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kingvozzo
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Posted: Feb 23 2009 at 5:18pm \| IP Logged

I posted in this thread about a friend's stillbirth. She lives 2 states away from me. Do you have any suggestions of anything I might be able to do to help her? I don't want to be intrusive, yet I feel like I should do 'something.'

I just rec'd information on the proposed Shrine of the Holy Innocents at the Divine Mercy Shrine in Stockbridge, MA. they have opportunities to memorialize children. What do you think of this idea?

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Sarah M
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Posted: Feb 23 2009 at 6:44pm \| IP Logged

I have sent this print: Safe in the Arms of Jesus to grieving friends before. I think it's a very comforting image, and the artist has a personal story to go with it that makes it even more touching.

I am praying for your friend, Noreen. I was so sad to read your prayer request.

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Posted: Feb 23 2009 at 9:55pm \| IP Logged

Noreen, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's baby. That's just so very very difficult.

The Shrine of the Holy Innocents is a beautiful idea. I have all 9 of our little angels memorialized there.

Another idea--with our last miscarriage, it was the furthest we'd ever been in a pregnancy and lost the baby--20 weeks. I found a website somewhere (I can try to find it again if you'd like) where I could order a sterling silver heart with tiny footprints, and on the back, I had the baby's initials engraved. I wore that necklace whenever I was missing him the most or grieving the hardest. It was comforting just to have something tangible around my neck that I could think of as "him," when to everyone else in the world, there was no reminder, no "evidence" that he was ever here.

Something like that might bring comfort to your sweet friend. It wasn't very expensive, but it is one of my treasures.

I will keep your friend and her baby in my prayers. I'm so very sorry.

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Posted: Feb 23 2009 at 10:17pm \| IP Logged

Remember her due date and know she will be grieving hard then.

And, pray for her.

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After my first loss a friend sent a basket with lots of breakfast goodies. It was a wonderful treat and it made me smile.

I'm so sorry for your friend's loss.

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Posted: Feb 24 2009 at 12:09pm \| IP Logged

[QUOTE=KC in TX] Remember her due date and know she will be grieving hard then.

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This was the hardest for me every time. Once, I was sent flowers on the due date, and it meant so, so much. I would add that just saying "Do you want to talk about it?" was helpful to me, also. Not being able to talk about it was painful. I will pray for your friend.

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