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Does anyone have a rule like this? I can see it eliminating so many issues (particularly when we move ds#2 to the back with his brother after the baby comes) but then again, the kiddos LOVE dragging their stuff with them when we go out. TIA.
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I have a "what goes in must come out" rule, but I think I'd go crazy if I didn't let them have toys in the van when we're out & about. But, that's just me :)
I still have to remind them to bring their things back out when we're home again usually, but it works mostly. I went through a phase where they had to carry a bag with the things in & out, but I've let that one go.
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We don't have a toy rule, except they have to leave the toys in the car when we go to a store. It's usually a favorite action figure or doll that accompanies one of my children & they NEVER want to leave it behind.
Food is our problem. I'm still working on not letting them eat in the car.  If we plan to be out and about for a long time, I pack snacks and the ziplock bags or whatever is often left behind.
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I mostly say no toys in the car, and they complain as we walk out the door but that's all. If a toy is allowed in the van, it's not allowed into the store because things have been left behind. Also, it's only things I know we won't miss that are allowed in. Usually the kids are distracted enough by the radio/book on tape to not miss having a toy. Occasionally the boys will bring a book. I'm with Michaela. It's the food that's the real trouble for us.
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We had a "no Duplos in the car" rule after one too many Duplo disasters...this evolved to "no tiny toys in the car" and expanded to "DEFINITELY no crayons in the car."
Daycare boys' bottle-tossing led to the "no bottles or sippy cups in the car" rule.
We do have toys and food in the car, but I decide which food is OK. Dad decides which toys to ban.
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I do what Rachel does -- and echo Michaela's food troubles! 
The only exception is for the baby who MAY have an object to entertain himself and for long car trips when I allow the other boys a leapster, leap pads, books.
To me, there's more fighting with toys - they each want what the other has, etc. so that's why we do it.
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My husband and I don't have a rule because my son has never even brought it up. I don't know what we will do yet if he ever wants to. My aunt has a no toys in the car rule because she has been in many car accidents  and has learned that an innocent toy can become a dangerous projectile at high speeds.
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We don't usually allow toys in the car, either (exceptions include a long trip or a special stuffed animal for a doctor's visit).
We did buy each of the kids a small magnetic doodle pad to keep in the car. They were under ten dollars each. They are no mess, with no pieces to lose (since doodle pens are attached with cord), and are always easy to find in the vehicle. Even my younger daughter figured out how to clear the screen by about 20 months. It has been a real sanity saver at times.
Of course, they are usually both happy as long as we play their favorite Beatles albums continuously. 
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Thanks everyone. The battles that would be solved by this rule are
1. no fighting over toys when ds#2 gets moved to the backseat with ds#1.
2. no lost toys and resulting upsets while driving
3. no requests for van searches at bedtime
4. less mess
I like the idea of magna doodles in the van. Thanks everyone.
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I have been thinking about this thread every time I have gotten into the van and have seen the various toy bags our 3 yo has brought with her and left behind. I need to think some more on implementing a rule. One good thing is, at least they're all in bags and not rolling around willy-nilly. 
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