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Well, here is a depressing way I've recently been able to tell I'm getting older. I think it has begun in the last 1-2 years. It used to be when I told people I had six children with the oldest being 18 (now 20), I would get these shocked looks of disbelief. Comments like "You look too young to have teenagers," and the like. Now I just get no response, if not a yawn. Oh well. It had to happen sooner or later, I guess. I feel a little vain admitting I miss those surprised looks. I guess God is trying to show me something here.
What are other ways, other than bifocals  , you ladies have come to the realization that you are no longer the "young Mom"?
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You mean, besides having your children say, "But Mom, you're OLD!!!"? 
Or having your mother tell you it's time to start coloring your hair to cover the grey? 
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Yes, Nancy, that's what I'm talking about!
You reminded me of a funny thing that happened with my 7yo ds. He kept brushing my hair down over my ears one day, which is not how I usually like it to sit. I finally asked him why he kept doing this. He said a little sadly,"I don't like to see those" pointing at my gray hair. Then I figured it out... gray hair=old= you're going to die!
My girlfriend says... yes you are going to dye! Run down to the drugstore and get some Clairol!
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When doing my Pilates video, my dd, who is 5 and curled up in the corner of the sofa with her blanket and stuffed giraffe says,"Mommy, you are not doing it like the lady on the TV." But I am trying really hard I just don't move certain ways anymore.
Also, I am supposedly "well preserved" (don't look my age), and never was a big drinker, so buying wine/beer was a novel thing, getting carded and all. I didn't buy alcohol for years-pregnant/nursing-and last week I bought a bottle of white wine for cooking and was disappointed. They didn't need my ID!! 
My ds, who is 10, tells me I am not old until I am 55! That makes me feel so much better.
Anne
Oh, and I got my first gray hair recently. Just one and I am leaving it. I LOVE it!!
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Ladies, you're only as OLD as you feel, or (ah-hem) is that as YOUNG as you feel.
There are signs for sure as we climb up the ladder to maturity (isn't that a nice way to say it? LOL), and acquire much wisdom along the way. My wisdom has come in outward notable visuals, plenty of gray hairs I cover with a L-Oreal 5N! snicker Whenever I'm due/overdue for a color rinse, the little ones might notice and say, mommy you're hair changed colors! And the day before yesterday, my youngest daughter read my driver's license birthyear and proclaimed, WOW, that was such a LOOOOOOONG time ago mommy.
The clincher within our own families are when the various ages make mention of little things...and truly, it's how we respond that can make them light or make us blow them away with a great big growl. For instance, my 22yo daughter has been threatening me with her older sister to secretly beg the producers of the show "mommy makeover", something like that, to take me on. She feels I deserve a makeover, especially my clothing. I just shake my head and tell her I'm such a groovy momma already, heck, what could they do to improve me? LOL We get into a giggle and that's that...but secretly I wonder, and then when I get home I pull open all my drawers and rush into the closet to wonder if I'm stuck in the eighties, nineties, or still in sixties mode. LOL I really felt proud though when I recently flew out west to see my children/grandchildren and this same daughter makes a remark about my new purse. "Gee mom, it's so modern for your typical style, I love it." I began to laugh heartily , grabbed my purse and said "Nope, you can't have it, nice try!." LOL
And then, the tables are turning because my oldest daughter (she 31 okay, yeah, my goodness, SHE IS OLD! LOL) used to feel under the microscope when I would get after her to eat better while in the height of her ballet dancing career and teaching. Now, here's this adult gal, multiple hats, including a personal training and weight training certification. While visiting west, she says to me; "mom, would you like me to create a new workout for you while you're here? You've gained weight mom, lots of weight since you left the west, let me help you with your diet and exercise program okay? Let's get your body fat count taken now, I'll go get my machine to do it, we'll begin there okay?". I got up, and said, "sorry, no time, must go to the next stop for a visit..." and off I RAN! Jeepers! Talk about my daughters ganging up on me. First, a makeover, one wants to steal my purse and then a new workout program. humpf.... LOL
Admittedly, I still get those "looks" when people find out I have eight children, only eight I say...duh. And then they find out I have grandchildren and they begin looking at me with a stupid glazed stare, thinking i may be from another planet, and I love to tell them if they keep hitting me in a nasty way, ever so (slyly) sweetly (see me wringing out my hands...LOL) that my oldest grand-daughter is the same age as my youngest daughter...and then watch their jaws fall to the floor. Secretly delicious! LOL Nah, I do look younger than my years, thanks to good genes. My mother looks amazing for her age, so I'm hoping I have her genes. I just love to smile alot over this topic, age that is, keep my chin up and thank God for my life. It's as though by our age we are now suddenly finding a moment or two to "blink" and see all we have, all our blessings and it's the "season" to offer much thanksgiving every moment of every day. I want to pinch myself because I'm so lucky, so very lucky. I am so thankful for my age, and never have a problem with it. Focus on the "now", and heck, if your jowls are drooping, stand on your head everyday until they bounce back up. grin
And Chari, never will I get bifocals! I rebelled and bought two pairs of glasses instead! heehee
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I had one of those "old mother" moments this week when I realised my toddler has started to groan every time she gets up from the floor or bends down to pick something up.
I wonder who she could possibly have learned that from 
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RenB wrote:
And Chari, never will I get bifocals! I rebelled and bought two pairs of glasses instead! heehee
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Hmm......NOW THERE'S a THOUGHT!
I will try progressives......but I am sure I will hate them.........then, I will try bifocals..........and I am sure I will hate those, too.......so, I will have to go to having two pairs of glasses.........I guess we will see.....
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I have been juggling 2 pair of glasses for years as the bifocals I originally got made me dizzy! Sometimes I find myself with 2 pair pushed up on top of my head at once.
My older kids always tell me I don't look as old as my age and that I look younger than others my age. But today I was shopping with my 15yo in the junior dept at Kohl's and she was in the dressing room while I searched for an appropriate dress for a special occassion. I kept getting strange looks from other women shopping there (what were they doing there?) My dd tells me she finds it annoying to find older women trying on those clothes. She actually didn't find anything appropriate but I don't know if I was getting the looks because of my age or my size (definitely NOT a junior sz). I have been fortunate to not go gray until now and it is just a very little that only I notice. But I did feel out of place and wouldn't wear those clothes even if they did fit.
I was with my older sisters and mom on Wed and she was giving them a hard time about their gray hair (she is 85 and very gray). They are proud of their gray and don't feel the need to dye their hair.I tend to differ a bit but don't deny them their gray. I will do it when the time comes as I still have young kids and don't want to be mistaken for "grandma".
Such an interesting time of life!
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