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How do you handle them??? I can't get one child in particular to get moving, and get out in a timely fashion. Said child will play, sing, say "I'm not done yet" until both feet have fallen asleep.
I need my day to move along, and I have tried to send in reading material from schoolwork, but nothing seems to work.
I have the same trouble with said child when it is time to get dressed. Something distracts, plays, sings, etc. I am so frustrated by all of this. I can't live my life standing over these kids to tell them to keep going, or to remind them of what they are doing. But how can we get anything done if there are constant distractions?? I cant' get them to focus on anything for more than 2 minutes. Right now, they are unloading the dishwasher, which involves taking out MORE untensils to sing with, play with, etc.
I just need help so I stop yelling, getting so frustrated, and just following through.
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As far as the bathroom goes, my dh threatened to remove the door if they were not done in a timely matter. 
It has worked well!
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Paula in MN wrote:
As far as the bathroom goes, my dh threatened to remove the door if they were not done in a timely matter.
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They don't stay in long but I can just about guarantee that if I tell them to start a job or school that the first thing they do is.. go to the bathroom 
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I'm sorry but your post made me laugh, not at you, but with you. I have three boys and it is the same with them. Ah, the easily distracted!
I have just finished reading "The Temperament God Gave You" and I am convinced I have at least one sanguine and one phlegmatic. Both easily distracted. I call one the happily-distracted (the sanguine), and another the lazily- distracted (phlegmatic). One just gets so genuinely interested in anything fleeting (the sanguine), and one would rather do anything than what I ask him to do (the phlegmatic).
Sounds like yours our happily distracted too (sing, play, etc.)
So, lessons to myself:
1. Kids love to play...all the time.
2. Kids are creative...and will find something to play with...all the time.
3. Instead of getting angry and frustrated I should just let natural consequences occur. (You didn't finish your school work, now you can't go out to play until you're done. Oh, you were'nt paying attention when mommy had time to teach you, now you have to wait (do busy work) until mommy is done with your brother. Etc.)
I know for a fact that this all easier said then done especially for a melancholic!  Sometimes this does draw out our school day, but sometimes missing playtime is a big motivator.
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Oh, if only removing the door would work! These are the same kids that stop mid getting dressed to play. Clothes or not! 
I just feel like I spend my whole day chasing after the kids from some activity that is only half finished. But when it's time to clean up, oh no! "I'm still playing!"
Jodie, I am so happy I am not the only one! I am all geared up for something, and I am waiting and waiting for them as they sit on the throne.
I am a melancholic, wanting things done RIGHT NOW, done THIS way, and it's hard for me to be patient. I know. They are kids. let them play. It's one of the reasons I homeschool. It just has been really hard this week. I am feeling so overwhelmed and feel like no one listens. I can't think of consequences for these kids that will impact them. Taking toys away doesn't work, and as far as priveleges go, only the ones that involve Daddy will they pay attention to. 
Sorry. Feeling a bit pity-partyish today. I am tired, and it's hard for ME to find the get up and go to do school with them, let alone have it come up later after they have played.
Thanks for listening.
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Fuzzy wrote:
| I am a melancholic, wanting things done RIGHT NOW, done THIS way, and it's hard for me to be patient. I know. They are kids. let them play. It's one of the reasons I homeschool. It just has been really hard this week. I am feeling so overwhelmed and feel like no one listens. |
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I could write this almost exactly most days, Fuzzy! 
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