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kristinannie wrote:
Kathryn, sorry this all turned into a theological discussion when all you wanted was some practical advice!!!  |
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Oh, that's ok. I really don't mind the theological discussion. I think I was looking for that as well...for me as well as the practical aspect for her. I've had these discussions in my own head for almost 4 yrs now and have often thought I need to seek someone with far greater wisdom. In the beginning I was soooo very angry but luckily I don't feel that way anymore. I do still have lots of questions and ponderings on it though.
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Kathryn, you are in good company! Always remember that the Blessed Mother pondered things "in her heart," and waited for God's plan to become clear. (And, at least at one memorable wedding, took charge...)
I often look to Our Lady for inspiration when things get stressful. She endured so very much because of her "Yes!" to God...childbirth away from home in bad conditions, homelessness, fleeing her homeland, losing her son in a crowd...the list is so very long. The swords of sorrow she endured inspire me now...no matter what I'm facing, she has been there, too.
We don't know what Mary would have said to a toddler son, asking why they were so far from home and family, why they were refugees, why there was sorrow. Why do things happen the way they do? God doesn't tell us. We do know that the Holy Family is our role model and our family...and I hope that you derive as much comfort as I do from those thoughts.
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Oh yes asking the child more to find out exactly what they want to know is very good.. and don't just ask what they want to know.. but ask the child what they think the answer is. Sometimes they've actually worked out an answer they're happy with and our answer only confuses them.
"Well, why do you think.." rephrase the questions they asked.. and just see what they've come up with.
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I had to come back and revisit this because my daughter (now 4) has been making more and more comments about her leg for the past 4-6 weeks. She keeps saying "I hate my leg"; "I want this out of there"; "It looks like a dog bone". First, I remind her not to use the word hate. Then I try and keep things somewhat light-hearted and say "well, you better not let a dog get after you." (It does get a smile). Then there's the "in all things, give thanks" or sometimes simply "I know". I remind her that even though the bone is malformed, she CAN do so much (walk, run, jump, hop, skip).
She has to accept that this is the way it is and I know that may be a very long process. Sometimes I think I try to come up with too many different ways to say the same thing and I've gotten to where I just say the same thing every time depending on what remark I get and what mood she seems to be in. Any other ideas?
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Topic: 3 yr old: "Why did God make me this way?"
