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Posted: March 06 2010 at 7:36am | IP Logged Quote SeaStar

My ds loves legos...
But here is what has happened at our house: he gets a lego set and builds whatever it is supposed to be... and then that is it.
This creation can never be broken down or remade into anything else. To suggest that brings on tears.

So legos seem to be a very dead end play item at our house. Given how expensive the sets are, I am leaning towards not buying them any more.
Is that mean?

Things like wooden blocks and playdough and moonsand he will "recreate" with. But now he has several lego cars sitting on his bookshelf that will never be played with after being built.

Sometimes he will build with the tub of legos we have (not a set), but even then he doesn't want to break things down after.


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Posted: March 06 2010 at 7:49am | IP Logged Quote CrunchyMom

Does your husband play with legos?

My husband has ALWAYS played lego and duplo with the boys (before they were able--he bought Duplo when our first was like a month old ).

Anyway, I think he models the play. They see Dad build stuff and then take it down.

They also have little siblings who come along and destroy whatever they built and rarely have to disassemble.

I think I have the opposite problem, whenever I tell them to clean-up the lego/duplo/knex, the FIRST thing the do is disassemble what they've built or cry out "but do we have to crash it!!!!" I'm like, please, just pick up the OTHER quarter million legos that are ALL OVER the floor

So, I think you don't buy more. If he "uses them all up" maybe he'll realize that its more fun to take what he has apart in order to have some to play with.

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Posted: March 06 2010 at 8:51am | IP Logged Quote DianaC

I was going to suggest just buying the tubs of various legos instead of the sets until he is older.

Also, when my son made things - usually entire towns that took up quite a bit of the living room floor - and he didn't want to have to take it apart after spending an entire afternoon building it, we offered to take pictures of the masterpiece. This usually was sufficient for him. As he got old enough to be careful with the camera, we let him capture the pictures that he wanted and he was very satisfied.
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Posted: March 06 2010 at 9:27am | IP Logged Quote melanie

My 9yo is like that. Drives me nuts! And we will have the same arguments about other materials too. We just had this discussion the other day about clay, him wanting to keep every creation forever and ever. I will let him put one at a time on display, and then he can take a picture of it and take it down. He's not thrilled, he'd rather keep it forever, but the legos are a family toy anyway, so he can't just monopolize them all because that's not fair to the others anyway. If your son is the only one playing with them, you could always tweak this and say he can keep two up or have them on display longer or whatever, depending on how many you have. We have a large-ish collection, but we have three kids playing with them too. And as far as the clay and other materials, same issue...along with the fact that I only have so much display space!   

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Posted: March 06 2010 at 9:55am | IP Logged Quote Michaela

My boys are the same way. It doesn't bother me too much because they play with the finished creation.

After I suggested that they take pictures of their creations and load the pictures on a blog of their very own, they were more willing to take apart creations made from their lego tub.....but NOT the models that came in the sets.   

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Posted: March 06 2010 at 12:46pm | IP Logged Quote LucyP

I no longer allow the sets in our home because of the same problems. We had a hiatus without lego being out, and now it is back our son has forgotten the way the machines built from sets looked and is just using the components creatively. Our son builds very elaborate houses and boats and cars usually. The rule is that they stay built for one day. By bedtime the day after they are made, they must be pulled apart. Not having loads of bricks helps with this - he just sees the need to recycle the bricks, and I haven't had to enforce the 1 day rule for a good while, as it is just clear to him that it is more fun to build, enjoy, and pull apart to build anew. It took time to get to that point though - time, practise and a few tearful times of being cuddled through the pain of losing a model.
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Posted: March 06 2010 at 1:46pm | IP Logged Quote SeaStar

Ah- I see this is a universal problem.
It is just so different from when I was a kid: there were no neat pieces like the ones that come in sets. It was just the plain old blocks. We never could never build anything super cool, so I guess there was never that temptation to display things..

Thanks for all the helpful suggestions. I am going to plan a strategy...
maybe one display item on the shelf at a time and pictures of what has to be taken apart.

I know he could have much more fun with legos if he could build and rebuild instead of enshrining them.

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Posted: March 06 2010 at 5:14pm | IP Logged Quote melanie

I do tend to shy away from buying the special kits. He has gotten a couple as gifts here and there, but when I buy them for the family I buy just the sets of bricks. They seem to have much more fun with them that way. It's not long before those special pieces tend to wander off and that just becomes frustrating for him anyway. If he were a more careful child...

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