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Anne, and Sara, this thread has blessed me greatly...the words I posted earlier were meant for my own contemplation, as well as for the sake of others. We are in the midst of helping our only daughter, and our precious granddaughter (who have lived with us for the past six years), as they pack all their earthly belongings and prepare to move hundreds of miles away less than a week after Christmas...my human heart is breaking, but we are also rejoicing because their move is an answer to many, many prayers for them. Only by the grace of God am I able to handle the bittersweet emotions of this time...the lessons God has taught me, throughout a lifetime of surviving and learning to surrender to His Will, are my greatest lifeline right now!
The ups and downs of caring for infants and toddlers eventually give way to different struggles, such as watching our dear ones take flight into lives of their own. As much as you are able, treasure the difficult moments, as well as the joyous ones, and tuck them away in your heart for the day your little ones will no longer need you quite as much! I pray the Lord will bless each of you dear ladies, and your dear children, abundantly!
4 lads' mom, I love the story of FEED MY SHEEP! God is so simple, direct and merciful, especially when we are struggling to hear His still small Voice in the midst of the chaos of life!!!
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Thanks everyone for the great thoughts on this thread. Really what I needed to read. This Advent has been simple survival for me. And a real lesson in relinquishing control. I had a great Advent plan written with crafts and activities and field trips and cooking. And then the worst morning sickness hit - most days just getting off the couch was a major achievement. We did not do most of the things I planned - and the worst was I did not enjoy anything we did as it was such a struggle - and hoped that my kids did not sense this. I like to make sure my kids eat healthy food and that my house is neat and tidy - and even this I could not really do - so I struggled with guilt at first. But it has been a very quiet Advent and Christmas - and I am so grateful that although Christmas Eve was one of my sickest days, I made it to Midnight Mass and it was so beautiful and the kids really loved it.
Thanks again for the encouraging posts.
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Marilyn, God bless you, everyone has had such great hings to share with you, I just pray that you realize you are doing such a beautiful job raising little souls. Even when you feel sooooo horrible try to remember that someday you will step away from your "painting" and see it for the lovely piece of Art that it is!
I had 3 in 2 1/2 yrs. and I know the surving feeling well. I have again felt it for the past 10 mos. On good days I try and accomplish something that will make me feel like I'm gaining control again, but mostly I just try to accept that this is who I am for now, and God willing another day will come when I can feel differntly. If not that is OK, (small joke here) I just tell myself I am on this earth to make other mothers feel good about themselves and their homes 
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molly wrote:
...I just pray that you realize you are doing such a beautiful job raising little souls. ... someday you will step away from your "painting" and see it for the lovely piece of Art that it is!
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What a wonderful thread, loaded with wisdom! And I like the title: When you're always surviving". Just surviving is okay--especially when we remember one of the options is not surviving.
As molly wrote, mothers do extremely important work. We try to raise godly children, and the devil often attacks us by tempting us to despair. I give into that despair from time to time, but I measure victory by my ability to laugh. While some create works of art, others create comedies. Laugh at the chaos and spills! What we survive somedays is funny!
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Servant2theKing wrote:
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Me too . . . I am encouraged and then some!
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I feel that I'm always in survival mode. One thing that has been SO SUCH help is a HS teenage girl that comes to just pick up. It took forever for me to call her but she has helped me immensely. Don't be afraid to get help! Just her little touches and a (relatively) picked up house makes me feel more in control.
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I remember you considering asking this young lady, so pleased you did and it is working out well 
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Sarah wrote:
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Oh, I'm so glad you did this! How are you feeling???? You've been in my prayers!
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