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Thought everyone who hasn't already seen this might enjoy it:
I'm Fine
by Cardinal Cushing
There's nothing whatever the matter with me,
I'm just as healthy as I can be.
I have arthritis in both my knees,
And when I talk, I talk with a wheeze.
My pulse is weak, and my blood is thin,
But I'm awfully well, for the shape I'm in
I think my liver is out of whack,
And a terrible pain is in my back.
My hearing is poor, my sight is dim,
Most everything seems to be out of trim -
But - I'm awfully well for the shape I'm in.
I have arch supports for both my feet,
Or I wouldn't be able to go on the street.
Sleeplessness I have, night after night,
And in the morning I'm just a sight!
My memory is failing, my head's in a spin -
I'm peacefully living on aspirin.....
But - I'm awfully well for the shape I'm in.
The moral is, as this tale we unfold,
That for you and me who are growing old
It's better to say, "I'm fine", with a grin
Then to let them know the shape we're in.
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Bridget wrote:
I don't know. The main thing that bothers me is the decline in fertility. More like a drop off a cliff than a decline.  |
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Bridget wrote:
I don't know. The main thing that bothers me is the decline in fertility. More like a drop off a cliff than a decline. I'm 46.
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That drop off the cliff happened to me after my 35th birthday. It's been the hardest thing for me to deal with in terms of getting older.
I hit 40 this year.
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LLMom wrote:
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That's what we need to STOP doing! I am the same way ... thinking of what I used to be like and sad that I'm not that way any longer. I used to teach Jazzercise, and now I'm happy to walk a mile on the treadmill and not hurt!
I'll be hitting 47 this month and have noticed a lot of gray hairs coming in. They didn't bother me too much until the little "short" ones pop out at my bangs' line! They don't even lay flat ... they're somewhat curly in my straight, fine hair. I've been cutting them down, but then the little stubs pop out instead. A hairdresser told me once that it is better to highlight than to try to cut them regularly. (Of course, she probably wanted my business.  ) SOOO, I have been adding some "streaks" to my hair since last year. (My husband likes it that way ... reminds him of when I was YOUNGER and used to use the "Sun In" stuff of the 80's!  )
The biggest drag of getting older is the ending of the cycles. It's never regular any more. I've been counseled by the OB/GYN dr., who was telling me about all these Hormone Replacement Therapy options. No, thanks, is what I said at this point. I don't like the idea of side effects ... or taking "horse urine" (as I'm told HRT is  ). My mother-in-law told me that HER mother-in-law told her to "just fight it," meaning ... no drugs. Let nature do its thing. SO, at this point, that's my plan. 
What have those of you who have started this "time of life" done about HRT? Is there anything besides drugs that you have heard about? (I don't have any serious problems with it yet, other than some mood swings; and thankfully, through the grace of God, they are manageable!  )
My son asked me the other day if our bodies will be the same "age" in heaven at the end of time that they were when they died. I told him that THAT was a good question. I was thinking about my OLD body in heaven, glorified. That is something to keep in mind as we get these "sad" feelings of aging.
It's nice to "chat" with others who are sharing the same feelings. God bless us and our bodies!
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stefoodie wrote:
I'm quite at peace with where I am.
It especially helps when hubby is 6 years older and also showing his age a bit I love the *growing old together* part of it. I met him when I was 19 and I love how our faces and bodies have changed through the years ... and we're still here.
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That's awesome, Stef! 
My hubby and I have been together since we were 19, too, and we joke around about getting old together all the time. (We compare ourselves -- in fun --- to Marie and Frank from "Everybody Loves Raymond!" We don't speak to each other that way, though! )
Finding a way to deal with the changes in a positive way is what helps me not worry about it TOO much!
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I, too, struggle with aging. I think we all do and is normal. But for me, like many others, I don't want to color my hair and there just isn't anything you can do about the wrinkles already there. I've decided to turn my focus not on how old I am getting, but taking care of what I have. I have bought several pamper products like a hair mask to make my hair silky and shiny, facial masks and lotions to help my face look as fresh as possible, and eating and exercising. I think it is all a mind set. Think happy thoughts,have joy in your heart, and don't forget how that smile on your face just makes everything look better!
