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i am anxious to get us back on track. We all need mom to recover here. Maria will be 3 weeks old tomorrow. She is nursing and sleeping great! But by the end of each day I am bleeding and cramping again.
Several children ago we had baptized and gone on vacation at this point. I'm probably not being patient enough. I'm too old to drop a baby and keep working in the fields. 
How long do others give themselves to recover? Any secret remedies to speed it up?
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I just responded to your post on MP, but I'll go ahead and post here too in case that doesn't go through. (yahoo has been treating me really weird the last week or so.)
That 3rd week, it's normal to have what seems to be a regression to after birth symptoms. Doesn't have anything to do with how many you've had or your age.
Pick the 1 or 2 major things driving you the most batty and work on getting those back on track. The laundry? then sit and fold or supervise a kid doing it. Kids need to get back to homework? Dictate from the recliner while you feed.
Work from the desk so to speak as much as you can. Then vernture from there a little more each week to slowly tackle the more pressing needs you can't rest to do.
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If you were on vacation 3 weeks postpartum, then you recover much more quickly than I do! I don't usually even begin to feel like my old self till 8 weeks. I often feel worse at the third week than I do around days 7-10, but I have no idea why that is.
If you take it easy now, you will recover more quickly than if you push it, no matter how tempting it is to just do that "one more little thing." :-)
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I'm of the philosophy of midwifery - they won't let you do anything for two weeks, and try to get women to take it easy for the first 6 weeks. There is still huge recovery going on in the body. I was up and about with the first two like super woman just because I could and didn't want people to think childbirth was and illness, but have since felt that this other approach with more recovery time is best for the body and for mother and baby's time together. I know it's hard when there are other people in the family and there is a desire to be back to a routine and sense of normal.
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Okay, Bridget, do I have to follow you around the internet to yell at you!
You are not being patient enough but I already told you that on another list, so I won't belabor the point. Please sit back and relax.
What you need is some outside help, meals, babysitting, etc. I am sure if you humble yourself to ask, your friends will be more than happy to help. I have had to badger friends who are postpartum until they admit that they need a break or a meal. We homeschoolers are fiercely independent, sometimes to a fault. Sometimes we let it get to the point of crying in our bathrooms from exhaustion rather than letting everyone know that we aren't superwomen.
Alright, I promised to go on again. I just don't want to see you push yourself!
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teachingmyown wrote:
Alright, I promised to go on again. I just don't want to see you push yourself! |
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Of course, I meant that I promised NOT to go on! 
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OK, OK, I'll quit running around the internet looking for a magic potion.
We did have 2 weeks of great meals and just when the leftovers ran out we got another one tonight and one coming tomorrow. My friends have all been great about helping me get the guys to soccer as well.
Honestly, I am so thrilled to have 7 children and a great, though slightly crabby husband, that I just want to get on with our lives and all the great plans swimming around in my head.
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Naomi will be a month old on Sunday. My bleeding stopped completely after 21/2 weeks, and then started back yesterday. The strange thing is that I think it is a period which would be a first for this full time nursing mom of 7! It feels like a period, and my son says that I am acting like it is a period! 
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Bridget,
I second what Mary said. My midwives didn't let me climb the stairs for 2 weeks. I started bleeding very heavy again after about 10 days. The last 3 babies I haven't taken my kids out anywhere for a month. I also asked my dh and older children to go shopping. It's good bonding time for them.  You've got to stay off your feet with these later kids (you're not quite as old as me but you're gettin' there )
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Bridget,
When I was pregnant with my first child I was bleeding heavily any time I ran around. I put my self on bed rest for three weeks and still I was bleeding a lot when I moved too much. I called the doctor and they were vague... but a long story short and a visit to the emergency room with a very unqualified intern who wanted to do a D&C  ... at around 6 weeks the doctor determined that the place where the placenta was joined to the uterous didn't heal well and needed more help (i.e. medicine) to get better. This is over 8 years ago so my memory on the exact medicine is a little fuzzy.
I'm just say that if your feeling like it's not going the way it should just call you doctor and talk out your concerns. They could have fixed it earlier, but they kept saying it was a period (I asked how long could a nursing mom have her period?  ). Well you get the idea. I just wanted to pass a long my .02 just so if your really having problems you don't just think it's all in you head.
I think everyone's advice was good and speaking from someone due in 3 months and will be where you are today I'll say just relax and don't push it (and you can remind me of this 4 months from now  ). If your yoke is too heavy then it's not the one God gave you. Go easy. Simplify. Let God provide.
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Okay, so, it took me 22 months before my c-section with my seventh stopped hurting so much that it interfered with daily activities....OTOH, I felt totally fine and up to pretty much anything nine days after ds 2 was born. Dh went out of town and I was on my own with two little ones. I remember feeling completely fine...
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No matter how easy the birth and how wonderful I feel afterwards, 3 weeks is always my hardest time. Dh has gone back to work by then, the meals are no longer coming and you feel a little guilty for not rising to the occassion. The more rest and good nutrition I get, the better. We all snuggled in bed and resumed read-alouds and Math (the children either played math games at the foot of the bed or brought books upstairs for help). The house got a little more dumpy for a while, but kept on top of dishes and laundry. If I did a good job of resting and eating well, then things were much smoother by 6 weeks, but things were not back to normal until about 3months. The hardest part when there are a bunch of children, is that there is a certain amount of inevitable transportation requirements and if I overdid this, I always ended up with a plugged milk duct/chills on the bed/sofa for 24 hours with baby and heating pad. Much more pleasant and even more efficient to take care of yourself in the first place. I don't remember how long the other went on but much longer than with my first, I guess I just didn't think about it as I just assumed it was due to not having the IV with the meds that cause contractions after birth. Our last baby was 11 pounds, but don't remember that making any difference (just a sore shoulder from having to lift 11 pounds to nurse - until putting a pillow under).
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