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To try to express the prayer request...Perhaps only an adult child of an alcoholic and an adult child of divorce will understand. My Mom came over here today, and said, "Well, I saw your Dad at the high school reunion today and I felt SO sorry for him. No one sat by him at all, he sat alone and I didn't see anyone even talk to him. And, I heard two people's comments, one person said, "Here comes trouble, and the other one said, "Here comes the weirdo." Now, yes, my Dad was an alcoholic, yes, my Dad has manic -depressive tendencies which led him to make some bad choices in life, yes, my Dad has been a bit of a womanizer etc. etc. So, he is a troubled guy who has made mistakes and in some cases, continues to cross boundaries. (mainly with his "colorful" way of looking at the world. But, he is still MY Dad. I cannot tell you the sorrow and horror I felt at thinking about my Dad sitting at a table....alone. I cannot tell you how much that wounded me. I have always felt a profound pity and sadness when it comes to my Dad, the divorce...always trying to hide my emotions from them when I was little because I was afraid they would suffer more if they saw me suffer so I cried alone..even though I was very little. Trying to "sell" my mom and dad to their "new" prospective spouses and trying to be fun, "good", and all that stuff. Sad because I can never go "home" although God has blessed me IMMENSELY with my own beautiful family. And then today, when I felt so shocked with sadness for him. There was no one, no one that would sympathize. No one that I could say to, "Wow. This really hurts." Perhaps an over reaction really to something that isn't evven that bad possibly??? My husband, sick of seeing me sad about him over the years, tries to sympathize, but in the end, the underlying sentiment that is always there is..."Well he deserves it...or well, he made his choices now he is paying for them." But, he is still my Dad, and it still hurts to think of him sitting there, alone, and people talking like that about him. So, I don't even know what to pray for, and I offered up the suffering I felt about him FOR him. What else is there to do. 
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Oh Kim,
Such pain and sorrow  . I know how you feel in so many different but similar ways. Please know you and your Mom and Dad will be in my prayers.
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I am so sorry. I know how much that has to hurt you. Of course you love your dad despite his faults. I'm sure you wish that he could turn his life around, but you still love him.
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I think you are a wonderful daughter for loving your father and wanting the best for him. If I may suggest something, perhaps praying for those people at the reunion might ease your heart a little, and it would surely help them as well. It's something very positive you can do for your father...because some people never try to see the good in others, while other people, like you, recognize that even with our flaws, we are all children of God. If you don't mind, I will pray for those people who avoided your father and ask that they have a change of heart.
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No words of wisdom but many prayers for you, your dad, for the others at the reunion (as Nancy suggested) and for much healing. Holy Spirit, come!
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Praying for this very special intention
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Dear Kim, praying for him and for all of his needs... For healing, for the Holy Spirit to intervene. And praying for your compassionate and loving heart!
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I'm so sorry, Kim. I don't have any words of wisdom, but I can sympathize with your pain- the divorce, the drinking, the womanizing. My dad is gone, but I miss him terribly and I know you love your dad so much. You are such an amazing and loving daughter. I wish there was something I could say that would ease your pain. I will offer many prayers for you and your beloved dad. Call me when you get a chance if you want to talk. I miss you.
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Thank you all for your prayers. I cannot tell you what a balm it was for me to hear words of comfort and understanding, but also to know that you holy women are praying for him. I cannot thank you enough. His name is Bert.
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Thank you, Ruth. You are a very dear and wonderful person and friend.
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Oh, and yes, praying for the people is a great idea. My Mom too since perhaps in some ways, she trys to validate her decision for leaving him all those years ago, although no one I know blames her in anyway due to the circumstances, but perhaps she is still wounded and questioning her choice?
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Mary 12, Gracie 10,
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Kim, praying for your dad, your mom, and you .
This is very hard. My dad has been sober for over 20 years now, but their choices and lifestyle seem to affect them forever. I pray for him all the time and for my mother who endured and stayed with him through it all.
We are not responsible for their choices. We can only be good children and show them compassion and offer our prayers.
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Praying, Kim!
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Praying for your intentions.
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Offering my prayers as well, Kim
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Kim,
I've been thinking of you so much since you posted your prayer request...and thinking of and praying for your most sincere intentions for your dad and mom. May Our Lord, who makes all things new, bring His grace and mercy to your heart and to your parents, offering the peace that surpasses all understanding.
What a beautiful and pleasing heart you have to so tenderly bring a parent, wounded as we all are, to us so that we could pray. I'm privileged to be able to pray for you and with you - in Him.
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Praying here, Kim.
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