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Can I request some prayers for peach about our financial situation? I quit working full time a few months ago and I've stayed on part time while they try to replace me. A few weeks ago, it looked like they had made no progress in replacing me so I found a nursery school for DD for a fe hours a week. But now it looks like a former employee is being considered and that person might be able to start ASAP. The school is expensive and we can't afford it on DH's salary.
We just moved and our moving expenses were more than I expected (e.g. the cat peed all over the mattress so we had to buy a new one) and DH just had to do some major car repairs to his car.
To make matters more complicated, back when DH and I went through our budget line by line to see if we could make it on his salary, he didn't mention that he had a 401K loan. I didn't notice it until I saw that his direct deposits were less than I expected. He took it out a few years ago without consulting me.
He's also paying a 2nd mortgage on a home he owned with his ex-wife as part of the divorce decree. When we made our decision for me to quit working, the expectation was that the ex was going to sell the house or rent it out because she was getting married. But DH thinks she's broken up with her fiance and is now living in the house. DH really needs to have a conversation with her about what they're going to do with the house but he seems to be avoiding it.
We've got money saved but I hate pulling money out of savings for monthly expenses because I know how quickly we could go through all of it and we're not in a position to be able to add to it.
Thanks!
Jenn
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And along with this prayer request also prayers for my relationship with my DH. I find myself blaming him for not making more money which is silly because he makes a good salary. But someone on FB just posted today about her executive husband getting another promotion. He probably makes about $500K a year. I blame him for the ex-wife too because he never should have married her but I've made plenty of mistakes myself (BTW, his first marriage was dissolved using the Pauline Privilege by the local Diocese).
I know in my heart that being with my DD is the best thing for her. Yesterday when I picked her up at school she was in tears because she had a bloody nose (weather change related I'm sure) and she told the teacher she just wanted Mommy. If I was working, I wouldn't have seen her until the end of the day. Little kids just want their Mommys. You can't tell them about college funds and 401Ks to get them to understand why Mommy isn't always there.
Jenn
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Jenn- I will pray for you and your family 
You are right on track- being with your dd is the best possible thing in the world. You can't put a price on it.
Comparison is a terrible thing. There will always be someone richer/prettier/thinner than you or me.
Conversely, even the richest people in the world get cancer, have car accidents, fight with their spouses, disappoint their families, make mistakes... money cannot buy happiness. But God can give help and peace to get you through.
Things like Facebook can be real joy-robbers. You are not the only one who gets zinged by it.
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Praying here, Jenn. And I agree with Melinda, the temptation to compare families can sap your joy. Find the blessings in your life, and focus there! I know how hard that can be.
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Praying here too. I will encourage you not to be concerned about college funds. The kids will make do. Our 9 children are all expected to shoulder the cost of college. When my husband's salary was cut quit a bit last year, the college kids qualified for grants and loans. However, they work 2 jobs in the summer to substantially cut down on debt.
Little children need their mother. It is a big plus to be able to help with college, but on our salary, it is an extra. Stick with the basics and let God take care of some of the future details.
Blessings,
Stephanie
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Praying for your family...our 2 older kids are in college and they have done it all on their own. The are so proud to do it on their own! Something to be said about the "desire" for one to go to college. Many parents are paying for their kids to have a big party at college.
Comparison, I agree is a dangerous trap. May the Lord grant you the richness of his love in your family and in your daily life.
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Praying for your intentions.
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Prayers for you all,
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Praying.
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