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Dear Amy, What a difficult situation. I don't know if this helps, but we were in a very similar situation before my mother passed away. Her reasons for needing to move in with us were health-related, rather than financial, but it would have entailed a dramatic change in our family life. Her health took a turn for the worse and we were going to bring her to our home on an emergent basis (before we were able to prepare her own living space in our basement) but she passed away the very day we would have brought her to our home. While I was deeply grieved over her passing, and still am, I realized that God had mercifully taken matters out of our hands, and hers, sparing our family from circumstances that would have drastically altered our family life and homeschooling.
I'm sharing this with you with the hope and prayer that someone else's experience might help you and your dh examine some of the deeper aspects of bringing two households together. You've mentioned in an earlier post how your parents' lifestyle and priorities have been quite different from your own. How would that impact your family if they moved in with you? Would their money-spending habits or TV choices be a problem for your family, especially your children? Based on what you've already shared, and on other wisdom shared by the dear ladies here, perhaps you and your family are being called to help your parents more through spiritual and corporal works of mercy such praying for them, visiting them or running errands for them. Perhaps rescuing them from the consequences of their own poor choices with money would be enabling them and only put your own family at risk. Praying for wisdom and discernment for you and your dh to truly know and follow God's perfect and holy Will.
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I'm praying for you, Amy, and am confident that God will bless you for your desire to do right. Here's a topic that might help you while you discern, Honoring Father and Mother.
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Just selfishly bumping this up, because while I thought things were getting better because my dad found some work, things have actually hit bottom and we either need to help in a big way or walk away. Please pray for more discernment for dh and I, and that this doesn't hurt our relationship? THANK YOU ALL.
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Still praying for God's grace, wisdom and guidance for you and your dh. Such situations are always challenging. May our Lord hold you close to His Sacred Heart.
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Praying, Amy......
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Praying for you Amy.
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Oh, Amy--absolutely praying here. 
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You are in my prayers, Amy.
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You know I'm praying, Amy .
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Thank you everyone! I talked to my father last night, boy was that ugly!  Basically he doesn't WANT our help if it comes with strings like us wanting him to do it a certain way - like not living better than us  . I'm not surprised.
Looking for a big pile of sand to hide my head in. Anyone want to join me at the beach? 
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Amy! I've been praying for ALL of your intentions!
Everyone needs a trip to the beach every now and then to rejuvenate! Sending my digital waiter over with a lemonade spritzer for you, and here's a nice ocean breeze...to whisk your thoughts away to happy places for a few moments! These are tough waters to navigate! No pun intended!
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