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Who pays for this? Does it matter? Protocol?
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I think the bride chooses the cake. I surprised my dh with a cake that looked like a fishing boat. He loved it. My sister just married in Nov, surprised her dh with one that looked like a humidor with real cigars on the top.. I guess I didn't answer your question.
I only recall the groom being responsible for the tux, rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon.
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Traditionally, it's from the bride.
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Was it someone here who made a groom's cake like a giant Twinkie? 
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This is something I've not heard of so, in googling to see what you all are talking about, I see it is a tradition of the South primarily. Very interesting...
Cay, I'm now wondering why you are asking this question...hmmmm...
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I have no clue.
At my wedding, it was a lemon seseame seed bundt cake.
It mattered bc my dh is type 1 diabetic and this cake was sans fronsting, icing, and high sugar. His aunt L made him his favorite cake. We placed a slice of it behind the wedding cake and no one really noticed that I got wedding cake and he got lemon cake when we fed each other.
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When I was married ten years ago, my family paid for it. We used it as a yummy alternative (chocolate with chocolate icing) to the wedding cake (white cake with white icing). My dh doesn't really like cake either way.
Every time I think about groom's cake, though, I think about the "bloody armadillo" cake from Steel Magnolias.
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MaryM wrote:
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That was my first thought, too!
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I had no idea that this was just a Southern thing! I wonder how the tradition got started?
I was married 13.5 years ago and my family paid for our groom's cake. I chose it to be a surprise for my husband who didn't get to see it until the reception.
I guess I was under the impression that it was supposed to be something fun for the groom and a dessert alternative to the wedding cake. Our wedding cake was white with raspberry filling (I think) and the groom's cake was chocolate, chocolate, chocolate!!!
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One of the options presented to me was a 3D cake shaped like a computer (since my Husband was a computer guy) but it had grey frosting and reminded me way too much of the "bloody armadillo"!!!
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Well, we had a small wedding, but it still would have been nice to have a groom's cake (I was born, raised, and married in the Atlanta area).
ANd yes, the bloody armadillo is what came to my mind (although, so did several bits of Ace of Cakes)
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Matilda wrote:
I was married 13.5 years ago and my family paid for our groom's cake. I chose it to be a surprise for my husband who didn't get to see it until the reception.
I guess I was under the impression that it was supposed to be something fun for the groom and a dessert alternative to the wedding cake. Our wedding cake was white with raspberry filling (I think) and the groom's cake was chocolate, chocolate, chocolate!!! |
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This is similar to us. I made my husband's cake -- in the shape of a football, kahlua cake with chocolate frosting. Chocolate, chocolate, chocolate. But it was a surprise for him.
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kingvozzo wrote:
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That was my first thought, too! |
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Mine too
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and I don't even know what you're talking about...
What IS a groom's cake? And, yes, Cay, why are you asking? Just idle curiosity?
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hylabrook1 wrote:
and I don't even know what you're talking about...
What IS a groom's cake? |
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What is a Groom's Cake
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Traditional (I mean in the old days back when my parents got married ) Southern receptions were basically cake and punch, and maybe some finger sandwiches. Sit down receptions with dinners is more of an East Coast/New York tradition.
So, maing a special extra cake masculine style for the groom made sense since the cake was truly the centerpiece of the reception.
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I am still just flabbergasted by this whole "it's just a Southern thing". My husband is just now telling me that he had never heard of such a thing as a "Groom's Cake" until our wedding!
Anyway, I found this which seems to make a lot of sense:
In the past, the groom's cake was actually called the wedding cake, and what we now think of as the wedding cake was referred to as the bride's cake. Over time, the terminology was reversed, but superstition surrounding the groom's cake was not lost. According to an old myth, if a single woman sleeps with a piece of the groom's cake under her pillow, she will dream of the man that she will marry.
The first groom's cakes were reserved for guests to take home as a memento of the wedding. For this reason, they were usually made of dark, heavy fruitcake since it is durable and keeps for a long period of time. Contemporary groom's cakes, however, are not bound by old traditions. In fact, the groom's cake is a perfect opportunity to express creativity. Many grooms like to have the cake decorated or shaped into something that reflects one of their hobbies, or something the couple enjoys doing together.
If it was considered a wedding favor then it would have had to be something like a fruitcake or an alcohol soaked cake that could have lasted a lot longer than the light and fluffy wedding cake.
I would love to know if any of our ladies across the pond or down under have ever heard of this tradition! Thanks Cay for bringing it up and yes, I too am wondering why? 
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JennGM wrote:
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Wow! I think making the groom's cake yourself would be a beautiful act of love for him. I might suggest that to my girls when the time comes! And I would love to know how you made a cake in the shape of a football!
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Matilda wrote:
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| I made my husband's cake -- in the shape of a football, kahlua cake with chocolate frosting. Chocolate, chocolate, chocolate. But it was a surprise for him. |
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Wow! I think making the groom's cake yourself would be a beautiful act of love for him. I might suggest that to my girls when the time comes! And I would love to know how you made a cake in the shape of a football! |
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He was wowed by it. I don't have pictures in digital form, or I'd share them. The key was the cake, Kahlua Cake recipe, a favorite especially among the men.
Then I made two layer cakes, then used a Wilton football cake pan on top. So not exactly a football. Just making the football cake wouldn't be enough to share, so that's the reason for the extra layers.
I usually don't frost this recipe, but did for this occasion. I see by the link above there are also football helmets...but I would have had a hard time picking Steelers or PSU for dh.
He's from PA, never had groom's cake but definitely appreciated the tradition!
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I don't have a digital picture of mine either but since we had a good sized wedding, I also had to pick something that could be shared. My husband moved around a lot as a kid; not military, just gypsies, we like to joke! He had lived in 27 different cities before we got married so we found a lady who could make a cake that was a map of the continental US and I made flags for each place he lived. We also had a little baby figurine in Illinois, where he was born, and a heart with a cute little bride and groom figure for Texas. I think I liked the Groom's Cake better than the wedding cake!
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I think Cay's daughter got engaged. Nothing that I've formally read but just things I've inferred from her facebook status updates and stuff.
My husband had a groom's cake (in Boston). It was a cheesecake as it was his favorite. The reception people forgot to put it out. He had a big cheesecake to finish off later. He was not upset.
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