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Posted: Aug 03 2009 at 9:03pm | IP Logged Quote amyable
I have a feeling I've asked this question every 2.5 years.

My 22 month old has reached that age where he can communicate just enough to make his needs known, yet he cannot and will not be disuaded when the answer is no, wait, not now.

I've tried getting redirection ("Here, let's play with your little animals!"), distraction, ("Look! A bird just flew by!") and ignoring ("..." ). But like his sister before him, he does not fall for it.

The days are filled with him asking for things "Nurse!" - "Come!" - "Cheese!" - "Gate!" -"Potty!" - "Girls!"

Unfortunately after days of it, it starts looking like this:

Him: Come!
Me: Honey, I can't right now (I'm cooking, reading a short book to his sisters, whatever)
Him: Come!
Me: No, sweetie.
Him: Cooooooommmmmmmmmm (falling on the floor)
Me: NO!

I know, real mature of me, but I don't know what to DO.

I have never mastered this age. I *try* to say yes when I can, but his requests are incessant and he seems to have a knack for asking for what he can't have.

I just want to keep my peace and the peace of the household to some degree. I totally understand some tantrums are normal, but we all seem unsettled by this, especially him. Between this type of thing and the constant dash to get into things he shouldn't, he always seems on edge...

Do you remember if this is just a short phase? (You'd think I'd know by now but I think I totally block out these months from my memory). What do YOU do when the toddler grabbies, whinies, gimmies have got you down? What do you say and do - what does your interaction look like?

Thanks!

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Posted: Aug 03 2009 at 9:49pm | IP Logged Quote eschuetter
Hi, Amy -
No good answers here. My little dd (age 21 mo.) can be the same way at times.

Just this afternoon I collected into a box a bunch of toys she's never seen (toddler toys that were her brothers' that she is just now old enough for) - I plan to use the box during "school time" to help keep her occupied. Sometimes it seems a proactive approach works better - keep her busy before she gets whiney.

In any case, i'll be watching to see what other wisdom folks can offer. This is my first go-round with school and an almost 2yo... the last time we did this phase, my oldest was only going on 5!

Erica

p.s. As you said, my interactions often end with "NO!"
Its nice to know I'm not alone in that - or in my desire to change MY attitude.

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Watching here, too!

(22m dd)

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Here are a couple articles from
Raising Godly Tomatoes that you may find helpful:


Whining and Crying

Temper Tantrums
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