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Yesterday, a family member talked with me about her marriage. Her husband is non-baptized. Truly--non-baptized at all. He is kind and amiable, and seems to be a very good daddy to the two children they have. I really did not know what to say, but my husband and I are both very concerned.
This family member, for her part, has said that they have talked about their relationship and feel that they could not imagine going through life without the other.
I think, at this point, I might gently encourage her to encourage him to look into RCIA? He has expressed interest in the past but is hesitant. I am thinking that 1). If he was baptized 2). Then their marriage would be sacramental (they currently have NO sacramental grace! I can't imagine marriage without sacramental grace!). 3). He would learn the moral truths of the Faith and the World.
In the mean time, if you have ever had concerns about a loved one's relationship, how have you dealt with it? Obviously--with a TON of prayer...and maybe nothing more?
If anything, please join me in prayer for this beautiful couple and their family!! We all know the temptations of the world are fierce--but imagine trying to fight those without grace and the sacraments!
Let's lift them in a stronghold of prayer.
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Praying for them.
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You are a dear to care 
Yes! I have faced all sorts of challenges with beloved family and friends. My husband and I also have a lot of mental health & relationship expertise.
I asked a priest if it was my moral obligation to share my experience, knowledge, etc. with another adult/peer if the information would be helpful. He told me, "No." And I agree.
Here's why. Adults know. They know. The chances of me having some amazing new insight or profound truth that they haven't ever thought of is...slim to none.
Think about it. Don't both of the adults involved "know" what is right and/or available? Don't they know RCIA is available? Likely they do.
So what happens is, well-intended others want to solve the problems of other adults. We have to watch our own pride, to look as if we know better and/or want to be the ones who "help" or "save". Can you tell I'm talking about my past mistakes 
My rule of thumb is to not give advice unless explicitly asked by other adults/peers/elders.
I also measure the depth of my relationship with the person who asks. For example, if my sister (who I have a very deep relationship) asked me, I would be very plain spoken with my concerns.
Also, also, I make myself available  . I tell loved ones who are struggling that I'm rooting for them, praying for them  . And that I'm available .
I do have a few young people in my life who I'm an adopted auntie or mentor. I will approach them with concerns I see because they have told me I can  .
It's painfully hard to zip my lip. But it's getting much easier as I focus on my own needs, relationships, spiritual growth, etc.
I hope this doesn't sound hard-hearted. Just more hard-earned 
And I'm praying!
Love,
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I don't have any words of wisdom, but I feel that Angie's advice is sound. She's a wise lady!
I will join you in storming Heaven for these important intentions (marriage and RCIA). Don't give up on prayer, even if it takes a long time for God to reveal His plan. More than once, I've seen husbands find their way to church and to a heartfelt conversion. Our prayer warriors here are very persistent in their prayer, and I hope that fact will give you some peace of mind during this worrisome time.
Thank you for caring so much about this couple. I'm sure you are a blessing in their lives.
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Wonderful advice from Angie...very very wise. Keeping this couple in my prayers and praying for your intentions, too!
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Offering prayers.
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