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Please pray for me. My best friend, we even use to call each other sisters, just let me know she doesn't have time to be friends anymore and would like to just have a weekly email update. I'm hurt and sad. I don't understand, it's not like her, it's out of no where. I know that something is going on beyond this but it is what it is.
So I am not one who makes or seems to keep friends. Needless to say I am friendless, and the worse of it my kids have lost friends (her kids were great friends with mine). Please pray that God would help me be at peace, that He would someday bring new friendships our way, and that if this is truly His will I will find rest and happiness for my friend.
Feeling lonely and friendless again.
UPDATE: Today -
Ladies - I wanted to ask for some help. I got an email the 1st one in over a month. I had moved on. I hope you know I think of this amazing woman almost daily still, but I had realized she had let go and for that I was at peace. Then this is what I got in part:
You are on my heart everyday, and this note is long overdue. I have hesitated to write. My email was not supposed to be a relationship-ender, but I think you thought it was. I'm sorry that you are hurt. My intention was to let you know that my focus had to shift, and in that, I know and realize I completely suck at being a friend. You are a beautiful person who has so much love to give. You do it effortlessly (or so it seems to me). I see that now, and I know I don't have that gift. I still count you as my friend and hope you accept my apology for hurting you.
I don't know what to say, how to respond. My dh and I talked about it last night and he doesn't want to see me hurt by this friend, cause this was the 3rd time she's pushed me away and now the 3rd time she says, she's sorry. I know the Lord tells us to forgive 70 times 7. Forgiving isn't the issue, it's how to start over this time. I don't know what she wants, she said things that I need to understand to know if I can give this friendship more of my time, but how do I ask her? Her focus had to shift to the point of no contact at all, that's not a shift thats again " u sit here till I have time for you" (again she's done this before).
What would you do? I feel like I need to talk with her, but email doesn't seem the way to do it. But I don't know if I am up to sitting face to face with her, or if she even would to talk this out. My emotions are so torn. Can I say roller coaster ride!
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 I am so sorry. That is hard. Prayers for all of you.
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Praying for you and your family.
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Praying here, Misty. So very difficult.
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Been there done that. Praying for you, Misty.
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Praying for everyone concerned.
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Misty, I hadn't replied but I did read your post above and have been praying. I know what it is to have distance from someone and have the kids lose friends.  I am sorry and hope that it will work out in some positive way.
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I just wanted to touch back and say thank you so much for the prayers I know that without them this would/could have been a super hard thing. But I feel that with your prayers I have been able to go through grieving pretty well and fast. Our friendship is done, I know that now and I have let it go. Although she said she'd like to email I don't believe it cause well she hasn't and we were at the same place last week and I didn't know she was there till I was leaving but she parted behhind me (very obvious 12 passenger van) and she didn't come to say Hi. Its' ok. I have the Lord and my dear husband. They are my rocks and strength.
I wanted to mention a book that someone told me about called Friendship for Grown-Ups by Lisa Whelchel. It has been exactly what I needed. I could have wrote this book I feel like it's me in many of the words that are written. If you are like me and have/had or are having a hard time with making friends as an adult this might be a good book for you to read.
Thanks again for your many prayers and hugs I couldn't have made it so easily through without you. Friendless and ok with it! 
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Dear Misty!
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