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It has gotten bad here.
As many of you already know, my grandsons (now aged 1 and 3) came to live with us last mother's day. My oldest daughter (22) is about as lost as a soul can get but thankfully realized at the time she needed help and let us care for the boys and help her get herself back on track. We thought it was working. We had been working on transitioning the boys back to her slowly over many months. First a day or so a week, then three days a week, and she had finally looked as if she could handle having them full time. She had a decent job. She looked as if she was getting it together. But over the last few weeks it has all fallen apart again.
Last night, when dh and I went to pick up a vehicle we had loaned her we found drugs in it, some kind of white powder in tiny baggies. We found "Plan B" in it, with some of it taken. We found evidence to support our suspicion that she was back to working as a "dancer" at nights.
We found the children left once again with a casual aquaintance who claimed she didn't know where my daughter was or when she would be back. She had been gone 2 days. The children were dressed only in dirty diapers and smelled of urine all over. No food in the house. The girl had bought milk for the baby and had missed a day's work caring for the children and was angry about that.
So we took the boys back to our house, but not after calling police to report the drugs and tell them what was going on. The responding officer agreed the boys are in danger. He believes our daughter is dealing drugs, or at the very least using.The boys are wild, unruly, clingy, and very, very needy. The little one will not let me out of his sight. He wokes up at night several times to check if I am still by him and if I leave him a moment he cries unconsolably. The older boy whines alot and sleeps all day and is up all night.
Today dd shows up back in town and calls, outraged, wanting her kids back. Calling me every name in the book. I left the house and went to speak with social workers and police officers. They tell me if she shows up I cannot refuse to give the children to her. They will most likely not charge her with the drugs as she has denied they were hers and they cannot prove otherwise. Besides, it takes 5-6 months for the lab results to come back to prove they are drugs at all and they cannot charge her without that also. Social services has yet to determine if they will investigate. Our tax dollars at work.
To top it all off, dh has had to fly out of state for a job interview he annot afford to miss. He left this morning and returns wednesday night. Needless to say, we are all distraught. My children love these boys as dearly as they love each other and they cannot help but be angry and confused, and sad. My son, Sam is taking it especially hard. He keeps looking out the window, worried that every car that passes is my daughter coming to take them away. She has not shown up yet.But she will. And when she does I will have to give her the boys and she will take off and I will likely never see them again.
Please pray for us.
God, have mercy on us all.
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Oh, dear Theresa,
You all have our prayers. We will be praying the rosary in a few minutes.
God Bless you - I wish I could more for you....
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My heart breaks for your family, Theresa. I will be praying and praying.
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Praying for you all and for God's protection upon these boys as well as for your daughter. 
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Theresa,
I'm so sorry... I'm praying for you all and asking Sts. Monica, Augustine, and Nicholas to take special care of you all!
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This is truly a devastating situation, and I will be praying for you and your family, Theresa. I am so sorry.
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Oh Theresa, I will pray for all the dc and your broken heart and your dd.
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Theresa,
I'm so sorry to hear this after things had seemed like they were getting better. I can hear your heartbreak and I pray that it won't happen. My prayers are with all of you.
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Theresa, I am so sorry about all of this. I'll be praying for you and your family daily.
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Theresa,
I am so sorry for all of you. Bless you. I am praying.
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Therese,
I will be praying for you and your dear family.
God Bless, Anne
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I think of you & those boys often...so sorry to hear this update. Can you call social services & start the process to have custody of those beautiful boys. They desperately need your love & stability.
Asking Mother Mary to comfort & protect those little guys.
Also a prayer to St Joseph for you dh's interview
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Oh, my hear is breaking for your family. These poor boys. I will keep you in my prayers.
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I'm so sorry, Theresa. I will pray for all of you.
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Praying right now, Theresa!
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Theresa, it is heartbreaking. I am praying for your grandsons and your daughter.
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Praying, praying, praying for them and all of you!!
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Oh, Theresa, I am praying here for all of you. I can't imagine what this situation must be like for you.
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Dear Theresa, This is so heartbreaking. I will be praying for you. I will ask Our Lady of Guadalupe to intercede for you and take care of your family and those prescious little boys. I am so sorry you are going through this. God bless you.
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