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My dear friend's daughter has been accepted to a cloistered monastery and will be leaving later this year to join them. I am so excited for her and her family!  However, this is a first for me ... what do you give a young lady as a "congratulations" gift who is going to live a life away from material things? Naturally, she has our prayers; but what can we do to send her off?
What do PARENTS usually do to send off their daughter to a cloistered monastery, knowing they will rarely see her (so I'm told)?
If anybody has experienced this, either as parent or as a friend, and can give suggestions, my friend and I would appreciate it!  Thanks!
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Maybe the gift of a party to say goodbye? Or ask the Mother Superior of her convent because I think taking a gift to the convent is often customary. I think, I would lean towards giving a gift in her name to a cause close to her heart.
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I have no clue what might be allowed.. but one of my first thoughts was stationary and stamps so that she could write to people to stay in touch. Maybe a phone card.. but again it would need to be something allowed by the order.
But I would think that you could contact the order and ask them? That would give you the best information.
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I would think she would appreciate knowing you were praying for her. Maybe an "ongoing" spiritual bouquet? Some kind of commitment to pray annually or monthly the Rosary or a Novena for her on a day that is special to her (First Friday, her patron saint's feast, or her birthday)?
I think one thing that might be hard about being cloistered is to think that everyone you knew before entering the order has gone on and forgotten all about you. With the gift of your prayer, she can be comforted to know you are holding her in your heart before the Lord.
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Generally the girl will be sent a list of the things she must bring with her to the convent. So sometimes they will set it up like a registry and you can purchase her something she needs off that list.
I have seen parents or parish give a going away party/wedding shower type party.
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JamieCarin wrote:
Generally the girl will be sent a list of the things she must bring with her to the convent. So sometimes they will set it up like a registry and you can purchase her something she needs off that list.
I have seen parents or parish give a going away party/wedding shower type party.
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My sister and I entered the convent when we were much younger, and this is exactly what happens. They give a trousseau and perhaps a list of books to bring, and other allowed items.
We had a going away party, which everyone brought gifts and allowed to give goodbyes.
Obviously, I didn't stay.
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We had a young lady in our home school group enter the convent and one of the mom's gave her a shower. It really was lovely. We presented her with spiritual bouguets but also with items that any group of women would need - soap, toothpaste, shampoo,stationary and such items like that. Take lots of pictures for the family - especially mom.
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