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MicheleQ wrote:
Edited to add: Nina you scared the bejeevees out of me when I saw the header and your name! |
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Yeah, me too...
I miscarried our 3rd at 8 weeks (got pregnant successfully the very next cycle) , our 8th at 8 weeks (no pregnancy until 21 months later), and I lost a twin early with this last baby.
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Elizabeth, I know you've been busy  but I just thought you might want to be reminded to change your signature line. 
Whoops sorry to hijack your thread Nina - but then shame on you for scaring us anyway!
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jackiemomof7 wrote:
| Miscarried 2 one at 9 weeks and the other at 11 weeks. |
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Same here -- these were my last two pregnancies (after #5) and altho it's been almost 2 years now, I still am in the midst of that "gosh how I wish I were pregnant" and "oh, my, I don't want to go thru that again".
But then, I just turned 45 so chances are getting slimmer and slimmer that I'll ever carry another to term. Gee, I guess it's up to God, huh 
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Baby #2 (named Morgan) at 7 weeks.
Baby #7 (named Vivien) at 8 weeks.
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 Please don't be mad at me!!!!
I'm sorry everyone! 
It's just disconcerting to have these on-again/off-again cramping attacks. It can get really painful, clutching pain. Sorry, sorry, sorry. I should have had a longer topic header.
ALSO, the main thing is: my children since my miscarriage (so for Andrew, and this one...) ask almost every day: "so is it SAFE yet?" "When will it be SAFE?" and I want to say, "oh, at 12 weeks, we'll pretty much know...".
But instead it is a teachable Faith moment to say the truth: "It will never be 'safe' in that all of us, preborn and born, are at the mercy of God at every moment and He can choose to take us home at and up to ANY TIME. We must be humble and realize our sufficiency is from God and we are totally dependent on Him! But that we are *always* 'safe' because we are in His hands and He loves us and we must trust His will and rest assured that there is a reason for everything painful, even a devastating loss of life." I haven't know exactly what to say, but I say something like that to just "prepare" them.....because I know so many who have endured second trimester losses, as these responses indicate. So sorry, friends.
For those of you who have endured the great cross of late pregnancy losses, did you (or the docs) have any indicating factors of what caused the demise (besides the impenetrable will of God....)?
We are joined and hidden in the heart of the Sorrowful Mother.
Pregnancy is just an anxious and dissettling time (no matter how excited we are, esp. me). Boy, do we need prayers as mothers...!!!
Thank you for the wonderful, beautiful teeniest, tiniest of prayers and to those still praying! Like I've said before, I know they are gonna make the difference in this one... (but I still want to be realistic).
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Two angels in heaven. One at 12 weeks and one at 16 weeks.
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I have miscarried 3 times - two at about 6 weeks and one at 5 weeks.
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First baby (a girl) lost at 6 weeks. My son was conceived shortly thereafter.
Unconfirmed fourth baby lost at 4-5 weeks.
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We lost our 1st at 8 weeks; then the 7th at 10 weeks.
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Between babies 2 and 3 at 5 weeks succesful pregnancy one month later.
Between babies 4 and 5 at 12 weeks and 2 others at 6 weeks. We had a space of almost 7 years between succesful preganancies.
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One at 6 weeks.
Another at 13 weeks, a baby girl.
Then our sweet Joseph, who died at nine days old after a cord accident during labor. Those were my last three pregnancies. I so wanted one more living child.
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I lost my first child, (a 12 week baby--tubal pregnancy that ruptured) and my third child (miscarriage at 8 weeks).
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We lost our 4th at 14 weeks, and our 6th at 9 weeks.
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Nina Murphy wrote:
It's just disconcerting to have these on-again/off-again cramping attacks. It can get really painful, clutching pain. Sorry, sorry, sorry. I should have had a longer topic header.
ALSO, the main thing is: my children since my miscarriage (so for Andrew, and this one...) ask almost every day: "so is it SAFE yet?" "When will it be SAFE?" and I want to say, "oh, at 12 weeks, we'll pretty much know...".
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Your post reminded me of a thread I wrote back in May about my worries of miscarriage ? for those who've miscarried
Every response in that thread helped me to know what we are all feeling is normal.
My children continue to ask will this baby live. My husband still worries about every move I make....just in case. He always asks when will it be safe.
You have my prayers, Nina. 
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Michaela wrote:
My children continue to ask will this baby live. My husband still worries about every move I make....just in case. He always asks when will it be safe.
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I worried about it in a very real, literal way all the way down the birth canal. It just doesn't go away...
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Thank you, you two, for reassuring me that I am "normal". (Well, the jury is out on that.)
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Nina,
We have had three miscarriages. Baby #3 was about 8-9 weeks. Then with Baby #5, we lost a twin, but went on to successfully give birth to our baby boy. Then, this past Feb., we lost Baby #9 at 8 weeks. I'm now 26 weeks along with Baby #10--about whom I worry excessively! Oh, and I just can't forget my first baby, Will, even though he wasn't miscarried. He died due to an undiagnosed heart defect the day after he was born. He is our family's special patron! 
Many prayers and hugs for you!
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Mary Ann and Jennifer, and everyone who has shared their losses , and everyone else who has lost a child who hasn't posted, I just wanted to let you know that I am going to pray a special Rosary for you all, tonight. Your strength encourages me.
God Bless,
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Stacy - thank you.
We have had 6 miscarriages - Our first child at about 8 weeks but not confirmed until much later. I was in denial of the loss for a while so dating the exact point of loss is hard.
The second at 12 weeks - passed an empty sac so we suspect the baby actually died sooner.
The others were between or after pregnancies and somewhere between 4 - 8 weeks.
We suspect others but no others were confirmed.
All of mine were bleeding first, followed by varying degrees of cramping and overwhelming tiredness - couldn't lift my head off the pillow. But I also had bleeding and huge clots with my 2nd dd. No reason was ever determined for any misscarriages but we never chose to have any tests run as they rarely find anything and only twice did I have any remains - this lack of remains was a real cross for me. It was hard not to dream up causes - I blamed eating habits (mine were always exemplary during pregnancy so this is not a real reason), a long walk I took, lack of rest (did the best I could), etc. In the end, it really is a mystery that I may never know and I must leave it in God's hands trusting that He is caring for these children we never had a chance to hold or baptize. We continue to hope for another.
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First off, I'm thankful that the topic heading doesn't mean what I thought it meant.
I had one miscarriage, then my first son was born very uneventfully. We expected many more children coming down the pike without real difficulty.
Then we had 3 miscarriages, the last of which was at 10 or 11 weeks and was the most devastating because I was so much farther along. We were really beginning to despair that we would never have any more children. We finally began to understand that we were at God's mercy, and our willingness to be open to life and His will for our family did NOT mean that He would bless us with the many children we had always dreamed about.
Our dr. couldn't really figure anything definitive out, although he did prescribe progesterone during the first trimester. We moved across state, and became pregant almost immediately. Had a fairly uneventful pregnancy, with progesterone, with #2 born in 2001; and then became pregnant again with #3 born in 2003 (with progesterone). We're now 14 weeks along with pregnancy #8. I'm done with progesterone, and praying that the rest of the pregnancy progresses smoothly.
As Elizabeth said, it's a real, literal worry up till the very end.
This response ended up much longer than I had planned
There are many heartfelt prayers going out for each of you tonight, particularly MaryAnn and Jennifer.
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