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What do you say when an adult that you care about tells you they don't want to go to confession because they aren't sorry for their sins?
This person admits they are sinning but says they aren't sorry. 
    I am at a loss for words.
I am praying for this person and I am afraid for this person as well as the family. Please keep this person in your prayers as well.
Is there anything you can think of that I might say to this person (who is very close family)? Should I just let go and let God? Am I morally obligated to *remind* this person that they should get right with God? Is there a way to convince this person that they *should* feel sorry?
I guess in a way it is a good thing, at least this person isn't going to confession and lying about being sorry.
Thank you in advance for your prayers and advice.
Blessings,
Krisann
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Prayer AND fasting. Beg Our Lady's intercession. That is all you can do. But it works miracles! God bless your friend.
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I second everything Victoria said. I have been in that same situation...it isn't easy Krisann.
Have your children pray for this special intentions..it is amazing what Our Lord does with the prayers of children.
You are a good relative to even say something...most people don't care enough to say the hard stuff about faith...
God bless,
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I agree with the above. There comes a point when all you can say is that you'll pray for them. Which is really saying you're pulling out the heavy artillery. 
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We have a similar situation with extended family and their choice has made it thus that we monitor their involvement with the kids and have also limited it sharply.
You don't want them scandalizing the kids by spreading their erroneous ideas.
A tough one. . .
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Martha wrote:
| There comes a point when all you can say is that you'll pray for them. Which is really saying you're pulling out the heavy artillery. |
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I love this thought!
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shartlesville wrote:
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Krisann,
Obviously whatever their sin is they are not in a hurry to change their ways. You have to give them credit for being honest with themselves and with God. So many aren't. It does sound like this person has an infomed conscience, that is a good start as eventually they will 'face up'.
Prayer is the answer here, do you know the Memorare? I believe that is one powerful prayer.
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Thank you everyone for your prayers. Sadly, there is no update yet but God works in His time. 
Erin, yes I even have it posted on the wall. I printed it out as a poster for the girls to memorize this year. 
The biggest problem this person is having is that he/she doesn't agree with the "Church" on what items constitute a "sin." This person thinks that certain things should be allowed and doesn't agree that the Bible says they are sins, even though the Bible passages have been pointed out.
Obviously this person really "knows" that those things are sins or he/she would go to confession and just leave the "non-sins" out. Please keep praying for this person's eyes and heart to be opened.
Blessings,
Krisann
PS: Sorry for the late reply. I have been abstaining from the computer since Saturday. I have decided that I will only be computing two days per week. It is TOUGH,  .
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