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Michaela
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I'm hoping for advice from experienced moms and dads.
It's time to have that talk. I'm sure I've said something to my children, but never really sat down and had a TALK.
Tonight was my RCIA class. My neice was sick and couldn't watch my kiddoes. So, I took them to my mom's house. When I got back after class my moms 'friend' was pulling out of the driveway. Nothing happened that put up red flags, but since I don't 100% trust him....it's time for the talk. (Not just for him, but it's better than after it's too late.)
I tried calling our Priest to discuss some other arrangement for RCIA, but he hasn't returned my call.
(If you read my posts about baptism/miscarriage and convalidating our marriage you know I've put in a call to him each time, but I still haven't been called back.)
ANYHOOOO,  should I talk to them all together?
I have 3 children....9yob, 5yog and 5yob. What in the world do I say w/o saying too much?!  I've told them no one should touch them any place that their bathing suit covers. That was a very casual conversation because I know since I've been molested I might project my fears onto them.
It was soooo much easier when I never had anyone watch them. Maybe overly protective, but I never had to worry so much about this conversation.
Please help with any advice. I want to do this right....giving enough info to protect them, but not making them afraid of everyone. 
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I'd suggest reading "The Berenstain Bears Learn About Strangers" to start with. It's very appropriate for your younger children. There's no explicit detail about touching; rather, the cubs learn that most strangers are good people, but some aren't and so we must be careful around everyone. You can then add as much detail as you would like about the touch topic. (I think you've done fine, by the way.)
The other thing to stress, which I am sure you have already done, is that you will believe them if they come to you and say someone's touched or hurt them. This is very important.
I'd go ahead and do this all together. Then, if they have questions, they will approach you.
Follow your instincts when you get bad vibes off someone. It's way, way better to be overprotective. You're doing the right thing!
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Michaela,
I don't know how to format the link, but look at The Safe Side - Stranger Safety dvd on amazon.com. It looks good, and when my ds is capable of understanding it, I plan to use it. I wonder if it's at the library.....
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Here's the link:
The Safe Side - Stranger Safety
This video looks interesting. My dh just said something to my 7 year old dd about someone snatching her and she had a bad dream about strangers that night.  I don't know how much information is too much, but I like protecting her mind as much as possible. Ideas?
Jen
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The video does look interesting. My library system doesn't have it though. I'll probably go ahead and buy it.
There are a few books listed under the video, but my library only has this book available:
Your Body Belongs to You
I'm going now to check it out from the library and decide if it's what I want.
I think I'll put a little unit together about touches, stranger danger, and a few other safety reminders like what to do if they get lost. I recall the Berenstein Bears series having a book about getting lost, too.
(Side note, I just read that, Stan Berenstein, the author of Berenstein Bears died this weekend.)
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This is the program that some of the dioceses are using to discuss this topic - it's part of the Child and Youth Protection training that is being implemented by the U.S. Bishops' Office of Child and Youth Protection.
Touching Safety program
Michaela wrote:
I tried calling our Priest to discuss some other arrangement for RCIA, but he hasn't returned my call.
(If you read my posts about baptism/miscarriage and convalidating our marriage you know I've put in a call to him each time, but I still haven't been called back.) |
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And this makes me so sad. We should all pray for a pastoral response to you from this priest. 
Since he hasn't responded to you yet - for the topic of the babysitting & RCIA class I would go to the DRE or whohever is in charge of the faith formation first and discuss it at that level. Good luck.
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