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Stephanie,
This has been the answer to prayer getting these honest, heartfelt posts. I hope God blesses you richly for taking the time! It means so much.
(Are you guys IN my life---what's going on here? The similarities are amazing....) 
So much of what you wrote I could have written, too. It is so much the same. I really can't do 5 anymore either--- with 2 "babies" running around extremely noisily and demandingly. The house just isn't big enough or safe enough to "put them somewhere"  !
And today: well, I just couldnt' do it. I announced to everyone I had to go upstairs and sleep in the PITCH DARK and they would have to wing it. I tried to squeeze in 2 subjects per child...quickly: religion and reading comp. before 11:00 AM. Honestly, I'm just at a loss, as you described. I wish a fairy (an angel, really) would arrive, but one isn't. This isn't a fairy tale. You guys are as close to fairy godmothers as I get. But that's pretty darn close, and I am thankful, so thankful.
NOTHING has brought me comfort like hearing from all of you and of our shared experience. It truly vivifies me. You are going through almost identical struggles and totally understand, and that alone helps. To have someone understand. And to give me "permission" to feel the way I do...crushed. But yet....ready to be revived, waiting, hopeful, expecting great things because of prayer. Because of all of you.
What you said about seeing the big picture. Ahhh...another great priest used to say that to me: "you don't see the big picture, you're focusing too much on the stress and details right in front of you, but wait 'til later....you'll see the fruits". I used to say, "Oh, I'm going to have to just believe you, Father, because it's hard to project myself into that place now!" "Let's hope!!!"  All I can see is kids falling away, kids damaged, mom having a nervous breakdown, dysfunction and victim-blame cycles that so much sociology and psychology just perpetuates in our anti-family, anti-authority times. I know, it's awful I'm admitting this. I'm just admitting to you. Forgive me: it's just those dark fears.  I mustn't dwell on it. Just take all those thoughts captive to make them obedient to Christ----- as I'm sure they're put there by the Evil One.
We must hold on!!!! We must. God knows what we are up against. And now: back to reality. Thanks again for writing. 
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I forgot to say...
Willa, you are too kind.
If that is so, then it must be because I feel peace, I am happy because we just celebrated Mass for the Enrollment of Kate in the Sodality of the Blessed Virgin Mary. They worked hard and prepared for a long time using Fr. Lasance's Book for Girls and doing the whole Montfortian Total Consecration to Mary. Kate is actually right near me in the picture, a little lower. Even though I am a giant, she took after the Murphy side and is not!
There are actually very few pics of me and that one, well, is the honest-to-goodness most recent from this summer, so YEA...you all "know" me now and better come up and hug me if you see me in person somewhere!
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Nina, you so much fun and such a dear! I've been praying for you.
My best little early pregnancy tip is make meals in the crock pots then plug them in out on your deck or garage so you don't have to smell the cooking smells all day in the house.
Now I have to ask, I'm 6', how tall are you? Maybe we should arrange some future marriages among our children.
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This thread is so pertinent to all of us, I think.
Thanks for starting it, Nina!
I'm sending you  ...
Can I bring over a meal - next week?
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Well, guess what, Bridget? Me too. And I have the large frame to match.  And yet my children for some strange reason end up being pretty small at birth....my husband is 5'11" but most of his family is small (he's the giant in his family). My dad and his brothers in their prime were all 6'4". But you should see how my children all look like little Murphys. (I've tried hard to get one to look like my side!  ... and I hear about it..."oh, no, not another one, mini-Brendan".)
Maria, you have ENOUGH on your own plate. I will not ever turn down offers for help, but maybe we could wait until you have Steve home for a while....and then you could come over with the kids to play/babysit while I go take a nap!
Do you have my number?
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Thanks for keeping the counsel coming, Stephanie. I really appreciate your sacrifice to sit and write it all out. It's painful at times to get these things out on "paper" and trust they will be well recieved. I have to be very careful who I talk to....SO I NEED you all. Thanks for putting up with me.
