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Okay, first of all, let me tell you how much I love my little guy and try hard to cherish each day. But, by golly, I think he is spoiled!
The first 3 months or so, he was colicky. He had just heart-breaking cries that I couldn't sooth. Now, just shy of five months, he cries when put down or held by anyone but me. Almost that same cry as when he had colic. But, as soon as I touch him, before I even pick him up, he stops. Sometimes he even smiles!
This is really getting ridiculous. He only sleeps when snuggled up to me. I can't shower without him screaming for the person holding him. Today, I have a sick 2 yr old with a high fever and needing me. But the poor thing can't get me to herself for five minutes.
Any suggestions? I am way too soft to let him cry.  Someone forgot to tell him that #8 can't always be held.
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Hi,
Have tried using a baby-pack with your little guy?
God bless,
Mary-Ny
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My "baby"(#10) turned 2 on May 3, and I think she has been sleeping in her own bed for about one month. Before this, she had to sleep laying on my pillow and holding onto my hair. 
I don't think I put her down until she could walk at about 12 months. (not kidding)
Sorry, I have no suggestions, only memories of times not to long ago.
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Mary K wrote:
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Have tried using a baby-pack with your little guy?
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I am trying to learn to wear him on my back in a Kozy Carrier. I wear him on my front all the time. The especially trying times, though, are when I need to hold someone else, or the occasional shower.
Probably the most frustrating thing is that rare moment that he is content on the floor or in his Bumbo and some little person decides to give him some love!
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teachingmyown wrote:
Any suggestions? I am way too soft to let him cry. Someone forgot to tell him that #8 can't always be held. |
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Have you considered having #9?  That always makes the youngest grow up a little faster! 
Seriously, I feel for the poor guy. You've been his only comfort (even when you thought you couldn't soothe him) - so much so that he probably still thinks you two are one person.
I'm sure that the more times you naturally can't hold him (like showers! and sick toddlers) will slowly acclimate him. But he's young yet, Molly, and had real needs as a newborn. That takes longer to understand he's not an only child than the placid, easy baby has to learn.
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Molly,
I know it's not easy, and when in the middle of it we can't always see the 'beauty' of it. I'm gonna say that I don't think he's spoiled one bit - I think he recognizes good when he sees it! ;) He doesn't have the agenda and timelines that you do, he can't understand why sometimes Mama can hold him and sometimes Mama can't.
Two pieces of advice - 1. Learn a back carry. Give it time, make it work. Back carries are a life saver!!!! 2. Enjoy it. Lower standards and accept this for what it is right now. When the 2 year old is sick and the baby is clingy, lay a quilt and some pillows on the floor and stay there with both of them and snuggle, nurse, read books, etc... let the house fall apart around you, that doesn't matter, you are doing what is important.
Read what Joann said - this lasted for two years with her little one, but now it is a memory. Think of how you want to remember this time, kwim?
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He's so little. Ok...you could stop showering!
I have only two children six years apart so no concrete advice from me.
My only thing to tell you is someday this boy will be a 43 year old man and will love you most ardently. You will be a treasure to him. When you get sick he will be by your bedside, he will pray for you and with you, tell you every time he talks to you how much he loves you and you will know you always have a place in his life, his home and his heart...
This I know...I live with #8 and his Mom is his first love. Their relationship is so beautiful...  (happy ones)
God love you...you can't spoil him and those cries are awful at this young age...hope your two year old feels much much better soon...
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Okay, okay, I get it! It was just a rough day. And my dh is getting frustrated by a baby who screams in his arms. But... I KNOW how precious this time is, really I do. I am working on the back-carry and we spent alot of time just the three of us (baby, 2 yr old and me) lying on the couch.I was in the middle of a major purging project, so the house did in fact fall apart all around me!
I still think he is spoiled, but that's my job!
I do have to say that it is quite comical though the way he almost giggles when I touch him. That's love! 
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Oh, and Tami, I will see what I can do about #9.
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I do have to say that it is quite comical though the way he almost giggles when I touch him. That's love!
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OH isn't that the BEST!! :) MB does this too, and I melt, I absolutely melt!
I know you knew all this already! :) It's hard to see it when in the thick of it, I know!
Marybeth, what you wrote it just beautiful! It is my prayer to have that kind of relationship with my children.
*edited to fix my quotes...
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Marybeth, that's beautiful.
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