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I'd like to ask your prayers for a friend of mine who lost her full-term baby last week to a placental abruption. My friend is 47 and the mother of nine, and this baby was like our whole parish's miracle baby. The mother thought she'd had a miscarriage early on -- the doctors now think it was a small abruption which went undiagnosed -- but the baby survived until the middle of last week, just a week or so before her due date. They had thought that they were out of the woods completely with regard to complications, and the baby's death came as an utterly unexpected shock.
The funeral is Wednesday, and the baby's name is Dominica Marie. On a very minor side note, two friends and I are cantoring the Mass, and it would probably be good if we weren't crying too hard to sing.
Thanks so much. I know the family will be so grateful to be upheld in your prayers.
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This is so sad. We are praying for your friend and her family.
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Oh my goodness, Sally.
How horribly sad. I will surely be praying for the dear family, and for you, her dear friend.
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Sally,
I will be praying for this dear mom. I just can't imagine.
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That's very sad. Haven't lost a full term baby but I lost one at 23 weeks, so I can only imagine how much more difficult that would be.
My recommendation to you as a cantor would be to stay in the sanctuary with the priest until it is time for you to come out and when you are up to sing keep your eyes on the back of the church. Do not make direct eye contact with any of the mourners. If you keep your eyes focused on the very last pew it will look as if you are looking at someone, but you won't be and you'll be able to hold it together better. Remember to breathe deeply too. You can really help them out during this important time and I wish you the best.
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Thanks for the tips, Elena. Fortunately our cantors/choir are seated off to one side and don't sing from the front of the church, so we'll be looking at the backs of people's heads, mostly. And we can sing to Jesus in the tabernacle and on the altar, which is always a good thing. As long as we can make the sound come out, we can have tears pouring down our faces and no one will notice.
I've sung for funerals before, but never one with quite this level of personal feeling.
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Oh, Sally, this is so sad. I will pray for everyone involved.
Making the sound come out can be tough. I'm praying for you and the other cantors. (BTDT.)
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Oh, my heart just breaks for your friend!
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I will certainly keep you, your friend, and all their children in my prayers.
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Will pray for you all.....I am so sorry.
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Praying, Sally...
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Sally, I am so sorry . I will pray for this mother especially and her family.
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Praying for your friend and her family, Sally. Also praying for you especially during the funeral.
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This is a painful Cross. I will definitely pray for your friend, SallyT. May God's generous mercy and grace sustain them during this time of extreme pain.
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Thank you all so much for your prayers. The funeral and burial were beautiful -- and I don't say that lightly. I saw Father today, and we were comparing notes on moments of the whole thing which had struck us as especially just . . . well, "ravishing" is the word that comes to my mind, in their sadness but also their beauty and hopefulness and the awareness of God's ever-present hand.
This is an amazing family -- among their nine living children, they have a 23-year-old daughter who is severely developmentally impaired, and my friend was saying that just as she hadn't "known" how to be the mother of a special-needs child, but had just done it, so she would be given the way to "just do" this, too.
I blogged a little yesterday about the funeral and the graveside service, so I won't say much more about it all here. But I know that the family are beyond grateful for the prayers of people who don't even know them -- they know themselves to be sustained and borne up on all your prayers, and I thank you on their behalf for your kind hearts.
Sally
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