God's abundant overflowing blessings to everyone...
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Oh, Bridget:
The helpful "secret" was much appreciated....you brought to my mind the power of the crock pot and how I had forgotten it. You're right...it's crucial to get the meal prepared before one starts to expire mid-afternoon. Thank you for your practical suggestion!
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It's 6:30 in the morning and I didn't even look at the computer. Sorry again.
(I wish Nicholas would just be himself, anyway!  )
(And it would be nice if he was the one re-discovering the power of the crockpot! Ha!)
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Hi Nina
I have been researching prenatals and different vitamins over the last year. I have finally found a prenatal that I love - it is a liquid by Natures Plus (they have just brought out a range of liquids - I have also been buying the Liquid C and the children's multi for the toddler as it tastes lovely)It is called "Source of Life Prenatal Liquid" - has very good % of vitamins eg 800 of folic acid. It costs $15.95 for a 30 day supply. It does not constipate and the zinc does not make me nauseous. I am not expecting but I think I will able to keep this in.
Other vitamins/food that have been suggested to me and have helped with energy and general stamina and wellbeing:
- a magnesium supplement. I get the powder and make a drink before bed and it is so relaxing and helps with muscle tension and peaceful sleep. I get Peter Gillham's Natural Calm - in the same range there is one for expectant and nursing mothers
- eating a lot of protein - I used to prefer carbs and veg - now I eat a lot more red meat in particular and find I have more energy. Homemade chicken soup has kept me going through all the pregnancies
- coconut oil for energy - it is supposed to provide direct energy into the bloodstream - but I am not sure I would be able to keep it in if I was pregnant
- I do not take fish oils at all - because some of my kids have severe fish allergies - and I do not tolerate the fish oil very well. I am researching an alternative source of omegas - I sometimes do not react well to flax oil - and definitely would not toldrate the taste when expecting
Take care of yourself
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Dear Marilyn,
Thank you SO for taking the time to write. Wonderful advice here. I have never even considered liquid vitamins; are they considered more easily absorbable? That might really be the ticket. I have a feeling most of what I take is getting flushed out (looking at my urine).
Right now, just thankful to God for each day with this life inside me....still going strong, I hope. One day at a time. I don't take anything for granted...
Have a blessed, peaceful Sunday!
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as far as vitamins that are well absorbed.. some you can check out that aren't liquid
NF Formulas Prenatal Forte (this is the one I use and wow did it ever make a difference)
Rainbow Light Prenatals (it's a 6 pills a day one - I'm not sure of the exact name)
they're very similiar.. and make such a difference.. I was pregnant with #4 and was taking good prenatals just ones that were a much lower doseage.. and we moved.. I would have about 2 hours in the afternoon I would have to park the kids in front of the tv because I couldn't really trust myself to stay awake. New midwife recommended the NF formulas one and within a week of taking those I didn't even feel like I wanted a nap let alone how I'd felt like I couldn't trust myself to stay awake.
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I am looking into THOSE--thank you! Wow...by Noon I'm pretty much done for so that would be a miracle. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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Nina,
It's kind of off the topic, but I was searching for something completely different and came across this archived post on peace at hom and sleep deprivation. After thinking of me , I thought of you.
I hope it helps some. And now that Elizabeth has had her baby, I pray that the issues that caused her to post that are resolving themselves. 
ETA: it would help if I actually linked to the post! Here it is. I hope!
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Thank you for thinking of me, you angel. Must have been a Holy Spirit moment.
My veins are really troubling me already (and not to get too personal, the legs aren't the most aggravating and troublesome area . I'm not sure what this means. I'm only 10 weeks! ???? I am so tall and of a large frame so it is hard to fit into those hose....  Already? Can this be my imagination?
No electricity here all day...we had to go out for the day. Gotta get to bed as I am one fatigued mommy. Thank you for praying. My husband and I need it so much.
And I will pray for you, too!!!
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