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It is with a heavy heart that I write this prayer request.
On Tuesday, at my first prenatal visit, I learned that my baby has died. There were no warning signs. The midwife simply wanted to check my dates via sonogram because I was measuring larger than expected. During the sonogram she told me that she did not see a heartbeat. She sent me to the Maternal/Fetal Center for a more sophisticated sonogram to be sure of her findings. It was confirmed. My baby had died, possibly a week earlier.
I was completely stunned. I became angry for allowing myself to be open to the possibility of losing another child. The thoughts of going through this type of grief all over again was too much for me.
I shared what had happened with several friends and I know they immediately began to pray for me. I told them that I was unable to pray. They seemed to know that, and prayed in my place. For two days I have struggled with feelings that I am ashamed to admit. Elizabeth and Bridget both asked me if they could post a prayer request for me….but, I would have felt like a hypocrit had they done it. I felt like all the prayers that had been offered for me and my new little one, just a week ago, were never heard…all those people praying and yet my baby still died.
Now…I know they were heard. Now…I know that the Lord is holding me in his very hands. Just about an hour ago, something has lifted from my hardened heart. I feel a great peace that only God can give. And…I know it is from the prayers of my family and friends.
The days ahead will be difficult I am sure. I still have no signs of losing the baby. I guess I’ll just have to wait on God’s timing. I am little frightened by miscarriage. I’ve never had one, but do have a history of hemorrhaging and am a little concerned about how this will all happen.
Please pray that I am able to miscarry without needing surgery. And please pray for my family and me as we go through this together.
My friend, Amy, suggested to me that I go to Mass yesterday. I told her that I couldn't. My thoughts had made me too unworthy. She said to me, ”Don’t let the Evil One have a field day with this, Donna.” She is right. I will try my best to trust Him alone.
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Dear Donna,
I am so glad to see your request here. Know that we love you and that we are praying even when you don't have the heart to do so yourself. We grieve with you. Take good care; be gentle with yourself. And know that you are loved.
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Donna, I'm truly heartbroken at your loss. Thanks be to God for the peace in your heart...but I know the struggle is long and I will add more prayers for you.
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Oh, Donna, I am so sorry.  Please take care of yourself especially in this time of sorrow. Our prayers are with you still.
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Donna,
My heartfelt prayers are yours! We are about to pray our family rosary.  We will offer it up for you! 
God Love you!
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Oh Donna -- I know how awful this is....know that I'm praying and sending cyber hugs your way .....
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God bless you, we will pray for you. So sorry to hear this sad news.
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Donna Dear I am so very sorry. I have no wise words of comfort to offer but I am praying for you and grieve with you in this loss.
So very very sorry.
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Oh, Donna ~ I am so, so sorry for your loss and what you are going through. Please know many prayers are being said for you both.
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My whole family has been praying for you and your family, Donna. You will get through this, we'll hold you up.
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Donna, I am so very sorry for your loss. I understand completely your feelings of hurt and vulnerability, and your feeling of anger of being open to hurt again. You are in my prayers....there are no other words to offer.
I'm so, so sorry.
(((Donna)))
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I am so very sorry to hear this . We'll keep you in our Rosary prayers tonight and as we go off to our daily sufferings tomorrow.
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I am sorry, so very, very sorry, Donna.
You have held me and so many up in prayer when we were unable to pray. We grieve with you now and will stay by your side, praying. We love you and your baby and your beautiful family.
Love,
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Donna, I'm really sorry. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
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I am truly sorry!! They are soo hard. I have had three and they hurt soo soo bad. God Bless you Donna. We are all here for you.
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I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing this with us - those of us you don't even know, but feel united with you in the Mystical Body of Christ. Your grieving and suffering body is being held by our prayers.
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Dear Donna,
We will keep you in our prayers.
I will also pray to your little saint to offer prayers, as well.
One day, you will have the privelege of beholding this precious child in Heaven one day - and he and HE will thank you for your generous openness.
God Bless you, sweet lady.
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Donna - I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I have no wisdom to offer - only the assurance of my prayers.
God Bless you and give you peace.
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No words, Donna, only prayers, love, and hugs...
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I am so sorry, Donna. Keep in mind that our suffering is one of the most powerful prayers we can offer, even when we don't have the desire or the words. You are in my prayers.
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