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have a *really* hard time getting up in the morning. I feel like such a lazy bum sometimes  This morning I didn't drag myself out of bed until almost 9:00. The baby sleeps late (we co-sleep) so I haven't been getting up until she wakes up (if I try getting up earlier than her, she wakes up). This is something I struggle with mentally. I guess I feel like I could get so much more done if I got up earlier. But if I get up too early, I am totally useless the rest of the day because I am so sleepy and tired. During Lent I resolved to get up early, shower and do some things before I got the kids up. But after Lent I started slowly getting up later and later. The baby is a total nightowl and stays up really late so of course I am up late too, but then I think that can kind of be a vicious cycle. Sleep late, stay up late. She doesn't take a nap until late afternoon so then she stays up late and then sleeps late. I have thought about getting up earlier and getting her up so maybe she'll nap earlier and then go to bed earlier. But I'm really good about thinking about it, but the actual doing it I'm not so good at. My dh gets up really early for PT and when he comes home to get ready for work, I'm still asleep. I really feel guilty about that since he stays up with us at night. We used to get up earlier on MWF for daily Mass but we have had to cut back to just daily Mass on Fri, so we sleep late just about every day. It is just so so so so so hard to get up early! Am I the only one who feels this way?
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Jess wrote:
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Nope  .
I am a total night owl. I always have been, always. DH is too, my two girls are neither night owls nor morning people, and my ds is a absolute morning person. What fun dynamics, huh?
I used to feel guilty about not getting up early. Mostly, I don't anymore (sometimes I do, but it isn't as often.) Daily Mass here is at 7:45am, so there is no way we are getting to that, even on the best of days. It just isn't going to happen. My DH has always had night work (he was a Union Stagehand before he got the job here with Cirque) so we have always kept "odd" hours, but at least now he has consistent night hours, if that makes sense. There is no way I am going to fall asleep before he come home at night (I listen for him), and if I am up with him at 1am, there is just no way I can survive on 6 hours or less sleep...I need 8 to be functioning well....
(sssshhhhhhh.....here's a secret.....sometimes we are still asleep at 10am! How totally embarrassing!)
The problem comes in for us in that most homeschool activities seem to start at 10am...or worse, 9am. We're late a lot.
My morning-bird is old enough now that he can get his own breakfast, and he'll read until the rest of us are up.
I have to be honest - I am NOT looking forward to when dd18 goes off to college in the Fall, as I know she runs interference in the mornings so that dh & I can sleep.
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I'll stick up my hand as another late riser (usually about 8.15 am). Baby reasons for me, too (my little one shows no interest in sleeping through) plus preference -- I'm raring to go at midnight but useless first thing.
I also feel that the day gets off to a bad start because of this. I'm resolved to try to go to bed earlier and get up earlier, even if it doesn't come naturally. In fact, an Opus Dei priest told me that getting up on time (ie at the time one has decided on in advance) is an important spiritual discipline. This was pre-baby, but I think it's a good point. Someone else said (on this forum, perhaps?) that it's good to ask your guardian angel to wake you up. When I remember, it works really well.
Looking forward to other replies.
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8:15, that is early here
We were all in bed till almost 10 this morning. I am loving it!! However, my ds7 is more than a wee bit cranky these days. They get a good long sleep, but I think the old adage 'the hours before midnight are better' is applicable in this case.
Tonight dh will try to get them into bed at a decent hour (while I am at my Ultimate game) and we'll see when we arise in the morning.
During the school year I find a late start gets me off on the wrong foot. So by late summer we will be waking people up earlier so that they can be really tired when the bedtime hour hits. (But in reality it is me who is the biggest sleepyhead in the morning -I still cosleep with my 7yos and he also sleeps until I get out of bed. I used to be very much an early morning person but 11 years of cosleeping and nursing through the night seems to have changed me ).
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Sadly I am one of you  I get up at 8:30 and my kids get up soon after...I don't feel bad persay but then if someone asks me then I  feel like a bad mother.
I know I shouldn't but I also know I should get up so I can catch up on chores. Another thing that keeps me awake I like to clean at night. I don't like to clean in the morning because I feel like the house stays cleaner longer, yeah, because we are all asleep.
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I can't get up. 9am is early in my house! I have a co-sleeping baby too, plus a house full of night owls. I don't like it, but I wouldn't say I feel guilty. I know I need to get sleep however I can. I just don't like the feeling of the morning being half gone by the time we eat and dress, especially on the weekends.
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YEP!
I am stressing because my youngest is going to start having a 7:30 am swim practice next week. YIKES!
I don't have a baby for an excuse , just insomnia 
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I'm not sure why the day would be shorter just by getting up later and staying up later.. it's not like we're agrarian and need the sunlight to function.. I may not get much done before 9am.. but I bet I get more done than the early risers after 9pm
Now.. If I'm getting up after the kids are already up (which I have to do sometimes right now simply because I'm tired with late pregnancy) then things seem to get off to a poor start.. but if I'm up with the first child or sooner then things seem to function just fine.
