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Posted: Nov 26 2010 at 8:47am | IP Logged Quote dale45039
Unsure how to handle this situation and seeking wisdom from you. My brother and his family lives a few hours drive away from our home. Brother dear emailed me two days ago to tell me that one of his ten children had gotten sick. Last night, he sent me an update: five children are now sick... but he thinks they'll all be better when they come to visit tomorrow - YIKES!

I feel like telling him and his family to just stay home - my six children feel just fine, and I don't look forward to a house full of "the crud" . If half of my family was sick, I would simply uninvite myself.

I don't want to offend or be uncharitable to him, but I really think that he will still come sick or not. Unsure what the best approach is to take and ask for your prayers and advice.
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Posted: Nov 26 2010 at 8:56am | IP Logged Quote Mary K
i would ask him to reschedule the visit. mention how his kids would be more comfy in their own beds, blankets and pillows. you'd rather the cousins share good times/memories rather than germs.
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Posted: Nov 26 2010 at 9:43am | IP Logged Quote Chris V
I absolutely agree with Mary. I would put the health and happiness of your own family above that of his (potentially) hurt feelings. He should recognize what is best for his own family as well.

Hoping all went well for you, and the outcome was blessed for all.

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Posted: Nov 26 2010 at 2:47pm | IP Logged Quote mamasue
I'd definitely tell them that half the family being sick must be a sign that you should reschedule! It's a disappointment to reschedule but best for all parties involved! Good luck!
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Posted: Nov 26 2010 at 9:36pm | IP Logged Quote KC in TX
Ditto what everyone else said. It's just not worth it.

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Posted: Nov 27 2010 at 11:27am | IP Logged Quote Angie Mc
I'm comfortable being direct and saying that I'd prefer a reschedule. Another approach is to ask brother what makes him think coming under such circimstances is a good idea. Maybe he is too fatigued to think this through himself and just needs a nudge in the right direction.

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Posted: Nov 27 2010 at 1:51pm | IP Logged Quote Barbara C.
Maybe you could phrase it like you're doing them a favor...

"I bet you and your wife are so tired from dealing with all of this. I bet you need the rest as much as the kids do."

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Posted: Dec 08 2010 at 5:25am | IP Logged Quote dale45039
Thank you for all your prayers and input. My brother decided to re-schedule on his own.
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Thanks for updating! Glad it all worked out, and hoping they are all feeling better by now.

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