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Ruth -I am soo sorry!! We had a problem in Michigan with elderly neighbors who had no idea what homeschooling was. It was all cleared up but it made everyone stressed. It also made me very distrustful of my neighbors and paranoid about what time of day I would let them outside etc. i will pray for you for peace today!!
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burneweb wrote:
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Ruth, I am so sorry to hear this. I will pray for your peace of mind.
But I also second MacBeth's advice. Never let them in the house. I made that mistake when DHS visited us over our adopted son. We were written up and went through a lengthy paperwork battle to try and have the charges removed. This happened almost three years ago. I still do not know who reported us.
And just this morning, DHS showed up on my doorstep again. The same investigator as before (she is the one who helped us with the adoption). She never sat down and never left the front room. I wonder how this will turn out this time.
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Ruth, I'm so sorry this happened. And Carole, I'm praying that everything turns out alright for you!
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Well, not much got done today 
Thank you all for your prayers and your advice. What a wonderful community of friends! I am so blessed to be a part of your lives.
I spoke to a few of my neighbors, and I'm confident 3 of them did not call. There is still the ones accross the street. I hope nothing else comes out of this. This has been such an emotional and draining day.
Carole, I will pray for you too. I am sorry this happened to you this morning. Let's ask St. Agatha to intercede for us.
God bless you all.
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Ruth,
I am so sorry this has happened to you! I'm always worried someone is going to call SS on me-- I yell too much and I can't keep the kids in line when we're at the store. Back to no yelling and renew my HSLDA membership!
I''m so sorry you had to endure this!
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Ruth, I'm so sorry this has happened! I will pray all turns out well. It is so sad we have to live in fear and paranoia. Yet blessed are the persecuted.
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Ruth,
I just told Court about it and he said, "Obviously, it was someone who has never seen their mother!" 
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Oh, Ruth,, so hard for you! I will say prayers for your peace of mind. And for you, oo, Carole.
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Ruth,
Gosh how awful! This is the sort of thing that makes me want to buy a house in the country despite how much I love living in town. I will keep your situation in my prayers and your's too Carole.
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It's very sad when unfounded suspicion brings such distress to lovely people like Ruth and Carole. We've been blessed with supporting family and neighbors who are never home  . You're in my prayers, for sure.
We used to worry more about this kind of thing at our last duty station (fearing that a disgruntled person would attack dh by reporting us to the county on unfounded charges), but here we are doing well, so far.
The truth is, though, we're no safer from false accusations than were the early Christians (like all those lovely young ladies who were denounced after refusing to marry pagans). I think it's a wonderful idea to invoke their intercession at this stressful time.
Sigh.
My prayers are with all of you lovely ladies who've had to endure this kind of persecution. You are brave and wonderful.
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Thank you all for your prayers. I really do appreciate them. It is just so disconcerting to know that you are at the mercy of the people who placed this child in our home.
Ruth, I am adding this to our St. Joseph's novena.
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Ruth -
What a lousy day! I'm so sorry you had this happen. It is just ridiculous the way people can stick their noses in and see issues where there are none. I am praying for your peace of mind. Tomorrow should be a better day. 
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Ruth, I'm praying for peace for your family.
How sad and ridiculous!!
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Thank you for your prayers and support. It's unbelievable how one person's actions can affect so many people. The kids are a nervous wreck, my husband is not handling it well; he had a panic attack last night, and that's never a good thing. My neighbors are sad and hurt because I asked them if they were the ones who called. I couldn't get much school done yesterday, and today we're probably going to lose another day. I'm going to COSTCO this morning and stocking up my freezer.
I can't even talk to my mom about it, because she's always complaining that my kids are too thin, and says that my dd, who has IBS, is anorexic
People just don't think. They don't realize the consequences of their actions. We've narrowed it down to a family near us, whose only child id obese. They have asked our girls out to dinner a few times. Last month she came over and was questioning why I didn't let our 17dd date, she lets her 12 year old date, or why I didn't put the kids in school.
Now we have to show our children how to get past the hurt and learn to forgive. Unfurtunately, until we know for sure, we can't let our girls over there, and now her daughter will probably be hurt by it.
Now I'm off to finish cleaning the rest of the house and go grocery shopping. God bless you all, dear friends
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Ruth,
I am so sorry you have to deal with this. You and your family are in my prayers.
God Bless you,
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Ruth, I am so sorry you are going through this, I know just how hurtful and confusing it all is. You are right, people don't stop to think about the consequences of their actions.
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Oh dear! That is so ridiculous and awful. No one here is notably thin, but once DH and the boys were playing out front and DS (age 4) was knocking on the front door wanting to ask me for a glass of water. He misunderstood something DH told him and ended up going over and knocking on the neighbors' door and asking them instead for some water! Good thing DH was out there playing with the boys. No judgment on anyone letting her 4-year-old outside alone, but in our environment it doesn't work, so one of us is always with them. I guess DH's attention was more immediately focused on our 2-year-old though, so the neighbor called over to DH and asked if he could give DS some water. DH explained the misunderstanding but the neighbor was just amused and asked if he could give DS a bottle of water anyway and did. Even then the thought crossed my mind what if he thought we had been refusing to hydrate our child for some reason, but we have a decent relationship with them, and having raised 3 kids of his own the neighbor probably knows silly things happen.
DS also recently had a visible injury (bad bruising around cheekbone/eye from falling and hitting a hard part of the couch) on a Saturday afternoon that I was so relieved the pediatrician didn't think was ER material when I called, partly because DS was so upset when he heard us talk about "the hospital" and partly because of the suspicion thing. I was quite at ease visiting the pediatrician on Monday to get it checked out, because they have both knowledge of accidental injuries and a long, pleasant history with us, and just "intuition" about what child abuse looks like I guess. I was afraid that ER people would have to "err on the side of caution" or something without knowing us and it might have added to suspicion if DS was really scared and upset about being there, whereas he was cheerful and chatty at the pediatrician's (confidently declaring that he did not need any shots.) I was actually more concerned about the public than the pediatrician since presumably most people don't even know how to assess what is likely to be an accidental injury. (Where he hit himself is one of the more likely places to be hurt in a fall.) He had an X-ray that confirmed he didn't fracture anything, but he still has some much lighter bruising in the area over a week later.
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Oh Ruth how scary! My kids are all rail thin and I found out recently from my sister-in-law that some in my dh's family think we don't feed them enough! But she assures me she has set them all straight since she observed when she was here for weeks at a time over the last few months, that my kids eat all the time!
Dh and I were both very thin for years. It's caught up with us now  .
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Oh I remember this. We were in Memphis together when this happened weren't we. As I recall you got food poisoning that weekend as well. Not a great weekend for you! Though we did have fun.
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This is a good point...though at least we shouldn't have to worry about being fed to the lions!
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Oh Ruth, I just read this thread. I am so sorry this happened to you. I pray that your family will be able to return to a peaceful state of mind.
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