Of course right now we have swim team so we're up early anyway.. gotta have kids in the pool at 8.. 
To me this is sorta like the issue that "EVERYONE" has their kitchen completely clean before going to bed.. I was always failing at that.. my dh works away from home and by the time I get the kids down by myself I was often too tired to actually do that.. and I was beating myself up over it.. until it dawned on me that I could have the kitchen completely clean once a day.. say... after lunch.. so I'd have a lovely clean kitchen to make dinner in and not have to get everything done after dinner.. just because "everybody is doing it"..
Somehow I failed to take into adult life that wonderful advice of "if everyone jumped off a bridge, would you?" that I know my mom had to have told me when I told her "but EVERYONE" has or does something or other
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Oh my....and I thought this was our big bad family secret...the way the whole family sleeps in every mornings. lol HOOORAAY! I'm so glad to read we are in good company!
I have NEVER been a morning person. I used to be late for school all of the time. I remember my sister told me many years ago "Wait until you have your first baby....you'll never get to sleep late again." Wrong...I had her trained to sleep late like me. At the time, when she was a baby, my DH worked out of the house, so when he got home from work, he wanted some real time to spend with our daughter--not have her in bed an hour after he got home. So we all stayed up late.
Now, we have 4 kids, and when the next 3 (born together) came home, they joined our sleep schedule. (Well...once they were not on a feed schedule through the night anymore.) We both work from home (generally) with our own businesses. And pretty much team homeschool. So we get up when we do....between 8 and 8:30 usually. We have our casual morning of breakfast and then getting ready for the day. Then we gather round our table to have our Family Devotion (prayer, scripture and discussion time) which is lengthy, and then begin our schooling. We're done by lunch (which is also later than most), and then we (my DH and I) work (sometimes around eachother) and do everything else the day requires. My DH and I often work late into the night. But we also get a lot of family time, because we are all together, a lot.
Frankly, I LOVE our schedule. But I must admit, I look forward to those years in my elder life.....when I wake up so early (because older folks can't sleep much I hear), and go to daily 8 a.m. mass, after having been up for 2 hours already. Early morning is a beautiful, peaceful time of day. I HAVE experienced it a time or 2. lol. But like someone else said...I'm feeling pretty nappy before even noon if I rise really early.
My little ones have Vacation Bible School coming up in August at our parish, that is for a week, and starts every day at 9!! My oldest is being a helper there, as will I. So that's going to be a challenging week for us. I'm sure in the afternoon we'll all be sleepy and off schedule. Family nap anyone?
Ok...another long post. I'm sorry, but I'm just so dang excited to know the whole entire world is NOT up except us. I'm going to tell my DH right now!!
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I have been getting up fairly late recently. I enjoy sleeping in and I am a better mother when I sleep a little later in the morning. I see this as one of the perks of homeschooling
Want to know my dirty little secret? I let our 3yo watch PBS shows for at least an hour every morning while I snooze next to her in bed  The boys will sleep as late as I let them and the other girls play in their room until I come get them.
We actually quit our co-op because it started at 9am and it is 45 minutes away. Tuesdays almost always ended in bloodshed here after that morning from you know where!
It is nice to know that I am not alone!
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I used to be a real morning person - got up early, prayed, ran a few miles...
Now I just cannot get up at all - feel so groggy until I have had a significant amount of strong tea, feel very cranky, and just do not seem to get dressed and going.
I really want to get back to the early thing..just do not know how to
I guess I could get off the computer and get to bed
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Oh good! I am not alone! I do think I could get more things done by getting up earlier but I need sleep too. You have all made me feel much better!
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Yep, it's really hard. I've always been a night owl. If I had my druthers, I'd sleep between the hours of 2am and 10am every day. But I usually get up around 8:30 or so. And later on weekends and school holidays. It's a bit embarrassing that my friends know not to bother calling until 10am, so they can catch me after showering and getting the household moving in the morning.
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That swim practice? I prayed - and I mean PRAYED - that the practices would take place in the pool nearest to my house this year. Our community has 4 pools total and we weren't sure which one would host our practices this summer. God granted my request - my kids can now bike to practice.  So I can doze a bit longer because we don't all have to be out of the house early. I feel bad for Mary Chris, but we had to drive to the pool near her house last summer. 
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I'm a night owl so I usually get up with my husband and children instead of before. It is very hard though to get up if you haven't had enough sleep. I had a priest tell me once that I should aim to get at least six hours of sleep every night. The idea being that the body usually needs at least that much, and if you are better rested you are more likely to resist temptations.
I would highly recommend "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Weisbluth. The author is a sleep expert and really does a great job explaining the sleep cycles babies and children go through. In the book he outlines the optimal nap and sleep times for babies. It has helped me, and I know of a number of other people who have really benefited from it.
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