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Praying. 
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Mama to DS (11), DD(9), twin dds(7), DD (5), DS (4), DS (3), and 5 angels in heaven.
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Fuzzy,
Prayers for you. I had a hard time emotionally with these past two pregnancies. I felt VERY depressed, cried for no reason with tears just streaming down my face which had NEVER happened with any of the other kids. In fact, with all the other pregnancies, I would usually be extremely euphoric and just bubbling over with feelings of love and joy! With this last birth, I would have days upon days that I could NOT sleep. I went 5 straight days without ANY sleep and I was very scared and freaked out from the experience! My adenaline was just out of control and it is definately hormone related I assume. I don't know how old you are, but if you are in or near the 40's, that is probably why, but even if you are younger it is probably due to hormones, lack of sleep, a high needs baby, and certainly, more than ANY OTHER TIME IN YOUR LIFE you need to ask for help. Is there a relative that can come over and hold the baby while you take a nap? I know, I know, no one can watch the baby but you; you cannot rest if the baby is crying, you don't want to "bother" anyone. Believe me, I KNOW all of those excuses because I too used them, but you have got to take care of the caretaker and get some rest. You can't take care of anyone broken so put on your own oxygen mask and then take care of the kids. It won't hurt the baby to have a bottle with husband or a relative a few times if you are nursing. Maybe they could even take the baby for a stroll if he/she is prone to screaming without you, so you don' have to feel guilty hearing it! My current baby is a REAL screamer and it is very stressful as much as I love to hold him and cuddle him! I do have 9 other children and it has been a very difficult time for me this season of life, so I can understand.
Somedays, when I feel myself start to hypervenilate a bit, I go outside and stand on the porch and soak up NATURE. It feels so good to just look at all the green out there, listen to the silence, breathe in some fresh air and get a few minutes of "perspective" on it all. Please try this as it really, really has helped me! Limit your sugar and caffeine too. This is just going to worsen your problems, and DO take vitamins as someone suggested, esp. the B vitamins. Also, try to put aside all of the stresses you may be "creating" as opposed to the stresses that are actually "real". I tend to put a lot of stress on myself that is self-made. When I really stop to think about it, no one really cares what I do or accomplish each day the way that I CARE what I do or accomplish each day. Don't get me wrong, what we do matters and is important, but if you just had a good time with your baby, took a nap with the littles, and made sure everyone was fed and safe, you have done GREAT THINGS that day!!! The year I had twins for some stupid reason I decided that THAT was the best year to enroll not one, not two, but ALL of my kids in Seton??????? What was I thinking? In retrospect, I would have just schooled my oldest, and then called it a day. The others could have just read good books and done some math and we would have accomplished as much and I would have more fond memories of my twins. You get the point. Lessen what you are trying to accomplish. You and baby and the family are priority one! Nothing else!!! :>)
Also, have you tried back-packing the little one around? They are happy close to you, but at least you can get up and around and feel free to do something sometimes. I have had to sit, and sit and sit some more with this little fella, and again, I love him more than anything, but I DO get a little stressed sitting as the house and home and family are all screaming for attention too. So, he is just as happy as can be in a carrier and I do housework etc. that way. Also, exercise can do wonders. I don't do enough of this myself, but it DOES make me feel better when I do.
Again, sleep is essential for sanity! And, stop feeling guilty about things since that adds to stress too. Ask for help! Already said it, but can't stress that enough. The good news for you is PEOPLE LOVE BABIES and you will easily find someone who will want to help you! Not as easy of a sell the teen-ager or husband as far as getting someone to help with them. HAHA!! It will get better. I read somewhere that 3 weeks, 3 months and 6 months or something like that are all growth spurts and the baby gets fussy and you are probably getting more worn out.
Sorry for the long post but I felt badly for you since you sound like a very good mom who is just very, very tired. Also, I can't say enough about St. Joseph! I had trouble with this baby nursing, pumped morning, noon and nights for 2 months, all the whole saying a novena during the pregnancy due to high risk problems and afterwards due to my grief at not being able to nurse, again, and that all turned around and the baby is nursing just fine. The "high risk" complications were not a problem at all, and I even got my wish that the baby would come early so I would not have to get a c-section. THIS HAPPENED!!!! So, "Go to Joseph". He will not fail you in his intercession. I will say a prayer for you through his intercession.
God bless you and yours!
Kim
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Praying for you, Fuzzy.
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Nancy
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praying for you, Fuzzy!!!
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Sending prayers! I discovered after my last baby that a lot of my weariness, depression, and feelings of desperation were problems related to yeast overgrowth. I cut way back on grains and sugar and dairy, started taking probiotics in addition to my raw fermented cod liver oil and fish oil, and I started feeling A LOT better. I actually started the diet for reasons other than depression, but I could not believe the difference it made. If I ate grains, the depression would return even though my life was still exactly the same.
Anyway, just throwing that out there. It's so tough to feel like you're drowning all the time. You just want to dig a hole and tell everyone to go away until you catch your breath.
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