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I originally posted this in Growing older, growing wiser... I think this is the better thread for my comments.
I'm weaning my 17 month old now. Just once a day. My mother had breast cancer and I desperately want to get some screening in before I become pregnant again. They say I need to be 3 months dry before they can get good images. I'm afraid I'll be pregnant before the 3 months comes to an end. (I was scheduled for a breast MRI two years ago when I found out my youngest was on her way.) I trust completely in God to fashion my family. However, I know I owe it to my husband and children to screen diligently and take care of myself. Is anyone else dealing with this?
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Dear all -- after 10 years of trouble conceiving, our family welcomed baby #4 last March. Brothers were 17yo and 15yo at the time and our "baby" dd was 10! I'd been battling with thyroid trouble since dd was born in 1995 and had stopped hoping...even to the point of garage saling all our baby stuff when dd turned 6. . Our latest love was born 2 weeks before my 45th birthday, and I'm hoping that if I'm back in baby-making mode, we'll have more!
I've got to say the toughest part has been NOT having younger kids in the house to occupy the baby. . it actually seemed easier when I had a toddler/pre-schooler around to make "monkey-shines." My big kids are good helpers, but it's not the same.
Just my $.02,
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I don't think I am likely to hae another child  but I would love one, simple for the joy of babies and rodlers and preschoolers and....its joy. 
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Yes I would love another  .
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Bless you all for the love and comfort you give through your posts! 
And thank you, Chari for bringing me here. You are right, this IS where God wants me to be. 
Though I often feel heavy peri-menopausal symptoms, I do feel God's still, quiet, voice calling us to another baby. I will keep you posted.... 
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[QUOTE=seven2hold] I originally posted this in Growing older, growing wiser... I think this is the better thread for my comments.
I'm weaning my 17 month old now. Just once a day. My mother had breast cancer and I desperately want to get some screening in before I become pregnant again. They say I need to be 3 months dry before they can get good images. I'm afraid I'll be pregnant before the 3 months comes to an end. (I was scheduled for a breast MRI two years ago when I found out my youngest was on her way.) I trust completely in God to fashion my family. However, I know I owe it to my husband and children to screen diligently and take care of myself. Is anyone else dealing with this?
We talked about this some in a thread called mammograms in Our Lady of Good Remedy not too long ago. I think it's an issue we all think about. I was able to have a screening ultrasound in place of a mammogram since my dd is a nursing addict. That did make me feel better.
I will be 40 in October, so I feel like I have a reservation for this forum for later in the year. I married older and then did not have my first until I was 35. I would so love another, and I have to admit that I do feel almost angry that I am getting older and time is running out! If only I had gotten an earlier start... but God had other plans. So it makes me feel better to read all the posts. I do keep hoping and praying for just one more.
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seven2hold wrote:
I originally posted this in Growing older, growing wiser... I think this is the better thread for my comments.
I'm weaning my 17 month old now. Just once a day. My mother had breast cancer and I desperately want to get some screening in before I become pregnant again. They say I need to be 3 months dry before they can get good images. I'm afraid I'll be pregnant before the 3 months comes to an end. (I was scheduled for a breast MRI two years ago when I found out my youngest was on her way.) I trust completely in God to fashion my family. However, I know I owe it to my husband and children to screen diligently and take care of myself. Is anyone else dealing with this?
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I don't have mammogram converage, but I've nursed six children at least a year each, and that really lessens my chance for breast cancer. So I'm not worried about it. If I get pregnant, I get pregnant.
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... because we've learned from past mistakes, or because our fertility is wearing down and we know we only have so many chances left, or do we just love having babies?
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It's all three for me Mary. Wonderful post. Most of the world would think any of us over 35 would be nuts for actually wanting another baby. But I still hope for one nonetheless. Thanks for putting it into words!
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I would love another one too, especially since my last three were losses. It is sad to end with losses.
I guess it sounds even selfish to want just one more chance at that joy, but if anyone would understand, this wonderful group of women would.
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momtomany wrote:
I would love another one too, especially since my last three were losses. It is sad to end with losses.
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Maryann, I always feel like it is selfish to want another child and I was very encouraged by Ven. Solanus Casey who said the desire for a child comes from God. I think the world tells us we are selfish. But, I think the truth is just the opposite.
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Okay, I'll jump in here, too!
