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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 2:16am | IP Logged Quote St. Ann

This weekend has been tough emotionally.

I have been saying "goodbye" to the baby years.
I am 45, have fibroids and irregular cycles.
I have finally given in.
I was so confident that God would bless us once again...

The Godmother of dd2 and dd4 are both expecting their firsts! Everything is going to them. We went through it all this weekend ... so many memories. I just had to cry.

We are so blessed! God has been more than good to us, but maybe I regret some of my own actions or inaction.

Herr, ich glaube. Hilf mein Unglaube.

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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 6:18am | IP Logged Quote Sarah in SC

I'm so sorry. I know how difficult it is to know that your last is your last.   

You'll be in my prayers. I hope you feel peace and comfort by blessing those Godmothers with what I know will be treasured possessions.

Big hugs.



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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 6:30am | IP Logged Quote Elizabeth

Big hugs for you here, dear. Know that there are friends here who truly do understand that pain. I'm so sorry.

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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 6:54am | IP Logged Quote Maria B.

Stephanie, you are in my thoughts and prayers. This is so tough. I truly understand what you are feeling. Much love,

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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 7:06am | IP Logged Quote Paula in MN

Oh, Stephanie, lots of hugs. I know from first-hand experience how hard this can be, and you are in my prayers.

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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 7:14am | IP Logged Quote So Blessed

Stephanie,

Many prayers and hugs from me too. I will be 44 soon and no one told me it would be this hard.
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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 8:38am | IP Logged Quote 8kids4me

I'm so sorry. I am 51 and STILL miss the baby years. I don't think it ever really gets easier for some of us. My dh said he thinks my idea of heaven is for me to never hit the change, be pregnant with littles for eternity. I think he might be right.

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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 8:41am | IP Logged Quote hylabrook1

Oh, Stephanie. You're such a wonderful, loving mother. I know this really hits hard.

Praying for you.

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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 9:08am | IP Logged Quote Elena

Stephanie, I can totally relate. I had my little girl three days after my 46th birthday, but no pregnancies since then. It is hard to see that time go by. I totally empathize with what you are feeling!

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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 9:55am | IP Logged Quote Maria B.

8kids4me wrote:
My dh said he thinks my idea of heaven is for me to never hit the change, be pregnant with littles for eternity. I think he might be right.


That is heaven for me!

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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 10:51am | IP Logged Quote stacykay

I know, I know! I will be 45 in a few more weeks. When we were visiting oldest ds at college, there, at another table, was a simply scrumptious baby! About 2 months old, chubby as could be- I so could picture holding my boys at that age, the softness, squeezing (gently! ) those little chubby thighs. The feeling of your sweet babe snuggling against you....


And then I looked around at my boys. I am so blessed. I know that. I don't think the love of babies ever goes away. Maybe that is what will make us wonderful grandmothers (yikes!)?

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Grandchildren are truly God's way of softening the transition away from our own child-bearing season. If you are not yet blessed with grandchildren, try spending time helping other families with little ones...holding a baby really helps fill that yearning which never quite leaves your soul. We are miles and miles away from our newest grandchild and anxiously awaiting a visit soon! One of the blessings of enjoying grandchildren, godchildren and other sweet little ones is that you are able to savour the experience even more because you aren't caught up in fulfilling their every need like you were when raising your own...you get to enjoy the icing on the cake! This season gets easier and sweeter as it unfolds!

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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 1:18pm | IP Logged Quote Carole N.

I know the feeling ... and I still experience it! Praying for you now.

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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 4:12pm | IP Logged Quote St. Ann

All your words of compassion, prayers and hugs comfort me greatly!
I am so glad that I shared my heart with all of you.
I am truly greatful.

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Posted: Feb 25 2008 at 4:32pm | IP Logged Quote Angie Mc

I am SO with you, Stephanie! Let's pray for each other, OK?

Servant2theKing wrote:
This season gets easier and sweeter as it unfolds!


Keep reassuring us, Servant...keep reassuring us!

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One of the blessings of being a little further ahead on the journey is being able to turn back a moment, for the sake of encouraging and reassuring those who are traveling behind you, and let one another know that we can indeed survive the hills and valleys along the Way! Stephanie, your kindness and generosity in giving your baby things to firsttime mothers will surely bring blessings you cannot yet foresee! I'm praying the Lord will comfort and bless you as you grieve the loss of the precious baby years and look forward to whatever God has in store for you beyond this time.

St. Anne's Tearoom is such a blessing...thanks be to God that we can share our joys and sorrows here.

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Angie Mc wrote:
I am SO with you, Stephanie! Let's pray for each other, OK?



Oh yes, Angie! It is a comfort knowing that we are praying for each other! I am not very good at grieving...

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Servant2theKing wrote:
One of the blessings of being a little further ahead on the journey is being able to turn back a moment, for the sake of encouraging and reassuring those who are traveling behind you, and let one another know that we can indeed survive the hills and valleys along the Way! Stephanie, your kindness and generosity in giving your baby things to firsttime mothers will surely bring blessings you cannot yet foresee! I'm praying the Lord will comfort and bless you as you grieve the loss of the precious baby years and look forward to whatever God has in store for you beyond this time.

St. Anne's Tearoom is such a blessing...thanks be to God that we can share our joys and sorrows here.



Our Tearoom is indeed a blessing.
Thank you Servant for sharing your wisdom and for the encouragement!

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Posted: Feb 26 2008 at 1:22pm | IP Logged Quote jdostalik

Dear Stephanie,
I just saw your post and wanted to let you know that I am praying for you. What a wonderful gift you gave these new mothers. God will bless you for your generosity and love...

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