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Am so sorry to hear of this Tina, will pray for your peace and tranquility for God's Will. Hugs to you and your family.
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Oh, Tina. I am so very, very sad for you right now. Suffering with you....
There is nothing I can say, but: God is good. He is all Love. And remember the reality that this is NOT finished: ...."nothing is definitively lost...." (as JP II said of preborn loss). You WILL meet again.
And your child is more capable of aiding you....and helping you get to Heaven now, and is more spiritually powerful.
I know...it's all just words right now.
May you have peace with the D/C. I chose to go the natural route and even though I got to see a little body.... it WAS hard. There was a lot of waiting, stopping, starting, and an intense "labor" my family had to deal with. Then all of the days of expulsion that were unexpected. I think perhaps I would consider the D/C in the future if it were an issue....????
 from me out here in California....(can you feel them)? 
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Dear Tina,
I just read about your loss now. I am so sorry. May God wrap you in His love and comfort you all.
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Oh, I am so sorry to read this. I will pray for you.
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Tina, I am so very, very sorry. I will be praying for you in the days and weeks ahead. Please take time to rest and mourn and heal.
Love,
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Tina,
I want you to know that I am praying for you, too. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I'm very sorry for your loss. I will pray for you.
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I am so confused as to how I'm supposed to feel about this whole thing. I felt at peace with it from Wednesday through Sunday. Then on Sunday night, I read a part in my current book, How to Win the Cultural War that just startled me. Now, I know I'm a bit naive, but I *do* know one method in which women abort their babies. Why did he have to mention the method they used to extract my baby? My emotions plummeted from that point on.
I keep telling myself that it wasn't my fault and that I couldn't choose which procedure would do what needed to be done and then a voice inside me says, "Yes it was. If you hadn't had so much caffeine, if you'd have exercised more, if you had done more penance ... "
Having that done was an affront to my love for humanity, for babies! I feel so cheap, like I never valued that baby's life. But I do! Oh, I so value this baby it's tearing me apart! I keep thinking that if this baby had lived for even a few minutes, if I got to hold him or her, it would be ever so much more difficult on me. And why in the world am I crying for someone I only saw through a sonogram? So many of you have lost ever so much more than this!
Why did it take a few days for my heart to catch up with my brain?
I have to pull myself to gether and take care of the rest of the kids.
Thanks for listening to my blabbering.
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Tina, Dear -
I'm praying to St. Michael for you right now. This was not your fault. These thoughts you are having are an attack.
You are a wonderful, loving mother who would never, ever take life for granted or do anything that could harm your baby. Miscarriage happens; God allows it; He knows your hurt and He wants to comfort you.
Lean on Jesus through His Mother. Let them hold you and love you.
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tina - i struggled with these emotons as well. I felt like it was my fault and that i was doing something wrong. the D & C felt so invasive. Of course that was Satan lying to me!
I will pray for strength for you Tina. Give ourself time and know that you did NOTHING wrong and that your little angel is where God wants him/her - in heaven with him.
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I second what Nancy said. Satan is attacking you, trying to rob you of much needed comfort and peace. Maybe you should set the book down for a while and read something a bit more uplifitng. (I wish I had a good recommendation, but I'm not much of a reader!  The only thing that comes to mind is The World's First Love by Fulton Sheen, but I don't know that it is what you need.) If it is any comfort, I'm sure that it would have been more painful to go to term and then have that little one die. The longer we have our children, the harder it is when thye go. I do not know this from personal experience, but from seeing and hearing others.
You continue in my prayers, Tina! May our Mother hold you close.
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Oh, Tina, yes, I so agree with the others. You did NOTHING wrong, and even though a d&c is not a pleasant procedure, it is sometimes medically necessary (as I know all too well!) and God gave your doctor the wisdom he needed to take care of you and to save your health.
Rest, and take care of yourself. Perhaps pray the Rosary, or the Memorare, or whatever prayer to our Blessed Mother comforts you. She, the mother of us all, is praying for you in this loss. She knows your sorrow and she'll lay it at the Lord's feet and ask Him to send you peace and comfort.
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Tina, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please know that I am praying for your comfort and peace.
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This is horrible. I am so very, very sorry, Tina. Praying for you, dear one.
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I went through this with my first miscarriage, Tina. So common for us, I think.
I just think TIME heals. It will. But not now. You don't have to pretend this is easy! 
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Tina P. wrote:
| Oh, I so value this baby it's tearing me apart! I keep thinking that if this baby had lived for even a few minutes, if I got to hold him or her, it would be ever so much more difficult on me. And why in the world am I crying for someone I only saw through a sonogram? |
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Dear Tina,
I agree with Janette in believing that the sorrow would have been so much more if your baby had been born after a full pregnancy. But I DO understand why you are crying for someone you only saw on a sonogram. I have done so too - twice. And the first time I didn't even have a sonogram to prove my baby existed, only the blood counts.
As a mother, you know what your loss represents. You know that you lost a real baby. The pain of such a loss is tremendous. Please go ahead and let yourself grieve. But don't blame yourself at all. It wasn't your fault in any way.
May God give you peace about this and help you to heal.
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I am so sorry, Tina. This is just heartbreaking. I've never had a miscarriage, but can understand a bit about how you are reacting to the procedure of the D&C. Your precious baby had already died, so of course there is a huge difference. I know you know that in your head, it may just take awhile for your heart.... You've done nothing wrong. I like what Nina said about not pretending that this is easy. I will pray for you tonight and all this week, especially that you are receiving the rest and support you need to get through this. Please post again soon and let us know how you are doing.
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Praying for you Tina. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Tina, I'm so very, very sorry. Please know prayers continue.
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Erica Sanchez wrote:
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Oh, yes, absolutely. Of course you grieve for that little person seen only on an ultrasound. He or she was still your precious little person, seen or unseen. And of course this isn't easy ... it never is. Experience at it doesn't make it easier (different, perhaps, but not easy.)
Grieve, take time, take care of yourself ....
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