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Philothea, I understand your feelings, when I see my sister who has fertility problems, this is how she feels - I think they are quite natural but like all things we want to rise above the natural to the supernatural, so that we do not stay in the negative indefinately. The fact you are asking for prayers and would be praying yourself is just wonderful - my sister is not at that stage at all. 
I wouldn't worry about your husband's age if I were you, there are plenty of older fathers like never before. There is a big age difference between my husband and myself, similar to yours and we had our first baby (conceived 4 months after marriage) when dh was 45, that was 12 years ago, we have 5 and wish ardently for more.... Don't listen to the negative talk of anyone in this area, because people are apt to use any excuse to stop people from being open to life. I could say that my dh 'cherishs' 'relishs' his fatherhood, maybe in a way some younger fathers take for granted? He is a beautiful parent and with patience and the like puts me to shame! 
Don't focus on your regrets. As Padre Pio says, "Pray and don't worry!" NAPRO technology is a very successful, Catholic technology and there are usually doctor's everywhere, it might be worth visiting one, to make sure there is no particular reason for this break.
I will pray for you!
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Philothea wrote:
I feel like we're being punished for trying to control things.
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Praying for you.
It's not for me to tell you how to feel, but God LOVES you! 
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aussieannie wrote:
Don't listen to the negative talk of anyone in this area, because people are apt to use any excuse to stop people from being open to life. I could say that my dh 'cherishs' 'relishs' his fatherhood, maybe in a way some younger fathers take for granted? He is a beautiful parent and with patience and the like puts me to shame!
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Thank you (and everyone) for your prayers. I do feel lifted by them. And I think you are right that people will use any excuse to discourage openness to life (isn't that so sad?). You are right, my husband is incredibly patient with our son and is a much more capable parent than I am in many ways, all because he is older. Maybe he won't be playing football in the park with later children, but he will have amazing gifts to give in his own way, and I am still young enough for that football game! I'm the one who does most of the roughhousing with Ian anyway.
I am going to look into seeing a specialist, in the meantime, I just reread the chapter on infertility in my copy of Life Giving Love and am following the suggestions listed there, as well. I found the section on iodized salt interesting, as I used to consume it all the time, but switched to sea salt after my honeymoon because it was what we had at the hotel and it tasted delicious. I've used it ever since, which is to say, ever since just after the conception of my first child. If a shortage of iodized salt in the diet can afftect fertility, then I would definitely be at risk for that since I haven't eaten it in years. And it might explain why we had no trouble conceiving back when I was an iodized salt junkie, too. Hmm. Anyway, I had plenty of iodized salt on my potatoes tonight! I'm also going to take B6.
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Dear Philothea,
Please don't feel guilty. God is not punishing you.
Praying that he will answer your prayers soon!
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I really need extra prayers in this area right now. It has been a hard few days. And also please pray for the relationship between my DH and I. This is wearing on us. Tonight was probably THE night we should have tried, and DH just went to bed without telling me or saying goodnight, I guess he was too tired to deal with it. I feel like a sex machine, and not in a good way. I don't feel desirable at all, just like another chore on his list. This whole thing is burdening us. It's easy to say "put the burden on Christ," but then I see my friends with their precious babies and round pregnant tummies and read all the joyful announcements here, and I just want to cry. I'm happy for you all ... I just can't help thinking "Why not us, too?" I am scared for the future, scared of going to the doctor and finding out what's wrong ... I'm just scared. I know God doesn't give us a spirit of fear but I am struggling ... please, please pray for me and DH and our lovely little 2.5 year old boy who is caught in the middle of all this frustration and stress when it is not his fault at all. Please pray.
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Oh, dear Philothea....sending .
I will offer prayers for you.
Know you're loved - especially through the struggle....
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Haven't dealt with precisely the same issue, but I know how hard it is to see your little ones affected by your own ongoing stresses that they can't understand. I'll pray for you, Philothea.
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I will pray for you...sending
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Praying for you, Philothea...
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Praying for you.
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Like so many others, I know all too well your feelings. I will be praying for you and all of us who struggle with infertility.
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