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oh dear, looks like I posted on the wrong topic. SOOOORRRYY! 
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D. Marie wrote:
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Looks like a response to the right topic to me...
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LOL! I obviously didn't drink my coffee this morning before posting!
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Great topic (from a chronic lurker)!
I'm 46, and my cycles stopped at 44, so I've had some time to adjust to the reality of no more babies until I have grandchildren, but it was *hard* for a long time. Certainly it's been the hardest thing, being the biggest paradigm shift: life had been so much about children and the possibility of children and being the young mom with the little kids, even when I wasn't such a young mom with little kids. Now I start to think, and not with dread, about things I might do after my last child is out of the house, even though that won't be for another 11 years. I'm not ready yet -- but I can start to imagine being happily occupied with something besides homeschooling, God willing that I haven't totally physically fallen apart!
I've opted to do menopause the natural way, too. It hasn't been so bad -- uncomfortable at times (I still get fairly intense hot flashes), but certainly bearable.
My brother, at 43, is totally gray, and not too long ago my mother asked me whether I colored my hair. I don't, and I'm finally getting more gray hairs, which I don't intend to color. A friend of mine, who's younger than I am but already totally gray, went silver last year after years of coloring her hair dark, and she looks striking and gorgeous -- I'm not quite that striking, but I'm taking her for an inspiration.
Otherwise, like D. Marie, I'm trying to make more of an effort to take care of what I have. For years I got by on just being young and natural; now I'm still pretty natural, but being not so young, I'm taking the time to do things like pluck my eyebrows so that my face looks more groomed, take better care of my skin, dress more neatly, etc. Figuring out what my middle-aged self is supposed to look and be like is a process, but like the rest of life, it's kind of interesting.
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I'm with Bridget too I still ovulate and have monthly cycles but have not concived for over 6 yrs now and we use no NFP anymore ever . I long to have more .Our home is so absolutely quiet 9 except for Indigo stomping )
I love love aging as long as I remain somewhat healthy ! I am a granny now going on 5 yrs !! I love it . He is an absolute joy ! I love my grey hair but I did henna it this winter just for fun .It is or was rather , jet black .
I think it is absolutely ok for us to dye our hair , try new outfits , take a new class or two. It is a new part in our never ending life You are still remaining you , right
think about it . when we were 25 we were not the same person when we were 17yo and when we became 40 we were no longer the 25yo we once were .I mean in regards to styles etc.
Now there is a big big difference between evolving and trying to stay young !
I as you know live surrounded by secular community & family , many people also who have not dealt with issues such as addictions , abuse etc.
So I also see people my age (nearing 50 ) going out drinking with thier adult children getting drunk , getting tattoos and piercings , dying thier hair etc. It is like they are trying to fit in and be cool and remain 21 yo forever .
I see it being a difference anyway .
You know what did throw me way off ! was gaining wieght ! I gained 20lbs in 3 yrs ! I wieghed as much as I did when I was full term pregnant with my first child now I did like gaining a bit of wieght as I always was to thin and could not gain .I think my metabolism changed and I also do know I am just far less active because as soon as I began running I lost 10 lbs ! Of course not having little ones keeping me on my toes I tend to sit a lot more and as a granny I like that
Also I found as my gramma aged she eventually began to loose wieght again aging is forever a change . I love it
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I don't know how I missed this thread. This is exactly what I needed to see today- hey, I'm not alone! I know I need to exercise more, and this is giving me some motivation. I just don't know how to work in the time... has anyone else found that their personal time management gets so much harder as the children get older? There is so much more to work around than when they were babies. It's a constant struggle for me these days.
And speaking of babies, I'm struggling with the loss of that possibility, too, as I get older, even though I know God's plans are much better than mine.
Thanks for sharing these thoughts, everyone-
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