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domchurch3
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Posted: Oct 04 2008 at 3:36pm \| IP Logged

So I guess I've entered my nesting phase because the disordered parts of my home (remodeling in livingroom and my daughter's room) is really starting to wear on my nerves. I really want to simplify things with our son when he's born. My husband and I only buy my daughter toys at Christmas, Easter and birthdays. The rest of it comes from her grandparents whose primary love language is giving gifts. It used to be so easy when she was little. I had a system where I would get rid of stuff before another holiday came. But now she's 6 and refuses for me to go through her bedroom to donate anything. Her primary love language is gift giving too and she does not want to let go of anything her grandparents have given her. Our parents will find out that she likes something and then give her 10 or more of similar things, like beanie babies and Build-A-Bear factory stuff or music water globes. We don't know what to do. The only 2 ideas I've come up with is to gather up all the stuff her grandparents have given her and put it in their toyboxes at their houses. I think this might help them not to buy so much because they don't want it in their houses. And out of sheer desperation, I've thought about maybe paying her 25 cents for every toy she's willing to give up. Asking her to donate out of the goodness of her heart didn't do any good, in fact, that just backfires because she ends up resenting the poor. Please don't think I'm a terrible mother for coming up with these ideas. I'm dealing with someone who's the opposite of myself. I give lots of things away, even if I think I may need them because I don't like clutter. Any suggestions?

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Posted: Oct 04 2008 at 3:40pm \| IP Logged

The only 2 ideas I've come up with is to gather up all the stuff her grandparents have given her and put it in their toyboxes at their houses. I think this might help them not to buy so much because they don't want it in their houses. And out of sheer desperation, I've thought about maybe paying her 25 cents for every toy she's willing to give up. ?[/QUOTE]

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Dawnie
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Posted: Oct 04 2008 at 9:43pm \| IP Logged

What about rotating the toys she has in her bedroom?

Example: have her pick 2 or 3 music water globes to keep on her dresser, put the rest in a box in a storage area. Then, let her pick a different 2 or 3 music water globes in a month or two and put the ones that were on her dresser in storage. Do the same thing with her toys. I do this with my kids. I only let them have what will fit on a small bookshelf in their bedrooms. The rest is in toy closet downstairs. They can trade the toys in their bedrooms for toys in storage. Toys do end up migrating upstairs from the supply closet downstairs...but it's a lot more manageable than having ALL their toys up here.

Also, it might be easier for your daughter to decide to donate some toys if, after a few months of this system, she realizes that there are some toys that she really doesn't ever play with. If she leaves a toy in storage for 6 months or a year, will she really miss it if she donates it? Just a thought...

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Posted: Oct 06 2008 at 9:02am \| IP Logged

And, I'll add to what Dawn said, if you know she's not picked something out in a year, you can get rid of it yourself. If she's not noticed it "missing" and asked for it in that length of time, then chances are, she won't notice it if it isn't there at all....

I think that Dawn's idea might be a good way of weaning her off of her "stuff"...

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