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mellyrose
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Posted: May 07 2008 at 12:45pm \| IP Logged

My oldest was invited to a birthday party at a place that is full of bounce houses. I don't know the child or parent, but I do know they invited his entire class (he attends an enrichment program once/week). Colin likes this girl and wants to attend, so I've said okay.

Nate was not invited (because he's in a different class.) I RSVP'd for Colin, but Nate is understandably sad that he can't attend.

In my opinion, that's just the way it is . . . they can't always do everything together (although they do 99.9% of the time) My husband, however, thinks I should call the mom and ask if Nate can attend, and offer to pay for his fee.

What would you do?

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MarieC
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Posted: May 07 2008 at 1:01pm \| IP Logged

I'm in your camp....hard as it is.

On the few occasions this has happened here, I've planned something fun for the not included child. Usually just baking or a game with me. Sometimes we've had to be out of the house....didn't make sense to drop off and go home only to have to return to for the picku...so we've gone out for ice cream or she's just run errands with me and had me all to herself.

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Posted: May 07 2008 at 1:23pm \| IP Logged

I agree with you. It is hard, cuz my children spend so much time together. But I agree. My ds friend in his cub scout troop just had his birthday party this past weekend. my dd was sad, but I reminded her that she has gone to parties w/o him, too. It's just the way it is.

If it is a bounce house place - it may be limited to a certain number of kids that are allowed to bounce. Some places have restrictions. I know my dd is having her bday party at her gymnastics place - there is a cap on the number of kids because if you go over, they need more coaches, etc. So there is a limit.

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Posted: May 07 2008 at 1:39pm \| IP Logged

I also agree with you. Just because your brother will always be there for you doesn't mean he always has to be in your pocket. Sometimes siblings have different opportunities and that should be celebrated instead of mourned.

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Posted: May 07 2008 at 4:33pm \| IP Logged

I'm with you, too - maybe the mom has a limited refreshment budget (or party favor budget - they add up) and it would be more polite to keep your younger son with you.

It is hard, I know, for younger siblings, but his day will come in time.

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Posted: May 07 2008 at 7:18pm \| IP Logged

Thanks for helping me stick to my original intention! DH doesn't like our kids to be sad . . . but I think that they deserve the chance to learn how to handle disappointment.

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