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Hi all,
Not sure if I am in the right spot, but I am feeling quite shaken.
A friend has just told me that her family is no longer going to be practicing as a Catholic.
I held it together saying all the right things, I think, tried to be supportive but I feel guttered.
Her dh has only in the last years become a Catholic and now because of not enough community after Mass they are going to evangelical church.
I am just venting, but I was hoping they would join in with our Catholic homeschooling community. 
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Sorry to hear that Leanne,
Lots of emotions to digest here...
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Keeping them in my prayers Leanne..
I too have a friend who was Catholic, but her dh would not attend Mass with her and their children. They did not feel welcomed in the RC Church they belonged too.
Now they (including her dh) attend a Protestant Church.
In our past conversations, she has mentionned there is a group of welcomers at her church when they walk through the door, and she likes that!
Sometimes I think our RC Churches would have more "on board" if we had "welcoming committees" like that. Or even people made more of an effort noticing others around them, and reaching out in some way to acknowledge them and include them in our Church family, you know? So I make an effort now to say "Hello" more myself and go out of my way for others.
One question I did ask my friend recently was, "Don't you miss receiving Jesus in the Eucharist?"
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Nique wrote:
| One question I did ask my friend recently was, "Don't you miss receiving Jesus in the Eucharist?" |
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There is the rub!
I really think that Evangelical churches are so much better at social fellowship because it is ALL THEY HAVE.
I can only imagine how sad that must be. I really do understand how people feel ignored and such in Catholic churches. We've been there. But it is amazing when that means turning one's back on the sacraments! Heartbreaking to think of people making that choice--I can only think they make it with such a cloud of deception!
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Our relationships with God and churches can be so complicated! So many things get involved in the mix that it seems sometimes people lose their sense of what is truly important. Your friend's news is very hard for you to hear, Leanne. God has her, and all of us, in His hand, always. Maybe He will use this change of churches to help her work through some things and to unravel some of the *issues* she has had with the Catholic Church so that she can return in strength.
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I would definately ask her about the Real Presence.
now I will get on my soapbox for a minute...
This husband just converted last year, and already he has lost his faith? What kind of RCIA catechesis is going on at this parish? What is being preached from the pulpit? This is my problem with many modern Catholic parishes, the Catholicism is so lite, that you might as well go to another church, because you can barely tell the difference. And if the Real Presence and Our Lady were not some of the main focuses of this mans conversion and RCIA classes, its no wonder they dont see any difference beween the Catholic faith and any protestant faith.
My husband was just baptized last year as well...but you can be darned sure that our good holy priests made sure he was formed in the Catholic faith, Thank God!
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I'm sorry, Leanne. And praying.
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How sad but I do understand the feeling.. I've been at churches where you can feel unwelcome.. many more the opposite.
And my first inclination is "what can I do about it?"
but I know for many that they want others to do the work for a variety of reasons especially a lack of time.
While poor teaching may contribute to why people choose to leave, we do need to be careful not to make assumptions without knowledge. Sometimes it's simply that person's free will choosing to turn their backs on what they know to be true for that which feels good.
We do live in a society that encourages instant gratification and to do what feels good.
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Thank you ladies for your kind responses. I did not know how this would be viewed, as a post, but I needed to vent on a forum, I felt safe in. thanks.
I shared with her my journey thru a hard time in '03, when I was looking further afield myself.
I had all these questions in my head after she left, and yes one of these was what about 'the real Presence". Will you not miss receiving him. what about your children. It just went on.
My only thing I can do is pray for her and be a witness to her.
We have small catholic homeschooling network, and we are trying to meet regularly and have family days. I wanted her to be part of this. sure we have our homeschooling buddies-who aren't Catholic, but a little community makes it easier to chat freely about all things Catholic. My dh said, invite her to these things and show her community. So maybe thats a way, but as 'hylabrook' and others have said, this might be her way back to the church in avengance. 
It was very hard to listen, knowing what was coming. Her dh has taken Jesus as his saviour as a Christian but has not wanted to be Catholic.
Thanks everyone for listening.
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