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Oh, Elizabeth my heart breaks for both you and Michael. College search and applications are stressful enough without this added disappointment. I will definitely keep both of you in prayer these next weeks as you work on this. I don't know how it is with soccer, but all my son's friends who did decide they wanted to continue to play baseball had to make the decision to play juco or community college or really tiny schools - with the likelihood of transfer to schools who do recruit for older/more experienced players. It is truly such a small percentage of players that go to the next level - and not always because of talent (as you are finding) but because of how the openings fall.
I also know that the schools with less of a program, maybe don't have much recruiting power or money but there is still the possibility to play. My son's roommate this fall was a walk-on to the soccer team. He did make the team (is redshirting), but will be playing in future. And I'm betting Michael is a considerably better player than this boy. And my cousin's son got a soccer scholarship to a cc - and I know he was not a stellar player in hs. Any possiblity he would consider an option like this, or is it better to just let it go?
Again, know I'll be praying fervently for this.
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I found the college application process stressful and we will be doing it again next year and that is from a public school setting.You have my prayers
One thing I have observed is that many students transfer if the chosen school is not a good fit. Knowing that the decisions made in the last year of high school are not set in stone helped ease my mind.
I do pray that Michael does not loose heart.
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I'm so sorry for this stressful situation. We will be praying for you both.
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MaryM wrote:
| I don't know how it is with soccer, but all my son's friends who did decide they wanted to continue to play baseball had to make the decision to play juco or community college or really tiny schools - with the likelihood of transfer to schools who do recruit for older/more experienced players. It is truly such a small percentage of players that go to the next level - and not always because of talent (as you are finding) but because of how the openings fall. |
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This is the crux of it. He's small and spare. Coaches want someone who can come in and be "big in the back" immediately. He can't. He'll probably grow a bit in college but truthfully, size isn't within his control. He's worked so hard and he's having such a hard time understanding how he coudl work tirelessly and not achieve a goal. It's painful to watch them learn some inevitable truths.
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Our prayers are with you and Michael and all your family right now.
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Oh, Elizabeth...I have 4 boys that are all a little younger than your oldest. I can't imagine...
I offered up all of the intentions of those on this board yesterday at Mass, I will continue to do so. Sometimes Advent seems a little more penitential than Lent... 
Placing Michael and your whole family in the Immaculate Heart of Mary,
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Life can be so rough sometimes. I really feel for your son, Elizabeth and will keep him in my prayers.
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My heart breaks for your son. I can feel the pain in your post. I will pray for him and offer up my day for his struggles these coming weeks and months.
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Praying here in Minnesota....
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Praying, Elizabeth for both you and Michael.
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Elizabeth -
This is so stressful -- not only the immediate disappointment, but the need to *rethink* an approach, especially as the clock ticks down. Maybe he could go to community college for a year or a semester to buy time to get some of the other tasks done (portfolio, SAT 2, etc.). My dd, who applied to a couple of highly competitive colleges, ran into absolutely no trouble as far as having the schools demand all sorts of documentation. They were perfectly satisfied that a person's SAT1 scores basically said that person knew as much/had as much ability as anyone else who had gone to public or private school. If Michael has or gains (by doing something else for a semester) the time, he might try to find which colleges are more open to homeschoolers.
I'm sorry - you asked for prayer, not advice; I just am hoping to encourage you as well. I am praying.
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I'm so sorry about all these disappointments, Elizabeth. I will continue to pray for him (and all of you) and trust that God will soon reveal His wise plan. 
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I totally missed this thread the first go round but I'm praying hard now, Elizabeth.
It is disappointing. We've had our own ups and downs in the past three years and things do seem to work out for the good. Even the bad provides a lot of learning opportunities in life and work. The bad seems to mature them so much quicker, I think.
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I'm sorry this is all happening to your ds, and with so many other things happening as well. I will be praying for you all during this time.
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Elizabeth,
I will pray very hard for you and for Michael today! I remember well how hard it was to discover that I couldn't make my college dreams come true, regardless of my talents and desire and hard work. I have a pretty good idea of how he is feeling right now. (And how you're feeling...nursing a baby with your husband on the road...)
I'm offering up my day for you...and more.
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Sounds like an inevitable truth that I'm glad we can learn together, Elizabeth. This is such a test of faith for such a young man. God must truly have great things planned for him. When we are sane, we know that God is taking care of us and His plan is perfect. It must be so hard to be sane when you are 18 and your perceived world is literally collapsing around you because IT isn't sane.
I know that your ds has many wonderful men in his life. Yet, I offer my dh as a man-to-man support. He, too, was once on his way to a professional sports career (tennis) in his mind and heart. He was "the man." Then came the heart-break and the realization that he had not played by the "academic rules." Eventually the acadmics ironned out and he was on his way to a promising profession as a clinical psychologist. Once again, he was "the man." Then came some ugly business truths (I believe our friendship started right about here ) and more years of suffering....
Just yesterday I went to my dh's new office for the first time. By the most unusual path, my dh has made it to a most wonderful professional place. But the most impressive thing was his humility as he showed me around. He was like a young child, showing us everything with such awe. Somewhere along the line, my dh went from being "the man" and WANTING to be "the man" to being a humble suffering servant. Amazingly, each apparent set-back has actually been a step in God's direction.
Now I know this is all WAY too much for an 18yo. But if there is a man who can empathize...and listen...it is my dh. If he isn't needed in this capacity...he is an awesome prayer warrior now . I'll tell him of Michael's need.
I'm praying for you both and your whole family.
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I am praying Elizabeth and I am sorry that you and Michael are having to go through this pain. God has a plan through it all and though it may be hard to see right now, He will reveal it in His time. Don't lose heart, you are loved and covered in prayer.
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Elizabeth - I just saw this as I have been out of the loop this past week. I will continue prayers that God's will be done and that Micahel finds peace with these things.
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Oh, Elizabeth, I'm so sorry to hear of Michael's heartbreak. Didn't one of the two of you mention here or on your lovely blogs about his struggle between pursuing collegiate soccer and staying close by his siblings? Perhaps God is helping pave the path towards the latter? Regardless, you are all assured of my prayers.
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