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What's a good consequence for interrupting (while I'm on the phone, or speaking to someone else)? This is one area that we haven't made ANY progress on, despite constant reminders after/during the fact. Thanks for any ideas ...
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Not sure on a consequence but maybe you should try acting it out.. then you can teach then how to interrupt for an emergency and how to wait. Maybe get them to get a paper and pencil and draw a picture so they won't forget what they want to ask you, things like that. Maybe you could write their name on a list so that they know you know they want to speak with you.
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When my dc were in a very bad (but common) habit of suddenly needing to have a huge conversation with me the minute I got on the phone, here is what I did. I offered them a choice before I made a call or at the first ring of an incoming call. They could go to their room and wait there until I was off the phone or they could have the full run of the house, but not talk to me unless it was a big emergency. It didn't take long for the interrupting habit to greatly decrease.
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Nancy, what a great idea! I'll have to do that. Jodie, your suggestions should help us in this area as well. My son cannot wait to talk. He's always had trouble waiting; he's afraid of losing his thought.
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My kids know that whatever they ask for when I am on the phone is an AUTOMATIC and UNBENDING NO!
Like hylabrook, I remind them of that truth prior to initiating a call or answering one!
Not to many problems with interruptions here, either!
Good luck...as they say, parenting is not for the feint-hearted!
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A couple of things we do.
One, we have a consistent saying here, "Are you on fire, bleeding heavily, or is there a mountain gorilla on your head?" Then, no, you can't ask me. 
Two, we tell the kids there is an invisible box close to a person. They need to stand in the box, say excuse me ONCE, and then wait. If they don't stand in the box, they get ignored. Younger kids get a quick reminder to "use the box."
And the third, the one the kids hate the most...PRACTICE. As in, "if you cannot remember not to interrupt, then you must need practice." Then I or dh will pick up the phone and pretend to talk to someone, and then make the child do the right thing about 15 times...enough to annoy them so much that they don't want to interrupt in the future.
This also works with things like, "Oh, you don't want to fold your clothes neatly in the drawers? You must need practice" and then you proceed to empty the drawer on the floor. Once its neat, you say, "Good job!" and then empty it again. And again.  My mil did this with her boys when there were growing up. When its done with a smile but without a gloat, its incredibly effective as a deterrent. They find it so irritating that all we need to say to the older ones is, "Do you need some practice?" and that's about all it takes.
It may sound weird, but I love it because its a logical consequence, and it doesn't involve any yelling or scowling, or physical punishment (which we don't do).
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Books, I just used that line on my son.. he was telling me he can't fold sheets it's too hard.. oh dear, you know the way to fix that is to practise more.. from now on you get to fold all the sheets until it's easy. I didn't undo any work.. but I'm good with having someone to fold sheets anytime I have a load.. and there's enough people around here that it's pretty frequent. 
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JodieLyn wrote:
| Books, I just used that line on my son.. he was telling me he can't fold sheets it's too hard.. oh dear, you know the way to fix that is to practise more.. from now on you get to fold all the sheets until it's easy. I didn't undo any work.. but I'm good with having someone to fold sheets anytime I have a load.. and there's enough people around here that it's pretty frequent. |
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Thanks for all the suggestions, everyone. Books, I am loving the consequence of "practicing", and am using it in all sorts of areas! Such as, if you can't stay focused on your work (whether it be a chore, or schoolwork), then you need some practice in focusing. Followed by him sitting on a chair, keeping still and silent, for a length of time. Brilliant!!
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Thanks from me, too. This is something I'm continually working on with my two youngest. I don't recall the older ones interrupting quite this much, but the youngers do it all the time, despite my efforts to teach them otherwise.
Thanks again!
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