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Posted: Feb 13 2007 at 8:41am | IP Logged Quote MarilynW
... about same gender couples? A family member (married)adopting a child had a shower held for her by friends who are a same gender couple - there were to be several similar couples who have adopted there. I ended up not going ( was having contractions way too early ) I was dreading my 10 yo dd daughter asking me "mom how does M have 2 moms." Just not sure how to respond. She still is very sheltered and as far as she is concerned you need a 'mom and dad who are married to have kids'

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Posted: Feb 13 2007 at 10:12am | IP Logged Quote juststartn
I've not done so yet (my oldest is only 6.5)....but I may have to--one of DHs sisters is living in a "relationship" of that sort (thank goodness they have not added dc to the mix!). Fortunately, they live in AK....and we are in NC. We see her/them about every, oh, 4-5 yrs. So we shouldn't be up for another 3 yrs or so...

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Posted: Feb 13 2007 at 10:41am | IP Logged Quote Angie Mc
Pray for help from the Holy Spirit with your words first! I've answered as simply and to their questioning as possible. My goal is to not give more information than the child can handle...because I tend to be a talker, I really try to be careful with my words.

I try to focus on two things. The first is what God intends for families and why. God intends a man to marry a woman. They are to compliment each other. They are to be unitive and procreative. The second is that many people don't know (are confused about) what God intends or they reject what he intends. For this we need to pray for them.    

I've found it helpful to ask questions along the way to measure where they are at...What do you think?...Why do you ask?....How do mom and dad compliment each other?...How are some ways you've noticed people being confused about what God wants?...

Tough stuff, Marilyn. Praying all goes smoothly for you and your littles.

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Posted: Feb 13 2007 at 11:59am | IP Logged Quote marihalojen
Good advice, Angie!
This has been in the forefront of my mind lately. I know I'll need to address it soon, after all we'll be living in Key West, she's bound to have a few questions eventually.

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Posted: Feb 13 2007 at 4:28pm | IP Logged Quote MarilynW
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Pray for help from the Holy Spirit with your words first! I've answered as simply and to their questioning as possible. My goal is to not give more information than the child can handle...because I tend to be a talker, I really try to be careful with my words.

I try to focus on two things. The first is what God intends for families and why. God intends a man to marry a woman. They are to compliment each other. They are to be unitive and procreative. The second is that many people don't know (are confused about) what God intends or they reject what he intends. For this we need to pray for them.    

I've found it helpful to ask questions along the way to measure where they are at...What do you think?...Why do you ask?....How do mom and dad compliment each other?...How are some ways you've noticed people being confused about what God wants?...

Tough stuff, Marilyn. Praying all goes smoothly for you and your littles.

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Thanks Angie. I just want to explain without being over judgemental - but not"open minded" either!!!

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I'm following this thread with interest. We have a similar situation we have to occasionally deal with. Should children be keept away from this situation at all costs? What about alienating those who you wish to convert or revert?

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