I've had babies over 4 decades (same husband, no artifical conception or anything). By 40, I had 6 living children and 1 miscarriage. Then I had 3 more miscarriages and no pregnancies for 6 years. Somewhere in there, I figured the old body was done, had enough. (Also I had some health problems, including thyroid cancer.)
It was hard for me to come to terms with the supposed end of childbearing. I think most women who like and want children go through a normal grieving period that that part of their life is over. But I did, somewhere around 45, I think.
Then, shortly before my 48th (that is FORTY-EIGHTH- NOT a typo) I became pg with our last. SURPRISE SURPRISE! (EASY pregnancy, fairly easy delivery.) So now I am 52 with a 3 yo!
Are we done???? 
God only knows. I think it would not be prudent to have more (mainly becuase my cancer has returned and is a MAJOR concern- prayers apprecaited!). But I can still laugh and say who knows??? I am still cycling (to be honest, wouldn't mind being done with that either!) I love teasing my older ones (28, 25, 23). (I am also granny (that the G part of MatureMomG) to 3, 2 of whom are older than my little one!
To save time, here is a link to another board I just joined (shelaughed.com). On that post there is also a link to "my" story. Long and lots of detail for those who like that kind of thing! I DO get long winded sometimes!
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I'm so glad you joined this forum!
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My oldest is going to be 21 this summer... but put me on the list of those who long for another child. We have various heavy-duty issues that would complicate another pregnancy, but from reading the message board through several deep discussions I know I'm not the only one, which is a relief and support in itself.
For years I have felt a kind of "white envy" or emulation for the moms who are having grandchildren at the same time as children. If this is what God wants for me, I'd be thrilled and so would my husband. If it ISN'T meant to be, that's the way it is, but I'm so glad God worked on my heart to that extent... when I was first married I was deadly afraid of having "too many children" and couldn't bear to even think about homeschooling because I wanted time for myself and felt a deep insecurity about being able to teach my own. God has brought me through a real sea-change in so many ways.
Praying for all of you who would like another one... the other day I was standing at the kitchen sink and it was almost like I heard Bridget's voice (which I've only "heard" online, never in person) "begging for another child". I started praying so hard for all of us! and I also offer up my daily Angelus for those who are pregnant or want to be.
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Hi kathy (Maturemom)good to see you here! I don't know if you remember me, but I used to be a part of the Catholic Mom's community. You have been in my prayers...I hope all is going well. How's that sweetie pie of yours doing?
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Hey, Kathy, thanks for your inspiring story - I am 46, oldest son is 26, youngets son is 11, and I have had miscarriages in recent years. I'd love another baby and your story gives me hope.
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Wow a baby at 48. I would love that. My daughter is 21 months now and I would so love for her to have a playmate so she isn't totally alone as my house slowly empties out!! Thanks so much for your inspiring story.
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Tifflynene wrote:
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I get that too, sometimes! My oldest is 14, but I didn't get married until I was 33 so perhaps I do look older. 5 years after the last baby (born when I was 41), I found out that I wouldn't be able to have anymore, and then I cried and cried. But in a way I was releived. Each year that passed I worried how I would manage a baby "at my age." I am so much more tired now!
God does have his plan!!
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Okay, I've been putting off posting to this because it just breaks my heart....I would LOVE another baby. However, after 4 c-sections the doctor recommended (strongly) that we not have any more dc and after much praying I feel that it is what God desired for our family as well. However, I ache to have another baby. I miss the smell, the feel, everything.... I look at my dd3 and just want to cry (and do late at night) because I want more. When we had her, both dh and I felt our family was complete but now, like I said, I ache for another. I know deep in my heart that like Margot said I am so much more tired now and dd3 is QUITE a handful (in a good way ). So advice here...how do I come to terms with the feeling of wanting another when I know it is NOT God's will???
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theogles wrote:
So advice here...how do I come to terms with the feeling of wanting another when I know it is NOT God's will???
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Therese,
I'll be praying for you. For me, when I am struggling to accept something that appears to be God's will, but my emotions say otherwise, I pray in this way:
Lord,
Please transform my desires
to be conformed to Your Will.
If what I desire is not Your will,
decrease my desire for *my* will,
and increase my desire for Yours.
Amen.
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theogles wrote:
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I'd get a second opinion. Most doctors only do one or two Cesareans per lady so you're probably getting into territory he's not familiar with. I'd look around. I know moms who have had eight C-sections. I also know a lady who had a VBAC after four C-sections. You could also get your surgical report and take that with you to another doctor. I don't think I'd give up if I were you unless I really researched it first!
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