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Posted: Oct 21 2010 at 10:20am | IP Logged Quote Bethany

I was wondering if it is inappropriate to have a mass said for a non-Catholic? As I posted in the prayer requests, my grandfather just passed away. He was not Catholic, but was a Christian, could I have a Mass said for him?

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Posted: Oct 21 2010 at 12:42pm | IP Logged Quote JodieLyn

I don't see why not. I've had several people have masses said for my dad after he died and he was not Catholic.



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Posted: Oct 21 2010 at 2:35pm | IP Logged Quote Michaela

Yes. We had Mass said for my dad when he died. He wasn't Catholic and the priest knew it because dad cleaned the rectory for over a decade.

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Posted: Oct 21 2010 at 2:52pm | IP Logged Quote hylabrook1

I agree that a Mass would be perfectly appropriate. You are already praying for your grandfather's soul, right? The Mass is a particular kind of prayer. Especially since you have other family members who are Catholic, and so would appreciate what it means to have a Mass said for the soul of someone who has passed on, it would be a good idea.

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Posted: Oct 21 2010 at 8:12pm | IP Logged Quote KC in TX

Lots of people have had mass said for my SIL and she was not Catholic. It's a comfort for my brother who while lapsed is Catholic.

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Posted: Oct 22 2010 at 9:55am | IP Logged Quote stacykay

When my parents each passed away, we had two different priest friends who offered Masses for their souls. My parents were Episcopalian, and both of the priests knew that. I also had many friends send Mass cards for my parents, my mil had Gregorian Masses said for them.


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Posted: Oct 25 2010 at 9:28pm | IP Logged Quote Elena

I think it is appropriate and fine to have a mass said as well.

The only caution I would add is that if you have family members who are anti-Catholic, it might not be a good idea to share it with them. I have come across some non-Catholics who have taken offense to things like having a mass said or praying a rosary etc. The mass intention will be posted in the bulletin and that should be enough.

So sorry for the loss of your grandfather. May he rest in peace.

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Posted: Oct 25 2010 at 10:09pm | IP Logged Quote CatholicMommy

Our priest just gave a LONG homily on this very topic recently!

It is fine to have a Mass said for someone who is non-Catholic, but out of respect for their choice to NOT BE a Catholic, the Mass intention should not be publicly announced. IE it can say "intentions of the Smith family" or something along those lines. And it should be for the salvation of their souls, eternal rest, and the like - NOT for their conversion to the Faith, if that makes sense.


That is the summary of the long homily, without the candid stories to back up the points

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Posted: Oct 25 2010 at 10:30pm | IP Logged Quote guitarnan

Father Z (whose blog, What Does the Prayer Really Say?, is one of my favorites) addressed this very question recently and he says yes, by all means. We should pray and have Masses said for our beloved dead, regardless of their faith while they were alive with us on Earth.

Bethany, you are so sweet to think of doing this for your grandfather's soul.

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