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We lost a baby (Agnes) between the girls, at 4-5wks. I'm just so thankful we found out about that little life! She's an amazing intercessor and I can't wait to meet her one day :)
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Blair in TX, wife of Steven '01
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One m/c in March 1989, Lilyann at 12 weeks. She was baby #3.
I didn't have any cramping until after a lot of bleeding. Then the cramping felt very much like labor, which in fact it was, because at the hospital I was dilated to 3cm and she was partially down the birth canal. 
They did not determine a cause and I have had 5 living children since.
Praying for you, Nina, and all the expectant moms on the board.
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1st miscarriage before my first baby early (3-4 weeks).
2nd miscarrriage was at about 9 weeks (pregnancy number 5) just last year. I miscarried at home and was blessed to hold the baby in my hand.
I miss them and can't wait to meet them in heaven. I ask them to pray for more additions to our family.
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blairb4 wrote:
We lost a baby (Agnes) between the girls, at 4-5wks. I'm just so thankful we found out about that little life! She's an amazing intercessor and I can't wait to meet her one day :)
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I wonder if sometimes that's why babies go to heaven so early- to pray for their moms and family still "in this vale of tears" as we need their intercession!
I lost one baby at 23 weeks. He was born on All Saints Day 2002. Every year since we have celebrated his birthday with balloons, flowers and cake at the cemetery. The children look forward to this and are already looking for pumpkins and things to put on his grave this year. I think for our family, even though I would love to have a busy little 3 year old around the house and miss him every day, having a baby in heaven has also brought blessing and even joy .
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Many miscarriages - anywhere between six and sixteen weeks.
I think you never forget.
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Thanks for the prayers.
I am praying for all of the moms here who have lost children at any age. They are our special intercessors in Heaven.
I like to think of my three lost children at Mass with me. They are the ones always behaving. 
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One at 12 weeks between 2 and 3 . Annie
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2 things I forgot to say:
1) I'm with everyone else when I say that I too was relieved to open this thread and find out it wasn't what it sounded like!
2) I am so blessed to know you all. This thread has brought me tears and smiles -- each good in their way.
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Okay, I am properly chastized.
Thank you to ALL of you BRAVE WOMEN who have been open to life and have suffered these losses....true HEROINES up there with the greatest. You don't have to go to war to do battle. You are the saints of this generation (I am not kidding or being hyperbolic here).
To those who have had baby after baby taken from you, God must love you very much. He knew you would respond the way you did, with Faith, not with bitterness, and you are a LIVING witness to your faith in Him. It would have been so "natural" and understandable for you to say: "No! NO MORE. I can not keep myself open and vulnerable to the attacks, Lord. I can not serve... and I choose to take things out of Your Hands and into my own where I will be safe." But you didn't and don't. Thank you for sharing your stories.
Thank you, also, for praying for me.
Much love.
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Oh no! I wasn't chastizing you! Please don't feel that way -- I was just grateful to see that my fears were unfounded when I opened the thread. Really.
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Jen L. wrote:
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I was. Ok not really but Nina dear you know it's just that we care about you.
All is forgiven...not that there really was anything to forgive anyway!
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Nina,
I've been meaning to PM you, but I want to apologize if my response of your feelings being "normal" sounded flippant. I didn't mean it that way! Please forgive me. My weakest area is expressing myself in writing.
Actually, I was crying reading your post because I understand...sadly so many of us seem to.
I'm sorry if it came across in any other way than understanding.
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I've had 2. I lost one at 8 weeks after my first pregnancy. Then I lost another one very very early on a couple of months after that. I haven't had a miscarriage since then. Its devastating, and I will never get over it. Every time I see that big, almost 3 1/2 yr gap between my first and second, I am reminded of 2 littles. Still, God is good, all the time.
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Lost one baby not through miscarriage actually but through tubal pregnancy, when my oldest was 1 year old. We thought it was a girl and named her Mary Therese.
Then we lost our twins at mid-gestation back in January 1998. They were both boys and we named them Hilaire and Gilbert. This wasn't technically a miscarriage, either -- fetal death and then induction when I hadn't delivered spontaneously after three weeks. Their due date was the day Aidan was born one year later, June 2, 1999. Their demise was accounted for by their being twins, according to what the doctors said, though we chose not to have an autopsy.
I had a very vivid dream after I lost the twins, of my lost daughter cuddling them in her arms in a grassy field covered with flowers. She would have been about ten by then. I could feel the presence of Our Mother and of Our Savior, around them. So beautiful. It was a comfort to me but makes me cry too I miss them so much that I hardly dare think of it more than once in a while.
Don't feel chastised though, Nina, I am sure it does us good to talk about it occasionally to mothers who understand how we feel. I love your question threads and if it's any help I've always worried all the way through all my pregnancies. I can always find some way to blame myself for everything that happens even if objectively it's way out of my control. 
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Reading this thread has been sad for me but also very uplifting - I hadn't thought about my miscarriages in a long time and my husband and I don't really ever talk about them - in fact I haven't ever really talked much about them. Know that I've included all of you in this thread in my Rosary prayers the past couple days.
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Dear Michaela!
Absolutely not---in no way. You have been nothing but loving and kind!
In fact your post was actually very consoling and understanding! You seemed to truly understand the anxieties, irrational as they may be to some... they are truly *normal* in this (often) tumultuous hormonal state for many women; and you reminded me of this, so I didn't feel like such a total  .
You made me feel better!!!  You're an angel for your concern!
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Thank you for understanding my Melancholic self, Willa.
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I lost three babies between #6 and #7(and had bedrest with her due to placenta previa) and one more between #7 and #8(also a p.p. pregnancy).
You never forget.
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Our parish is having a Mass this week for parents who have lost children. I teared up at Mass today when the announcement was read, so I guess that means I need to go.
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No. you don't. We have lost three.
My mom lost her first over 40 years ago. Just recently she named that baby and she said it gave her so much peace. I didn't even know how much it still affected her.
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