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Posted: April 19 2008 at 12:39pm | IP Logged Quote PDyer

Suppose you know a prepubescent boy who has a crush on a girl. Say he's had a crush on this girl for oh, a couple of years. Say you find initials and hearts inscribed on the interior of your car. Say you've known about the crush and it's been a past topic of discussion with said boy, but you're seeing an increase in the intensity and hmmmm....clarity to onlookers...of these sort of external indications of fondness as time goes on.

Other than the obvious cleaning job the inscription would require, is there anything else you would do about this? Say about this to the boy in question?

Inquiring minds want to know.

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Posted: April 19 2008 at 8:00pm | IP Logged Quote Philothea

I have absolutely no advice as my oldest son is not quite 4, but I saw that almost 50 people have seen this and no one has responded, so I wanted to let you know I'll say a prayer for wisdom for you and protection for your young boy's heart.
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Posted: April 19 2008 at 8:20pm | IP Logged Quote PDyer

Thank you...I'm really quite surprised, maybe unnerved? at the duration of this crush, and concerned at how open he's being about it. He's a sensitive boy...

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Posted: April 19 2008 at 8:36pm | IP Logged Quote guitarnan

I would acknowledge the crush's existence - again - suggest a journal rather than a car's interior for inscription purposes (maybe I'd even provide the journal), and have Dad talk with ds about dating, in terms of when you, the parents, believe it's appropriate, and what to do in the meantime (pray for future wife, etc.).

Some crushes do last a very long time. It's more about making clear what to do with those intense feelings, I think...

...and I am hoping others can chime in.

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