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You all have been so very helpful to us. Thank you for praying. Kaleigh is slowly coming back out of her shell.
John and I did notify the diocese the very next day from Kaleigh telling us what happened. It still makes me sick to my stomach. We saw the head priest at the church this past week and he assured us the boy has been removed from the altar indefinitely. When I asked if the Youth Pastor needed to be notified, his eyes got large and he said firmly, "Oh no. he will not participate in youth groups right now." We also found out this boy received special services/ed in school. This could mean a whole umbrella of services, not just educational. I didn't press. I then thought perhaps the counselor there in the High School needed to know he was capable of this. His parents are out of the question. I've met his mother and she showed no emotion, even to a friendly hello. The priest said he would only correspond to the grandfather ( the Deacon who taught the Altar server class)
I talked with my son, who took the training and saw this boy at each of the three evening classes, I asked him if he noticed anything or if the boy said anything to him. He told me the boy asked him," when your mom and sister come to get you, could I show your sister something in the church?" Brett answered with, "I can't answer that, you'll have to ask my mom."
I can't tell you how comforting it has been to come here and read your postings, especially with John gone. You have been part of my family now going through pain with Matthew, and now with Kaleigh. Thank you all so much.
The Deacon from Nashville, who was the immediate POC from our initial email gave me the number and name for Child protective services. I really feel a bit hesitant to draw such attention to us, does that sound crazy? ( being that dad is deployed, we live out here in this house alone.. etc.. )
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Dear Emily,
Just seeing this and praying. I will be praying for you and your daughter throughout the week while offering rosaries. I am heartbroken for you all. But time does heal all wounds. I am teary eyed thinking of your precious daughter but I am also moved at all these ladies at this forum... at their prayers and advice.
May the Lord bless and keep you and your daughter, may His face shine upon you, may He look upon you with kindness and be gracious to you.
Also, praying special prayers of protection such at the St. Michael for you and your family while your husband is away...
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I have been praying and am so glad to hear that Kayleigh is feeling at least a little better.
It's so  that this terrible thing happened. I ma praying also that this boy can find help.
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Emily, if I were in your shoes I would want very much to consult with my husband before involving CPS, even if I had to wait weeks to get his feedback.
It sounds as though this young man has various issues (that none of us know about, specifically) and so I think, were I you, I would want to be very sure that a call to CPS was in his interests AND your dd's. What if there are cognitive issues? Would CPS be understanding? I can't speak for you or your dh, of course, but I would want my husband to be part of a decision that could drag your family into court and also affect this young man forever - and I would probably want to talk with his grandfather first. It sounds as though you're not the only one in the parish to sense difficulties in this young man's life, some of which might well be beyond his control.
Time is on your side...you don't have to do anything instantly. My advice would be to put your dd first, and do what is in her best interests, and find a way to involve your dh in this decision-making process.
Still praying...
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Dear Emily, saying a Novena for you all!
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