleep in the guest bedroom so that any crying doesn't wake up dh. That way the toddler knows that mommy is still there - it's just that he can't nurse.
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