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Angie Mc
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Posted: Oct 24 2007 at 10:34am \| IP Logged

Taking Note of Change by Elizabeth Foss. Thanks, Elizabeth.

This article made me think of when I was pregnant for the first time with my now 15 yo dd. I worked full-time as a public administrator for a large woman's shelter provider. I remember expecting my pregnancy to not affect me...think about that...pregnancy to not affect me! My culture told me that professional life just moved forward in a very linear upward and onward way. At the end of my pregnancy, I would have a baby and within 6 weeks I would be back on track. I clearly remember feeling incredibly alone...was I the only woman who felt affected by pregnancy...the only woman who wanted to slow down...the only woman who couldn't snap back in 6 weeks? Now I just scratch my head and wonder how I could ever have underestimated the life-altering change that motherhood would bring to me.

"Taking Note of Change" helps me to see that I still have room for improvement in the area of correctly estimating the impact of change in my life and the lives of others. I want to become more sensitive, especially when a lot of change is happening all at once. Woman can be so vulnerable during these multi-change times. Tenderness, sympathy, hands-on help, patience, and encouragement can help.

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Posted: Oct 24 2007 at 12:41pm \| IP Logged

...Or how about when the oldest child moves fully into teenager-hood and the entire family dynamic changes?

I've been trying to voice my own fears and emotions about this to a girlfriend or two IRL and I get the blank-est stares. I realize its his life that is changing, but my life has changed radically as a result, and I have spent more than my fair share of time pondering, crying (keeping in mind I'm also 3rd trimester hormonal!), and worrying over it. A girlfriend who understands these things would be such a comfort. I cannot even imagine what it will be like when a child leaves home, given how life altering moving into the high school realm has been.

A great article, and a great reminder to be sensitive to those who are walking a few feet behind us (with youngers) and to look up to those walking a few steps in front of us (those with olders).

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