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Hi all,
I am the mom of a lovely set of twin, two year old girls. One of them is very compliant, tells me she loves me and is sort of the "mother" of the younger twin. The other twin is what I might call a type T personality. She doesn't seem to be afraid of much, except "buggies" which might be fuzz, imagined bugs in her bed etc. Anyway, she seems to have no fear of heights as evidenced by her jumping like a cat from her high chair just a half hour ago!!!!! I was putting a nice, homemade cinnamon bun on her plate at the stove and talking sweetly to her with my back turned. She mumbled something about my being "stupid" and the next thing I know, she was jumping from her high chair tray onto a mat on the floor and she landed just like a cat on all fours and then gave me her wild eyed look.
The other night, she was in dad's workshop area, found a long nail, and started to stick it in her nose when her dad caught her! She didn't even seem to care!!!! She has trouble talking as well as the first twin, which may lead to frustration on her part. As I mentioned earlier, she has taken to calling us "stupid". A word she unfortunately picked up from her older brothers.  I don't know whether or not to just ignore her or not. The other twin didn't seem to have this word "attach" to her, but the second twin says it ALLLLLLLLL the time now. It is sort of "cute" in a sad sort of way, (since she has a very tiny voice) and I don't THINK she knows what she is saying, but why did it attach to her like that? Also, her brothers think it is just hysterical, so maybe it fueled her doing it? (I think it sounds "cute" too, but I would never let HER know that. So maybe when she first said it, the reaction they gave her cemented it in her mind?????)
Anyway, I worry about her immensely because she seems to have a wild streak and an eye for mischief. Do you all think she is trying to set herself apart from the other twin? We do NOT favor the compliant twin in any way, and if anything, pay more attention to the wild one since she is always into something. It is possible that she just takes after her Dad, and I say this in all seriousness because he seems to have trouble with being more of a risk taker etc. That is usually condoned with males though, and I just wonder what the future holds for us. Is she going to take up bungee jumping, drive too fast, get in with a fast crowd???? I really do worry about this tiny little person. (She is very petite and just adorable.) Anyone else have toddlers who just don't seem to have any fear??? Is there a saint that helps out with little wild ladies? I always pray to both of their guardian angels since twins DO get into more trouble. I had 5 children before the twins, and they never thought up the things these two manage to. 
One possibility I thought of is that I have noticed in her a sensitivity to powdered pink lemonaide which I gave her the past few times we were out of milk. Each time, she saw "bugs" crawling around on her bed, (if my memory serves me right)then my bed, then with her Dad who took her downstairs to try to get her to sleep. (I hadn't made the connection at this point, so I kept giving it to her.) I mean, she was flaking out for quite some time about these "bugs". It frightened me to be honest, and I wondered WHAT she was seeing???? I gave her the lemonaide again yesterday since we were out of milk, she still takes a bottle, and last night she saw "buggies" in her bed again which made me start to connect the lemonaide. Her Dad had to be on the Feingold diet when he was a child in the 70's, so I was thinking that maybe she may have the same sensitivity as he did and that is making her be so wild???? I have had a lot of children, the oldest one has some allergies and sensitivities too. (Corn turned him into a real Jekyle and Hyde as a 3 year old. He would get dark circles under his eyes very soon after eating it and get very cranky. He is also allergic to shellfish, (sometimes will have a reaction just playing with clam shells or small shells on the beach), also, green apples with semi-severe reactions.) My husband will get hundreds of hives all over his body, in his ears, scalp etc. from being bitten by mosquitoes, and his Mother (my MIL) has had HUGE swollen lips from muskmelons before.) My side has a lot of milk and egg allergies. Anyway, maybe it could be allergies????? Thoughts???? I would not even know where to BEGIN in testing her as far as a restricted diet since she is a finicky eater anyway. (Except the lemonaide, obviously!!!!! That is OUT for good! )
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I do know that my kids have reactions to things with sugar in them... they go wild
If it worries you, you should call your ped as he can put you in contact with specialists.
They will ask you not to change any of her diet as yet.
If you dont want to go that far, you should keep a food diary (you should do this anyway) noting what she eats, when and any 'effects' you notice.
This can help anyone figure out what they are sensitive to... suddenly you notice patterns.
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If it makes you feel any better, my two-year-old "hates" everything right now. When she is in one of her moods, she says she hates everything even me, crosses her arms, and furrows her brow. She's also dealing with issues such as hitting, eating only one item at dinner time even if she likes everything offer, and not wanting to give or receive affection (which drives my husband crazy). I think part of it is that she is going through a phase where she is testing her limits and her power. And I should note that she is my more compliant and laid back child. 
She picked up the whole "hate" thing from her big sister who is very dramatic and has very deep emotion. Big sister thinks I'm the "best mommy in the whole world" when happy with my decisions and "hates me" when she is not happy with my decisions. She has high highs and low lows. We are really working with her about saying so much hateful stuff, which we should have nipped sooner. But it has rubbed off a bit on her little sister. We just re-enforce with the little one that she doesn't really "hate" us or we just ignore her mood.
I will note that older dd totally has a spirited "temperament", and she has been known to stick stuff up her nose. Last summer we were at the hospital because she stuck a broken bead from a necklace up her nose. She also used to stick everything in her mouth as a baby and toddler.
I would definitely look into food issues, as well as structure issues. She just may need some tweaking in that area.
Good luck!!
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That's a great idea. She has to go to the doc with her sister soon for her 2 year old check up, so I will mention it to her then. As I think about it more, it makes perfect sense that it is most likely food sensitivities. My husband told me that when he was on the Feingold diet, and followed it strickly as a child, he felt very calm and peaceful. If he would slip and eat something that was not allowed, he would feel very hyper and tense etc. I don't know why I never considered this with her, although I knew when it was happening with my eldest. At least I am finally waking up to a possibility, and I will start journaling what she eats. She often acts frustrated, and that would be a perfect explanation.
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Well I have one that managed to survive being 2 and is now a rather nice 5 yr old.. but he had no qualms about just taking off (we're in an area that the older kids can play out front and go down the street to a friends) on his own.. on a bike or a scooter (he could ride a 2 wheeled scooter at age 2)
Sometimes I think some children are just way to skilled for their maturity level 
So yes it does sound like a sensitivity.. and that might contribute.. but some children can be perfectly "normal" and still have little regard for personal safety..
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Re Barbara's mentioning beads up the nose:
Here's a removing the bead-up-the-nose trick (you don't even have to ask me how I know this):
put your finger over the nostril without the bead, to close it, and blow into the child's mouth (as if you were giving mouth-to-mouth resucitation).
A doctor suggested this to my husband AFTER he and our older son (not the one, with hindsight, I would have put money on doing this, but we didn't HAVE our third- and fourthborns yet) had spent seven hours in the ER. The docs were just about to put our son under to get it out surgically, when one of them said, "You know, I've heard this works . . . "
Quick as a flash, my husband did it; the bead shot out of the nose and pinged the opposite wall. This all happened around Christmas, and we still have that bead tucked under the manger in one of our Nativity sets -- which sounds totally gross, I realize. My husband put it there. I guess he felt sentimental about it. So every year we relive that adventure, and no one has ever even thought about removing the bead. I guess our grandchildren will get to inherit it.
Thought I'd mention that trick here, since it sounds as though this might come in handy for somebody at some point. Back to the food-sensitivity discussion.
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