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Liz D
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I could use any prayers that anyone could spare through the next week or so. I am feeling devastated because my father is not speaking to me. He says I offended him. I have apologized twice sincerely. This has happenned to me more than a few times in my teenage and adult life. Eventually (sometimes many months later) he lets it go. He never apologizes to me.
Anyways,I have a very busy week coming up which includes a trip to my parent's home state to my in-law's 50th wedding anniversary party which my parents have been invited to. I figure he won't show because I'll be there. It's just painful to me. I'm offering my pain up but am having great difficulty not being bitter and negative. I've been to confession. I want to be forgiving of him. I want to not let my pain affect my family.
I think I'm being pretty inarticulate so I'll close. Any prayers to help me make it through the week in a way that would be pleasing to Our Lord would be appreciated.
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Anne Marie M
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Liz,
I'll be praying for you - hope your week goes well.
Anne Marie
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This is so difficult, Liz. There is nothing worse than the "cold shoulder." I will be praying for you.
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Oh Liz,
I have a very dear friend who goes through these cycles with her father, too. And I know how she feels, so I'll be sure to offer some extra prayers for you.
And here's a little story we heard in yesterday's homily that is helping me to deal with my being upset with someone...Maybe it will help someone else out there...
The priest, Fr. John (name changed) tells of becoming VERY angry  with an acquaintance many years ago. Usually he internalizes his anger, but this time, he had it out with Bob. (He didn't tell us what the issue was, only that he was so very angry.) So angry in fact that he couldn't eat dinner and stewed in bed the entire night. He was due to say mass the next morning and before mass he prayed for peace and forgiveness, even though he felt he was "in the right"; knowing our Lord wouldn't want him to be so upset. He just couldn't shake the emotion of it all. When he got to the consecration, he couldn't get a word to come out of his mouth...  After a few seconds he heard, [Pause for effect ] "John. Don't you know Bob is my son also and that I love him, too?" Well, with tears streaming down his face, he continued with the consecration and was able to let go of the anger.
Thirty years later, he says they both probably still think they are right , but that this was something he often thought of in the years since.
God bless and Happy Memorial Day!
Angela
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Dear Liz,
Praying for you!
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Dear Liz,
Family issues can be so painful. I'll remember you in pray.
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Liz,
Praying for you. I am so sorry you are having to go through this with your father.
God bless you,
Marybeth
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Dear Liz,
Thank you for asking us to pray with you. St. Jospeh intercede for you. How painful this must be. Remember, before you were persecuted, Jesus was.
My friend and I were saying to one another that sometimes our parents show us how to parent by showing us how NOT to behave. Meaning, perhaps the pain is teaching you never to cold shoulder your own children (not that you would).
Praying!
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Thank you all so much!!! Your thoughtfulness to pray means so much. God bless you! Angela, your story about Fr. John is just what I have been trying to remember and then live it(so far very imperfectly). Thank you for sharing it. I am focusing very hard on the "forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us" part of the Our Father when I pray.Iam so touched by your responses. It was not easy to post the request. Thanks again.
Liz, leaving Va. for Ohio on Friday
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Praying for you, Liz. Family tensions can be, so, well, tense! Keeping you and your father in our prayers.
Kelly in FL
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