Oh, Dearest Mother, Sweetest Virgin of Altagracia, our Patroness. You are our Advocate and to you we recommend our needs. You are our Teacher and like disciples we come to learn from the example of your holy life. You are our Mother, and like children, we come to offer you all of the love of our hearts. Receive, dearest Mother, our offerings and listen attentively to our supplications. Amen.



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Posted: Feb 15 2013 at 5:02pm | IP Logged Quote SeaStar
Oh, dear! So much is on your plate right now.
I am so happy to hear you sent that letter- good for you!

And I will ask St. Joseph to take you husband in hand.


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Praying for you, for dh, and for all your intentions.

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This may be a bold statement but...

It sounds like you are at a crossroad in your life. It sounds like up to this point something about your behaviors encouraged others to believe that they can do what that like toward you (be unkind, disrespectful, etc.) and you would accept it.

Now it sounds like you don't want to accept such behaviors anymore. For your sake and the sake of your children.

This is HUGE! You are trying to change a dance that you all have been dancing for a long time. While you have been a victim of their behaviors in the past, take responsibility for accepting it. Yes, they were wrong to bully but from now on you no longer want to be a victim. Offer a prayer to God, be sorry for your role in this (however big or small), and offer it up to HIS DIVINE MERCY! DONE! Start fresh and commit to a new way, starting now.

You CANNOT do this without support. No one can! There will be too many pressures of "the dance" to make it through without heroic effort. You will be tempted to fluctuate between the old victim dance and outrage. Neither is right. When you change the dance, there will be push back. Please reach out to as many helpers as you can muster to help you to stay firm, clear, and grow in skills of being responsible via your many roles. If alcohol abuse is anywhere on the table, check out 12 step groups. They are free and specialize in helping adults to set healthy boundaries in their relationships.

I have risked saying too much in the hopes that you will claim today and your future with great hope! You are a beautiful creation of God! You are a treasure to be treated as such!

Rooting for you! You can do this! Make it happen! With God's grace and in His perfect timing

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Posted: Feb 16 2013 at 11:30am | IP Logged Quote SeaStar
What a great article, Angie. Thanks for posting it!

I loved the line about not worrying about offending people when you set your boundaries- how no one ever died from being offended.

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