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Martha in VA
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Posted: June 06 2008 at 10:23am \| IP Logged

We pray almost daily that the Lord will add children to our family and as the months pass, it's becoming more and more apparent that these "additions" won't come through my own womb. More recently, we've been researching international adoption but have also had a strong sense that we might find ourselves surprised by an unexpected domestic situation. That situation may have come up. This is what I'd like to know from those of you who have done private domestic adoption:

We haven't had a homestudy done. Do we need one with private adoptions?

I'm assuming we would need a lawyer who is familiar with these matters.

What else should we know?

Thanks and if you think of it, pray for the Lord's will in this situation.

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Posted: June 06 2008 at 1:51pm \| IP Logged

Martha in VA wrote:

We haven't had a homestudy done. Do we need one with private adoptions?

yes

Martha in VA wrote:

I'm assuming we would need a lawyer who is familiar with these matters.

yes

Martha in VA wrote:

What else should we know?

You probably will need a Dear Birth MOther letter and family portfolio to show what your family looks like.

Martha in VA wrote:

Thanks and if you think of it, pray for the Lord's will in this situation.

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Posted: June 06 2008 at 2:12pm \| IP Logged

I think all the specifics will depend on the agency you use, or if you even use one. We adopted through Catholic Charities (no longer doing adoptions here in MA

)and didn't have to hire our own lawyer.

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Martha in VA
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Essy wrote:

I think all the specifics will depend on the agency you use, or if you even use one. We adopted through Catholic Charities (no longer doing adoptions here in MA

)and didn't have to hire our own lawyer.

I should clarify. We have learned of a pregnant young girl who does not want her baby. There is no agency involved. Therefore, we won't need a "Dear Birth Mother" letter and I'm also wondering if we even need a Homestudy.

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Posted: June 06 2008 at 3:16pm \| IP Logged

It may depend on your state. In Arizona, you would.

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Posted: June 06 2008 at 5:47pm \| IP Logged

Martha,
I do believe that you still need a homestudy here in VA....our family was recently blessed by being able to help find a wonderful Catholic family who is in the process of adopting a little one from a young lady in our parish. The baby is not due until Aug and their homestudy ran out in July so they are having to do something to extend it. This is a private adoption also. Both the birth mom and the adoptive parents are here in VA.

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Posted: June 06 2008 at 9:06pm \| IP Logged

Martha in VA wrote:

In my state, I need an agency even if I find a birth mother. We also needed lawyers.

A homestudy gives you a license to adopt. I'm pretty sure that is standard.

If adoption is formalized in a court (ours were), I guess a lawyer would be necessary. Isn't that standard?In our case, the domestic, private adoption was considered foster to adopt until we made it to court. (It took 8 months for one adoption and 19 for another.)

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